I asked him once when we first started dating about 4 months ago. It was Easter and he said no because he thought it was a little early for that and he would feel like wrong for going only on Easter. I understand that but I really want him to go to church with me. I've hinted a little bit lately but he isn't getting it. How do I get him to go to church with me??
2007-07-08 12:26:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Don't bother dropping hints. Be adult about it. Simply ask him point blanke -- come to church with me. If he refuses, ask him why he won't come. I'd be concerned in a way to know why a guy that I was dating for a while wouldn't get up the nerve to attend church with me. There must be a reason behind it. Ask him if he thinks going to church is important. Ask about his faith. Perhaps he needs a little help becoming stronger in God.
2007-07-08 12:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to read Deborah Tannen's "You Just Don't Understand." The kind of hinting that women typically do is totally ineffective because men quite literally don't get it--they aren't ignoring it, it just never reaches them.
So stop hinting. ASK!
So far as I know, it's not even the Eastertime, let alone Easter, for any Christian faith this month, so that can't be an excuse. And if he still thinks it's too "early," you can ask him when he wants you to bring it up again. And if he doesn't want to, presumably he's known you long enough to say so.
2007-07-08 20:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, myabe you ned to start him with "baby steps." I would start talking about religious stuff with him (not in a "have to believe him" kind of way) but just let it "pop up' in a conversation. most people are scared to go to Church actually so be gentle. You are going to have to be patient, but after the waiting is over he'll start going. After you talk about it to generalize it with him maybe if you have a youth group you should invite him along. Church is a little bit deep for a beginning believer. When you get him to go to youth group with you then you can start asking him if he'd like to get some coffee with you and go to Church on an ordinary Sunday.
When you ask him try to make it sound exciting like ,' Will you go with me to my Church? It will be so much better with you! To have someone there with me (if you're a lone when you go)! i don't mean to pressure you i just want the best for you and so does God." Just interest him and even get him thinking about it is a huge step. Good luck!
2007-07-08 19:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by pup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just say I'm going to church Sunday. If he says he wants to go with you, then he is interested. If he doesn't say anything or makes an excuse for not going, he is not interested. After all, you have already offered to take him to church with you. Then you have to decide if you will be happy in a relationship if he doesn't attend your church or if it is time to move on. Maybe he really felt it was too soon or maybe he wasn't interested and was just being polite. Good luck either way.
2007-07-08 19:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Pangloss (Ancora Imparo) AFA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not date anyone who would not attend church with me.
If I asked someone out for Friday night and if I didn't already know her from church, I would have invited her to church at the same time.
With the understanding that attending church was part of the deal.
Usually when I was in college, when I met someone new, the place I'd ask her to go with me was to church or a campus Christian event of some sort.
Pastor Art
2007-07-08 19:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he does not go to church with you while dating, then don't expect him to after marriage. People do not change at the request of wives or girlfriends. Way too many bad marriages are simply because the woman did not like things while dating, but thought she could change him after marriage. WRONG!
BB
2007-07-08 19:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY? Why would it make ANY difference if he goes or not? Are you still going to love the person he is if he says he doesn't want to go?
It shouldn't make a difference, and if it does, and you leave him, or look at him differently, I'm sure you'll be forgiven. Maybe not this life but you will. You'll find peace.
2007-07-08 19:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by deleriumbliss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is hinting that he doesn't want to go to church and you are not really getting it. What's wrong with him just the way he is, ie sans church?
2007-07-08 19:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by uz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God killed every human except the 2 that made it aboard the Noah's ark. Why would you ask someone to praise someone so mean and cruel. Drowning is one of the worst ways to die. How dare you ask your boyfriend to follow such a sadistic ruler!
2007-07-08 19:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he IS getting it and hoping YOU will "get it" - as in religion/god is all a myth and churches are controlling institutions.
My ex-GF took me three times hoping to convert me - then stopped because she had no answers for my questions.
2007-07-08 19:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by Brent Y 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋