Is it bad luck to be given an engagement that has been used and purchased off of EBAY?

Answer 1

There is no such thing as luck.

Answer 2

Of course not! Think of it this way: a diamond is already millions (billions!) of years old, the fact that it was put into a piece of jewelry and was "used" by someone else does not in any way diminish the value of the stone or the sentiment it represents. If anything the purchaser should be applauded for being so smart about such a purchase, retail jewelry stores have a HUGE markup so to buy off ebay (or my favorite, pawn shops) is saving money and nothing else. Be happy and enjoy the ring in the spirit it was intended. Best Wishes

Answer 3

(I interpreted the question to be from someone about to purchase and give a ring from eBay, but the other answers make me think that it's the recipient that's asking....I'm leaving my answer as is, but the concepts are still valid - it's the gesture, not the source nor the cost. If it does matter, either say something or get over it. Dwelling on it quietly will just build up until it's a too much of a problem to fix. And besides, if you are the recipient, he obviously felt no need to hide the source from you because he didn't think you'd care where it came from, just that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.)

Obviously, you're not going to boast about how you got it on eBay, or for how cheap (doing so would be so tacky it would cause bad luck, regardless of where you got the ring).

Luck has nothing to do with a happy marriage, it takes mutual effort by both people. So the question shouldn't be if it will be bad luck, but if either of you (especially her) will feel, in any way, negative about the source of the ring. If she loves you, she won't care where it came from.

If you will feel bad about getting it on eBay - you can learn to deal with it; love does not equal money nor expensive gifts. What's important is will she think that this ring represents someone else's broken engagement and is bad luck? Is it a historical ring that she will love, regardless? Will she feel you didn't get something from your heart, but just went as cheap as you could? Will she be proud of you for not wasting money? Will you feel compelled to keep where you got the ring a secret from her? (There is a difference between not telling her the source because it truely doesn't matter, and not telling her because you feel guilty...the former is fine, the latter is not.)

The ring is all for her. It's your understanding of her that will tell you if it's bad luck, or will cause her hurt. Not much of an answer, I know, but let me share my proposal to my wife and I think you'll see what I mean.

When I proposed to my wife, I was between jobs. I'd already picked out the ring, but couldn't afford it. So, I bought the ring with a cubic zirconium instead. When I proposed, I KNEW she would be worried about me spending money on her that I didn't have...she's that type of person. So after she said yes and we calmed down a bit, and before she could ask, I told her it was a fake diamond. You know what she said? "Good, because if it was real, I was going to have you take it back." Then she told me she was proud to have such a practical fiancee. (Felt great hearing that for the first time!!)

It took me 4 months to get a job, and then another 7 to get back on my feet to where I could afford the diamond. I caught her staring at her ring many many times before the real one was in there...the fact that we were engaged is all that mattered to her.

That's what I'm getting at. If you think she won't like it because of where you got it, there's your answer. If you think she'll love it because it's from you or it's the style she wanted, regardless of where you got it - there's your answer too.

Answer 4

I assume you mean an engagement ring. I don't think it is bad luck at all. Ebay, pawnshops and antique stores are all good surces for truly unique jewelry that can be purchased for much less than a comparable setting or stone could be acquired new. If you think that a used ring could bring you bad luck, couldn't your love just as well bring the ring good luck?

Answer 5

Absolutely not, When you give a person a ring as a token of love, that is exactly what it is. Make sure that you have it cleaned, the stones checked, in case they are loose, appraised and then have it put in a beautiful box forgiving. This makes you budget conscious. I have heard people remark that it is bad luck because the person's relationship failed and it is bad luck to wear that person's ring. They may be selling it because the setting isn't to their liking or they want white gold and it is yellow gold. don't worry about it if you like it and you get a good deal. Go for it.

Answer 6

you love eachother enuf to get engaged now would you have rather waited several years for him to save the $ to get the ring of your dreams or would you rather start living your new life with him now? I even mentioned to to my boyfriend going to the pawn shop and taking a peak at what was there. But instead i ended up with the same diamonds that were in the ring from his previous engagement gone bad(she was a cheater-) yes it is a little down grading but i want to spend my life with him and the stones have been re-set and it is worn proudly on my finger. At first the thought was a little difficult to overcome, but when it all worked out, the feeling was so great that he wanted me and we had a new 'symbol' to show for 'our love' I hope these words/example have helped you along your journey. Its not the size, cost, material status or even the ring itself- it was the thought, the meaning, the gesture that went into him choosing you forever and always.


Good Luck and Congratulations!

Answer 7

No, of course not. The important part is that HE gave it to you.

But you should love the ring you have. If you don't like the setting, maybe you can swap it out and have the stone reset to something that's more your style. It really becomes a new piece of jewelry.

My future mother-in-law gave my husband the ring he proposed with. It had the diamond from her engagement ring and rubies that belonged to her grandmother. The setting, however, was not my cup of tea -- it looked like a dark gold nugget. So the three of us went to her jeweler, and we redesigned everything. The center diamond was reset into a bezel set with tiny diamonds all around it, set in white gold. This was my engagement ring. The rubies were set into a filigree band in white gold, which became my wedding band. (I now wear the diamond on my right hand). I love both pieces, particularly the rubies because they have a story, and it was a an incredible gesture of love on my mother-in-law's part to give it to me. Also, I love that the "old" jewelry became something brand new to celebrate my "new" marriage.

Answer 8

I would personally want only a ring that was new and chosen specifically for me but I don't believe it's bad luck to have a used ring. Lots of people like to hand down rings from their families that are important to them. I would have an issue with an unknown original owner....I think sometimes that could bring with it things we wouldn't want.....bad vibes or a history that follows the ring.

Answer 9

Do mean ring? I think it all depends on how supersticious you are. Try to look at it this way. Your boyfriend (I'm assuming this is who you are talking about) obviously decided that he loves you so much that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. But maybe he couldn't afford to go all out on an expensive piece of jewelry, so he found one that he thinks you will like and that he can afford, only he happened to find it on Ebay. It doesn't mean that he loves you any less, just that he watches what he spends. A good trait in a future husband! Good luck!!

Answer 10

It's all what you make of it and I don't think getting engaged from someone elses ring is bad luck for you......it's a fresh beginning to a new life.

Answer 11

Why would it be bad luck?? I just got married yesterday in fact and we bought our rings at a pawn shop. Got a beautiful ring and it was much cheaper than buying new.