myself or my parents are thinking about adopting the baby . And my sister is leading a life that is to me unexceptable. Her and her boyfreind barely have any money and to my knowledge he doesn't work. my sister is on disability. any advice will be greatly appreciated. thanks
2007-07-08 12:06:26 · 12 answers · asked by Heather M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Report her to family services. Then, help her get SOME kind of birth control before this happens again.
2007-07-08 12:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is the baby in danger? If so then of course someone needs to intervene and quickly. If the baby is being taken care of and not in any imminent danger I think the best thing to do is to go and lend a hand. Everyone go over and have a huge house cleaning and have a heart to heart with the boyfriend about responsibility and why he doesn't have a job.
I actually have a sister in law like this, she is mentally disabled and so is her husband neither one works, they both receive disability, and were living on their own for about four years after the baby came. My in laws would visit at least once a week and help out and take the baby out with them for a treat, they bought them clothes and food and also cleaning supplies so they would keep it a little neater. The situation got better after they moved in with his parents and they have an apartment downstairs and some help when needed.
I know how much it must hurt to see your sister living like that but if she is happy and if things can be turned around for the better then they at least deserve one more chance, but they need to know that this isn't an acceptable situation for a baby to be brought up in and that they need to clean up there act or steps will need to be taken.
2007-07-08 12:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by tinkswings 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay well im not too experienced with this but what i would think of is this...
well maybe talk the kids (babies) away for a while maybe have your parents take care. And maybe help them clean up and make their home more acceptable. Then see how things go. If nothings working out i think it would be better to adopt the baby. Since I think it would be safer and healthier that way.
As for her boyfriend...so they are not married? If they do plan to get married in the future i think that would be good. If not then that's not too good that they have kids and yet not getting married. it's not rightt like that.
So anyways. I think the babies would make it harder for your sister since they are already having money issues. maybe have the boyfriend get a job to help with the moeny issues. Its tough times but hopefully it gets better. I hope for the best.
2007-07-08 12:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well here we go...
once again we donot have enough facts.
BUT just based on what information we all have.....
Go over and talk to her.
3 mos. is long enough to decide if she is having
a depression..... just from having a baby !!!!!PPD
Move her and the baby to your nice clean house and give your sister a break. If she is on disability she is entitled to nearly free mental health and meds.
You could (as her SISTER) try to help instead of hovering over her like a vulture to get ahold of a baby. Start with being someone who loves her and see if you can TEACH her something other than the a knee jerk reaction and the same control that HE has over her.Its HER baby.Respect that please, and take her to talk to somebody smarter than you and your mother.
or ... I guess you could give us enough information in the first place.
Call an officer and social worker if she is hurting the baby.
2007-07-08 15:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talk to your sister about her living situations? If not just try to talk to her about "giving her a break". Tell her that you will take the baby for awhile so she can get a heads up on the house, and helping her old man get a good job! That way you don't have to hurt her feelings! I wish you the best of luck!
2007-07-08 12:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
bypass to the police station and document your ring stolen. tell the entire tale. optimistically your oldest sister will enable the police to call her if needed. supply up what you're doing and clean the residing house. clean whether it potential you pull an all nighter, or take off for an afternoon. save your place above CPS' reproach. tell your infants which you will do each and everything on your means to maintain them risk-free, happy and at residing house. Remind your infants approximately your cost equipment, no longer stealing, no longer exacting revenge, perfect a thank you to react once you have performed something incorrect. hire a criminal expert and document a criticism against your sister for fake reporting. that's carefully ridiculous that your sister might danger her very own sister's infants being taken away so she does not could admit to stealing a ring (or return it). in basic terms for a minute, permit's pretend that she did no longer take it- calling CPS is a poor thank you to react to faux accusations. a good sister might climb a mountain if it meant protecting her sister's infants risk-free at residing house. in spite of the very incontrovertible fact that she's your sister, it truly is for sure no longer a good thought to have a dating together with her- a minimum of whilst your infants are youthful. tell her she's no longer welcome at your place. you do no longer go with somebody like this on your existence and you particularly do no longer go with your infants to be motivated or otherwise tormented via this form of woman. i do no longer could inform you that being a mom is like being a soldier. no longer something and no you may get in the way of ending up your challenge: elevating healthful, happy, nicely adjusted adults. it truly is painful that somebody close to to you may do this, i'm particular. it truly is probably additionally painful to fathom no longer having a dating together with her, yet your toddlers go with your protection from somebody who might do such issues.
2016-10-20 08:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give ur sister a hand to clean up her house, if not offer to watch the baby for couple hours so they can clean up their house. Wouldn't it be nice if u can help ur sister when she needed u.
2007-07-08 12:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Forgive 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on the disability. tell her ur there 2 help her. monitor the situation. u and ur parents should sit down w/ her and talk. have ur parents not u mention that she needs 2 make changes in her life or they will be forced 2 have their grandchild removed from the situation.
2007-07-08 12:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by pamelat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The baby is your niece or nephew, adopt the baby and give it the best life you possibility can. Best Wishes!
2007-07-08 12:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask her how she feels about yo taking custody of the kids, that's wrong to take away someone so precious to her, she could hate you for the rest of her life/or yours and she could die of loneliness. That's evil of you, you are a bad sister!!! Shame on you!!! i hate you
2007-07-08 12:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Lil love lady ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋