This guy I used to work with looked fine last week, & yesterday when I saw him, he looked BEYOND anorexic. I'm so serious he looked like one of the dying people in the Holocaust! What could be happening to him? I know he's a heavy smoker & drinker & he has liver problems because of his drinking, & he was living with another guy I used to work with & the other guy put him out of his house because of a fight he had while drunk. & now every day he comes knocking on me & my friend's door, begging to come live with us. My friend & I live together.
But the reason why we won't let him stay with us is because of his drinking & his conceited & narcissistic personality. & Also, I'm suspecting that he's on some kind of illegal drugs. & when you answer the door, he says, "Who the F...u think it is?!" & he can't even tell my friend a simple "Hello" when walking in her apartment.
Should we feel sorry for this guy & let him in or leave him be on the streets? He's in the hospital now.
2007-07-08 11:40:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
It sounds as if his liver is going fast. That would make someone look that bad. It doesn't sound as if he is coming out of the hospital any time soon.
He does sound dangerous though.
2007-07-08 16:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pretty obvious: he drinks, he smokes, he has problems, he stops eating and starts drinking and smoking more---so he loses weight. Add to that that he also might suffer from serious depression. I've seen something like that---the guy smoked pot and drank excessively, then when he had problems he didn't eat, smoked more pot, drank more booze, and lost over 10 lbs in one week. Add liver problems to that which is cirrhosis(which leads to liver failure and death if the alcohol consuption does not stop). So don't worry, the guy has a bout with depression and increased alcohol consumption and you cannot convince an active drinker to stop drinking....they have to get to that bridge on their own......
2007-07-08 18:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have sympathy for him, it's good. But you may feel sorry later if you allow him to stay with you and then there will be no way to come out of the problem. Think it over. Why the other guy drove him out, you should ask and determine, that may help you in taking a decision.
2007-07-08 18:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by aWellWisher 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really don't know....AIDS, drugs, a stomach condition from alcohol or drugs...
If he's in the hospital, he's in the right place. Hopefully, medical personnel will direct him to the resources he needs to get help, be it rehab or something else.
Bottom line, he NEEDS to want to change. Your housing him may only be further enabling him to continue this lifestyle, which may be killing him. Some people need to hit rock bottom to decide they need to (and want to) change, and get help. I had to watch my sister do that.
He needs to give up drinking, cause a liver transplant would be useless if he continued the addiction!!
BTW, if he curses at you like that, he doesn't NEED to stay with you. Forget that!
2007-07-08 18:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him in the hospital and have nothing to do with him. Sure that seems harsh but you learn that most people do everything they can to mess up their own lives. You don't need the trouble he will bring to you. He could die in the hospital because his condition. He can go to a homeless shelter or get his own apartment.
2007-07-08 18:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you should feel sorry for him but it does not necessarily mean letting him live with you. Don't feel bad about not doing "good" coz at times the "good" things are not necessarily helpful.
2007-07-08 19:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by wind m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the hospital and try to talk with his doctors and stress these points and get him into a rehab before he kills himself. Tell him that if he doesn't seek help, he is no longer welcome.
2007-07-08 18:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋