My cousin is visiting this country for a week. My aunt and her daughter who have not been very friendly to me for ages arranged to bring him to my house around 2 o'clock for a chat. They arrived at 5 o'clock and were gone within 20 minutes!
I don't blame my cousin as he was not driving but I am very dissapointed. They just said they got delayed earlier but still needed to rush home early. They did not even have a drink. What would you think of this?
2007-07-08 11:58:51 · 15 answers · asked by kirrii 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, this is rude. If you can, try contacting your cousin to arrange another meeting without your aunt and her daughter. Maybe you can pick him up and take him out, or pay him a visit when they won't be around to ruin it for you. If they make this impossible or if time is short, then you'll just have to wait for his next visit to the country or arrange a visit yourself. There's no need to rely on rude people if you can help it. Hope you get to spend some quality time together!
2007-07-08 12:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rosa B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both your aunt and the daughter rude.
Their rudeness is illustrated by not calling you to tell you that they would be late and would you like to make it at another time since now they would not be able to stay more than 20
minutes.
They are showing you no respect and your time.
If I was in your position, I would telephoned the cousin, and make arrangements to meet. If you do not have a car, take a bus, or get a cab to pick you up and then pick the cousin up.
Moreover, I would not ever associate with this aunt and her daughter (who is probably ugly as hell). What good did it do you. It left you hurt and disappointed and you didn't even have a decent chat with your cousin.
Explain the situation with your cousin, and ask him how he felt about the situation. Don't demean in front of him, the aunt and daughter. But under your breath, just know that the aunt and daughter were raised with the cows and pigs.
Good luck.
2007-07-08 19:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by laurinacouchon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, yes, I would find it insulting... but I would also try to realize that there may have been other engagements that ran longer than expected, and they were needing to get home... sometimes these things happen. Hopefully you'll get to talk to your cousin, or arrange a longer visit (especially since this one was cut short) for another time within his visit... it certainly couldn't hurt to try. Good luck.
2007-07-08 19:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by kim's korner 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they didn't call and let you know that they were going to be so late, then it would be very rude. But they were probably on a tight schedule, and if your cousin flew in that day, he was more than likely tired. I wouldn't worry ... make arrangements to see your cousin later.
2007-07-08 19:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the frustration of preparing for guests who show up late or cancel. But, what can you do? You can mull over it repeatedly and get yourself worked up over something that is already done. Or let it go, and remember next time not to take their visits so seriously and move on.
2007-07-08 21:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by Dulos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask me, very rude. How could someone be 3 hours late, even with bad traffic? I understand if they had to be somewhere but for goodness sake! 20 min?
2007-07-08 19:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they didn't call to let you know they were delayed, then they were rude or insensitive. Insulting would be if they didn't bring him to visit at all.
2007-07-08 19:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by hwinnum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your aunt is a flake. It may or may not be intentional. Don't count on anything she says.
2007-07-08 19:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would feel hurt by that.
What can you do? It wasn't your cousin's fault, I am sure he was also disappointed.
Some people are just inconsiderate.
2007-07-08 19:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by greengo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your aunt and her daughter know nothing about manners and very little about being human.
2007-07-08 19:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋