i was going to break up with my darling bf but he kinda talked me out of it ..i just wana know any tips on how to make a relationship work in the military as in at basic, school
2007-07-08 12:40:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
i think alot of it depends on your relationship that you had before he joined. my husband and i were together for 5 years before he left. we wrote lots of letters. once he was done his basic training and school-we got married. been married for 15 years now and still going strong. we have a very good relationship. you have to be willing to give and take in order to be a military wife or girlfriend. they are gone alot. good luck.
2007-07-09 10:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by irish girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be letting your boyfriend talk you into staying in a relationship that you don't want! I know it's hard to break up with him because you don't want to hurt his feelings! He is pressuring you and that is not fair! After you get into the military, and you regret agreeing not to break up, simply write him a letter in which you explain why you have decided it is best to end the relationship. You are starting a new life where you don't need to be tied to a boyfriend. You need to be and feel free to be yourself and make all your choices and decisions based on what is good for you, not for what is best for him! The fact that you say he talked you out of breaking up, I am led to believe that you are feeling sorry for him. Don't! This is YOUR life! You are only young once! Do what you want to do in your heart and quit letting him have so much control over you! Go with what your heart wants, not what he wants!
2007-07-08 20:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear the marraige vows, "Good or bad," "Better or worse" etc.
Welcome to the "worse".
This will test how comiitted you are to each other.
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You will hear very little from him while in basic. He'll be on the go from before dawn to after dusk and then some. He'll simply be too busy or too tired to write. You will have to accept this. This is the way it is.
Good luck
2007-07-08 20:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by TedEx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow one is right.
I had met my now hubby 3 months before he left for basic. Letters and phone calls - seeing him graduate...etc kept us together.
We've been married over 10 yrs now...so it can be done.
2007-07-08 19:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship takes work and committment and those values have to be shared by both.
2007-07-08 19:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Phone calls, letters, e-mails keep in contact if you want to make it work. Thanks for serving.
2007-07-08 19:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by wow one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋