What are someways to get my 2-1/2 year old to let me study without him interupting? any ideas?

Question

Whenever I sit to study my 2-1/2 Yr old begins to beg for attention. It is usually the two of us at home in the evening alone. He does not have anyone else to play with and he will not watch tv alone without me. He will not let me give speaches in public or teach classes. He wants me to hold him when my attention is diverted from him. What is a good approach to gitting him out of this stage?

Answer 1

Just before you have you time let him know that you are going to have mommy and me time first 45 minutes with him and 45 minutes for studying. Alternate. Use a timer. That way he will know that it is his time and book time. You can also give him some paper and pens and crayons so he can be doing what you are doing. They learn through mimicking. When my kids get clingy when it is time to leave, let them know that you always come back for them and let them hold your chap-stick or a hair clip or something of yours. Don't try to explain things though it only makes it worse. They generally quit crying a few minutes after you leave. When you see him again the first thing you should say is "See, I told you I would comoe back!" with a great big smile and hug.

Answer 2

Set up a little desk for him with books and notebooks, crayons and paper, a really cheap calculator so he can press the buttons. Add anything else to make it look official. Sticky dots from an office supply store are cheap and fun. Then you can have study time together. He is obviously used to getting your full attention. It may be time for a little play group or Mommy and Me class. You cannot let him keep you from responsibilities like teaching. Find someone you can trust to leave him with for short amounts of time. It will be difficult for him, and for you, but in the long run it will benefit you both.

Answer 3

It won't last long, but I worry about your saying he won't let you give speaches or teach. If this is required of your job, then you need to get a sitter for him during these times and just tell him you have to work now. This would also work for study time at home, I am sure there is young person nearby who would love a few bucks to sit and play with your son while you study.

Answer 4

well he is still a baby who needs alot of attention. U can give him something 2 play with or try 2 put him 2 bed. U can also take a break from studying 2 play with him 4 awhile just 2 make him happy.

Answer 5

This is the stage called the "terrible twos," when babies sense that they're growing away from you and it frightens them. Any lack of attention on your part is perceived as rejection. The only way to get him out of this stage is to let time pass. When he's three years old, consider a pre-school for a few hours every day. He'll have companionship and learn to socialize, which is vital for an only child. And you'll have some time to pursue your own interests.

Answer 6

Having a child takes a lot of responsibility, and it's not easy doing things like that. Well have somebody babysit for you. Don't hire some stranger though, go get like your parents to do it for you or a niece or nephew. Thing's like this should have been thought ahead. Well I'm helping you now, go and get someone to baby sit him, and also a child needs attention so it'll eventually end when your child turns a certain age. You can't just stop him from getting attention. Yeah, hope this helps.

Answer 7

I have a 3 year old, she's the same way. You have to get them used to playing by themselves - they don't know how to amuse themselves yet. A few things that help are to have something like a kitchen set (even works for boys) or some blocks, and give him a small goal. "Cook me dinner" or "build me a big tower" ("Now knock it down!") are good ways to snatch a few minutes to yourself.

If he throws a fit that you aren't looking at him, let him! Even if all you're saying is, "Stop crying!" you're still paying attention. We used to say, "Let me know when you're done crying." After awhile he'll figure out that's not a good way to get what he wants.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Make sure you spend some one on one time with him before you study and explain to him that you need to study for work or whatever and it is very important. Try spending time with him without the Tv on. I am not saying you don't just a bit of advice.

Answer 9

tell him that you have to study/work or you won't have any time to spend with him at all....maybe you could get him a play pen, crayons, paper, legos and someone else he can have(for all of their attention)...like I don't want to say dogs or cats(cause I'd be adding on to your attention wanting) but maybe an action figure or bear or something that he can talk to, but I would say...never let him out of your site because two year olds have a way of finding trouble...so find something that can entertain him or find a babysitter or nanny

Answer 10

I have a 2 1/2 yo as well. Try putting in a DVD...color crayons and paper, blocks, molding clay, can you study outside? My daughter can play outside forever. Or trying during naptime and or bedtime.