What do you do when you find out your fiancee has been cheating on you???

Question

And not just a sexual relationship but one where you can tell he really still has a thing for the girl.

Answer 1

say goodbye. Once a cheater,always a cheater.Oh it may stop for awhile,but,it WILL happen again at some point.He has revealed his true character and who he is,be thankful it happened before you actually got married !These girls that are telling you to confront,then wait an see if he comes back to you,have no self respect of themselves.You dont need him to come back to you,he left along time ago the miniute he decided he wanted someone else too. No one deserves to be cheated on men or women. You deserve much better then that,I wish more women would see they dont have to "take" that kind of behaviour,wait for him to "come back",and hope they dont cross the line again. Because he will cross it again,once a cheater always a cheater,it really is true !You dont have to take it. Have self respect and confidence in yourself. He didnt cheat because there is something wrong with you. He cheated because there is something wrong with HIM......and its alot. Yeah I know it hurts ,and breakups hurt.....Alot of time will help.Take care,good luck,and believe in YOU!!!!!!

Answer 2

I am sorry for you that you are discovering this now that the man you love and are supposed to be able to trust is cheating on you.

Be glad, though, that you see this "freight train coming down the love track" now! What if you marry him, and he does it again to you? And worse yet, you have a child or two together? You can't just walk out then!

You may be both too young to marry now. Especially him, because he appears to be having a crush on someone else. I would suggest you postpone the wedding date, and have a much longer engagement, to see if he outgrows this crush. Or maybe even break off the engagement and let him "feel his oats" and grow up a bit.

In my opinion, he does not really owe you anything until you are legally married and have taken your vows together. He's just being a jerk. You don't need a jerk...you need a man.

Find out the truth...and then follow your heart.

Answer 3

I am sorry this is happening to you. But the fact of the matter is you guys ain't married and you don't have kids together. So nothing to work through or compromise over. I will give you the same advice I give my girlfriends, "if he did it before, he'll probably do it again no matter how sorry he is".

Really it is up to you. Are you willing to live the rest of your life wondering what your man is doing and who he is screwing? I think you deserve better than that. Clearly he doesn't respect you or else he would not be running around behind your back.

I know its hard but in the end you are probably going to be better off. The trust is broken and even if you get it back, you are always going to wonder!!!!!!!!!!

Take care of yourself and make good decisions for yourself

Answer 4

Dump him. If he'll cheat during the engagement, when everything is still rosy and hopeful, imagine how quickly he'll cheat when your married life gets into a rut.

And no revenge sex. Don't go an sleep with his friend or anything like that. It's petty and looks bad. Just end your relationship. And don't go out of your way to vilify him either. Just say he cheated and you're not willing to accept that.

Sorry this happened to you.

Answer 5

well he is gonna have 2 work out his feelings 1st and don't just wait 2 find out if he chooses u. U have 2 find out whether he is worth keeping since he doesn't respect u enuff 2 not seek out another relationships with out telling u he is having doubts. I think u shouldn't put up with that. But not one of us are in your shoes and love him, so we can't tell u what 2 do, only u can do that. But respect yourself enuff not 2 try to make something work if u r doing it alone! Sorry this had 2 happen 2 you, @least u found out b4 ur tied the knot! good luck!

Answer 6

You break the engagement. Marriage, or any close relationship is based not just on LOVE but TRUST and RESPECT. If he cheats before marriage he will surely continue this venue all his virile life. Drop him, you do not want to live with anxiety and questions. Respect yourself.
Better luck next time.

Answer 7

well the real question is what do you want? if you are willing to give him another chance you need to sit him down and ask him all the questions your dying to ask. tell him its you or her. let him know that there is no other "2nd" chance. Let him know if he screws up again you will leave. If you want to leave him then sit him down and let him know all the reasons you are leaving him. We can't really tell you what to do because your the one who has to make the choice. Also, you should not be with someone who is in love with another woman, it will only make your relationship hell. good luck and follow your heart, not someone elses.

Answer 8

Break it off now! If he can be like this when you two are engaged what can say that he wont be like this once you two are married, you can find someone better! Dont be his arm candy let him know you are not gonna deal with that kind of crap! And if you let it go, he might do it again thinking you'll just forgive him again! Good Luck! =)

Answer 9

use me to get back at him :)

Seriously though, get rid of him and never talk to him again. It's easier said than done i know, but if he cheats on you this one time, he'll cheat on you again i promise.

and do you really want to spend a lifetime with a person and both of you cannot say that you were faithful for 40 years?
i know i do, whenever i'm 80 years old, i want to be able to look at my wife and tell her that i never strayed and was always faithful, and i'd like to know that she'd be able to say the same.

that's why if you cheat on me, your loss, later. dump him, and do not answer your phone.

Answer 10

Kick him to the curb. Obviously this man doesn't really love you. No woman should have to put up with that. I am positive you can do much better than that creep.