I had been on a music discussion board. Me and another guy were arguing against a bunch of others on some trivial point. The argument got quite heated and insults started flying (mostly against the guy I had sided with). We eventually won the argument. He said "I'm sure you're white but you're now an honorary n****r". This gave me the impression that my friend was black. There were metaphorical howls of protest at this "insult" (lots of scolding in capital letters) but I remain convinced that it was intended as a compliment and I gratefully accepted it as such. Comments or opinions please?
2007-07-08 11:48:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Of course you are right. While many black folks howl at the N-word there are just as many of us who, ALWAYS knew that NO word can make anybody, anything. And if your stuff is loose enough to feel bad about it. Well tighten up!!! So we bandy the word about as a see see, what DO it mean LOL . I am really glad the kids are not into the howling tom reaction to the word, Go on then blue eyed soul!!!!!. MY N________H!
2007-07-08 12:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by nutsfornouveau 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the thing is, this "N" word in my opinion shouldn't be used by ANYONE. It just shows disrespect. And if the person was of African American race they shouldn't go there either. How can we teach our children to not say such things when we are? And how can someone of African American heritage use that word and then get upset when somebody else does? At this day and time shouldn't we as human beings be past this crap. So no, I wouldn't have taken it as a compliment.
2007-07-09 01:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by yankabilliechic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please to examine the historic plight of males of African descent in this nation from the time they were first brought here against their wills as slaves to the present.
Please to examine how they have been treated by this nation and how this society and culture ranks them within the social frame work, treats them and their families, the types of livelihoods they are or hve been forced to accept, etc.
As this was said after a heated debate concerning music, and possibly as one musician to another, it may have been a compliment.
It may also have meant that you stood up for what you believed in despite other persons (as in a majority) having opposed you and insulting you.
You decide.
2007-07-08 18:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Big Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the music business this type of name calling seems to be considered appropriate with the thugs who are calling hip hop and rap music. They are the same people who are pulling down the culture and making gangster crap special. You shouldn't be honored...you should have stood up for yourself and above them and spoken against that kind of thugish slander. If you are in the music business, then you should have the ability to make the changes to get these creeps out of the business and bring music away from guns, whores, and baby daddies to something meaningful.
2007-07-08 21:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though I don't feel that words that COULD be offensive should be tossed around so flippantly, if you found it to be a compliment, that's your feeling. Words like "dork" and "commoner" offend some people and inspire others. It's just a matter of what pushes your buttons.
Your friend could have used a better word, though. Something less connotatively disrespectful.
2007-07-08 18:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was intended as a compliment like "brother". Don't worry about it. I was reguarded as "not a n***er" by my white buddy in college. Im half black so I was somewhat offended even though in some ignorant way he was trying to compliment me. Oh well.
2007-07-08 18:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by biscuit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All things considered, it sounds like it was meant to be a compliment, so I'd take it as one. As a multiracial person, I observe a lot of black people who have trouble relating to non-blacks, and for them to be able to do it is kind of a big deal.
So rock on. I'm pretty convinced he meant it positively. :)
2007-07-08 18:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by thedancingmalkavian 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you chose to take it as a compliment, then that is your business and nobody else's.
However, personally, I would prefer not to be called a word that has been associated with so much hate.
2007-07-08 19:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I don't think "the N word" is or ever will be a compliment. Although "*****" can be used as a compliment in some contexts---If you think it is--then it is. Sorry for your luck.
2007-07-08 18:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is this something you are bringing to a public forum? What do you think you've opened up here?
Go back and ask your supposed friend, not strangers.
Race baiter.
2007-07-08 18:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋