for islamic woman please answer.?

Question

the question I have is about the Berqa /berka I would like to know if
1.) some of you like to wear it and why?
2.) as well it is very hot in Iraq wearing dark colors doesn't help can you breath under there?
3.) and if you had your way would you wear it at all.
4.) what are the pro's and con's for woman being islamic and what do you love or hate about it?

to the person who said they didn't comprhend the last question ... let me try to rephrasing ... what is the best part of being islamic and what is the worst part of being islamic ..and if you could change anything what would it be?
good or bad...

also for people who are gonna be jerks and write stupid answers to the questions .. save your keyboard and don't bother..

I just wanted to say thanks for all the wonderfull explainations i have recieved. And i am glad you get to set the record straight for other people who may not understand this custom / or belief system ..

Answer 1

EDIT-- YOU ARE VERY VERY WELCOME HUN. GOOD QUESTION! :-)

1) I wear it as a choice. I just started wearing it 5 months ago and I love it. I wear it because I don't have to be part of societies doctrine of beauty, it allows me to proudly represent Islam, I feel more closer to Allah. It allows me to be dignified and remove the intellectual barriers between man and women because instead of people concentrating on my looks they can concentrate on my intellect and mind. Wearing it makes me feel safe from feeling like I'm eye candy and such and what a lot of western women have to go through in terms of perfection of beauty. I don't believe I have to put my beauty on display. And most of all because Allah has commanded me to and I love Allah and the Prophet more then anyone.

2) It comes all different colors in fact there is so much womens islamic fashion clothing out there . Hijabs and burkas come in all colors and patterns. No it's not as hot as you think. And even when it gets hot we keep one thing in mind, it's not hotter then eternal hell-fire.

3) It was my choice as is many Muslim womens and we love to wear it.

4) There are no cons believe it or not. Islam has liberated us in so many ways.
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What comes to your mind when you think of a Muslim woman? A mysterious, veiled victim of male oppression, awaiting Western liberation? A slogan-shouting terrorist? An uneducated foreigner with whom you have little or nothing in common? Unless your social circle includes Muslim friends and acquaintances, the chances are that your impressions of Muslim women have largely been formed by negative media stereotypes - images that usually have little to do with real life, and may have been designed to attract more viewers, sell more products, or gain support for someone's political agenda.


How much do you really know about Muslim women's lives or views, and why does it matter? Well, for one thing, Muslims account for 20-25% of the people on this planet, and Islam has become the second main religion in Europe. But did you know that the majority of European and American converts to Islam are women - not men? Would it surprise you to learn that many women in the Muslim world feel sorry for Western women and view them as being victimised? Have you ever stopped to consider why Muslim women who immigrate to the West usually maintain their identity and strive to pass it on to their children? A thinking person may well ask, if Islam is as oppressive to women as some journalists would have us believe, why aren't Muslim women running away in droves? What it is about Islam that attracts any followers outside its heartlands?

The Islamic view of women :-

First of all, women are portrayed positively in the Qur'an and the Hadith (sayings of the Prophet Muhammad). The Qur'an is the only book of world Scripture in which women are frequently referred to alongside men, and both are described as being friends and partners in faith. The following verses are just a few notable examples:

The believers, men and women, are protecting friends one of another; they promote the right and forbid the wrong, establish prayer, pay the poor-due, and they obey God and His messenger. As for these, God will have mercy on them. Surely God is Mighty, Wise. God has promised to believers, men and women, gardens under which rivers flow, to dwell therein, and beautiful mansions in gardens of everlasting bliss. But the greatest bliss is the good pleasure of God: that is the supreme felicity. (Qur'an 9:71-72)

Surely for men who surrender to God, and women who surrender
and men who believe and women who believe;
and men who obey and women who obey;
and men who speak the truth and women who speak the truth;
and men who persevere (in righteousness)
and women who persevere;
and men who are humble and women who are humble;
and men who give alms and women who give alms;
and men who fast and women who fast;
and men who guard their modesty and women who guard
(their modesty);and men who remember Allah much and women who remember - Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a vast reward. (Qur'an 33:35)

There is no question in Islam of men and women being at odds with one another, engaged in some kind of historical struggle for power. Rather, the roles of both are complementary and essential. The Qur'an states:

O mankind! Be mindful of your duty to your Lord, Who created you from a single being, and from it created its mate, and from the two of them has scattered countless men and women (throughout the earth). Fear God, in Whose (Name) you demand your rights of one another, and (be mindful of your duty) towards the wombs that bore you. God is ever Watching over you. (Qur'an 4:1)

Do not long for the favours by which God has made some of you excel others. Men shall have a share of what they have earned, and women shall have a share of what they have earned. (Do not envy each other) but ask God to give you of His bounty. God has knowledge of all things. (Qur'an 4:31-32)

The Prophet Muhammad augmented the revelations he received with further teachings and his wonderful personal example, which made him beloved by family and followers alike. He forbade violence against women, and preached against all forms of abuse of power. He warned that both men and women would be held accountable by God for those in their care or under their authority, and said:

Let no Muslim man entertain any bad feeling against a Muslim woman. If he should dislike one quality in her, he will find another that is pleasing.

The best of believers are those who are best to their wives and families.

The position of women in other religions :-

While these teachings may not seem very remarkable today, they were revolutionary at the time they were revealed, for Arabs and non-Arabs alike. While Muslim sons were being taught that Paradise lay at their mothers' feet, women in Confucian China were told to obey their fathers, then their husbands, and finally their sons after their husbands' death. Hindu women were declared to be unfit for independence, inherently weak, easily misled, sinful and unintelligent. In Buddhism, women were said to be the personification of evil. At the time, Jews and Christians believed women to be responsible for the downfall of the human race, and considered menstruation and childbirth to be the consequences of a Divine curse. One thousand years after Muhammad, in 1586, French Catholics were still debating whether or not women possessed souls! English Christians burned millions of women alive on the mere suspicion that they were witches. Married women in Europe did not gain the right to own property, obtain a divorce or enter into their own contracts until the 19th century. Not surprisingly, women who found such teachings unreasonable rebelled against them and fought for better treatment. Whereas other women have often had to pit themselves against the authority of a male priesthood, in Islam the dynamics of social change have been quite different.

Muhammad was greatly concerned with women's rights:-

The Prophet Muhammad was an extremely successful social reformer as well as spiritual and political leader, who championed the rights of the weak and oppressed. The Qur'anic verses referring to women had the effect of vastly improving the status and rights of women at the time they were revealed. Muslim women were granted the right to own, inherit and dispose of their own property as they saw fit; reject forced marriages; keep their own names and identities after marriage; initiate divorce; and obtain an education - back in the 7th century. In contrast to the dismal situation affecting many women in developing countries today, early Muslim women were noted for their learning and accomplishments. The Prophet declared, 'To seek knowledge is an obligation on every Muslim, male and female,' and his own wife Aisha was responsible for transmitting thousands of his sayings to later generations. Aisha was also renowned for her knowledge of poetry, medicine, and Islamic law, as well as her personal qualities of character and intelligence. When she led a battle after the Prophet's death, no one objected on the grounds that she was a woman. Many Muslim women in the medieval period enjoyed positions of respect as scholars and religious authorities. Therefore, Muslims seeking to improve the position of women in society have usually focused their efforts on getting men (and women) to practice Islam, rather than trying to 'reform' it, as happened with other religions. The main obstacles to Muslim women achieving the rights guaranteed to them, then and now, have been persistent un-Islamic cultural traditions (usually dating to the period before people accepted Islam in a given locality), inadequate religious education, and the bad side of human nature.

Women's roles, rights and obligations :-

Spiritual status:-

As shown in the Qur'anic verses above, women are considered to be the spiritual equals of men, and they have the same religious duties. This is all the more important when we consider that the main goal of a Muslim is to serve God, and that this world is regarded as no more than a testing-grounds to prepare oneself for eternal life after death. Therefore, worldly accomplishments, fame, wealth and power simply do not have the same attraction for a Muslim, whose main focus is on the Next World. The Qur'an repeatedly draws our attention to the fact that the time we spend in this world is short and unpredictable, and what really counts is our character, how we treat others, and what we do with the blessings God has given us. In this context, home and family are of paramount importance, since stable families are essential to the rearing of well-adjusted children who will transmit their faith and values to the next generation. According to a well-known Arab proverb, 'The mother is a school.'

Social roles:-

Islam supports the traditional division of labour whereby women assume the main responsibility for home while men are responsible for their financial support, but with an important difference: motherhood and homemaking, like a Muslim's inner life, are not considered to be less important or rewarding than a professional career. Indeed, motherhood is one of the most important professions, and competent mothers who can successfully run a warm and welcoming home, and raise a family of happy, confident and well-disciplined children are becoming increasingly harder to find. Muslim wives and mothers are granted the respect due to all women for the struggles and sacrifices they make for the sake of their families. Furthermore, Muslims consider it unfair to burden women with both the physical and emotional demands of motherhood and the professional demands of the workplace, which end up exhausting so many women and destroying family life for the sake of economic gain. Muslims often express sympathy for women in the West, who often suffer from sexual exploitation and abuse at home and in the workplace, while being unappreciated in their traditional roles. Western women who seek to be respected must often dress and behave like men, and are expected in practise to neglect their children's needs for the sake of their careers. In Islam, femininity is appreciated, and Muslim women may seek a higher education, work outside the home or volunteer their services to benefit the community as long as their primary responsibilities are taken care of. Any money that a Muslim woman earns is her own, to spend as she likes; men remain solely responsible for maintaining the family.

Islamic marriage
Although Muslim parents traditionally play an important role in arranging introductions and helping to choose marriage partners for their children, both husband and wife must freely agree to the marriage. The Prophet granted girls who had been forced into marriages against their will the right to have their marriages annulled.

The relationship between husband and wife in Islam is an interdependent one, based on love and tranquillity. The Qur'an says,

And of His signs is this: He created spouses for you from among yourselves that you might find comfort in them, and He put between you love and mercy. Surely there are signs in that for people who reflect. (Qur'an 30:21)

Both parents should strive to establish a stable, loving home and partnership. Major family decision-making should be through consultation and discussion. As the provider, the husband is expected to take the lead, as he is accountable to God for his care of the family. If no agreement can be reached, the wife should be supportive as long as her husband does not ask her to do anything that contravenes religious law. This works well as long as each spouse behaves maturely and treats the other with respect, kindness and consideration.

Codes of behaviour for women and men:-

In order to safeguard the moral integrity of family and society, Muslim men and women are expected to observe certain guidelines of behaviour that Westerners may find restrictive. Both sexes are expected to dress modestly in loose, non-transparent clothing and avoid situations that would put them alone with members of the opposite sex, or lead to temptation or misunderstandings. Muslim women additionally cover their hair, since women are ordinarily considered to be the more attractive of the sexes. These restrictions are not observed at home among close family members, but serve to protect women's honour in public and draw attention to their personal qualities rather than their looks. In Islam, the sexual urge is considered to be natural and desirable as long as it is confined to expression within marriage. However, Muslims are saddened by the rise in the vulgar exploitation of women and the human body for marketing purposes and pornography, which inevitably result in a cheapening of sexuality and the undermining of family and spiritual life.

Islam's appeal to today's woman:-

For women who enjoy being women and appreciate the differences (as well as the common ground) between the sexes, who would prefer to be respected for their intelligence and character rather than being chased after for their looks, and who would like to pursue personal and spiritual fulfilment at a human pace without having to neglect their families, Islam is a very appealing alternative.

A few words about polygamy…:-

Many people are aware that Muslim men are permitted to marry more than one wife. What is not generally known is that strict conditions of equal treatment in terms of time and money are imposed on men who do, or that women may stipulate in their marriage contracts that they have the right to divorce if their husbands take another wife. In reality, monogamy is the norm and polygamy the exception; it has never been common among Muslims except in areas where it was already practised, and it is seldom successful unless the first wife agrees. Islam did not introduce polygamy; in reality, some form of polygamy - whether with legal marriages, mistresses, prostitution or extra-marital affairs - occurs in every society. Rather, it allowed and regulated it in order to protect the women and children who might otherwise be taken advantage of. In certain cases, such as when the first wife is chronically (or mentally) ill or unable to bear children; when there are many widows and orphans due to war; or when a marriage has effectively broken down but the wife would prefer to remain married; open and legalised polygamy can be a workable second-best solution.

The Prophet Muhammad was married to his first wife, Khadijah, for 25 years, and he did not take other wives until after her death. His marriages to several widows and divorcees in later years were primarily contracted for political and humanitarian reasons, as was expected of a man in his position. His home life was characterised by love, consideration, kindness and respect.

Answer 2

I wear the hijab.

In places like Iraq, Saudi and other parts of the world, u could always wear light colors. It is not a hard and fast rule that u wear a dark color. U can wear any color.
N No, u don't feel hot. Burqa are designed to let the air pass thru so the person wearing it dosnt really feel hot. Ofcourse, one has to take in the consideration what kind of cloth u r using. Ofcourse, if u use nylon or something, ur Burqa will kill u.

I had my way. I didnt use to wear it a year ago. But before I use to wear it, I use to think that Burqa shows oppression and I M not oppressed. Those were my thoughts when I was really young and immature.
Then as I grew older, there were men on the street who would look at me strangly - with lust... I resented it. N then when I was doing an assignment and worked with a girl who wore the hijab did I realize the advantages of it.

I read the Quran. I chose Islam on my own. Even though I was a born Muslim, I had started disbelieving in Allah. Then I read an article about Quran and Science and started doing my own research. Alhumduliillah, I M very very happy with my religion.

What do I hate about it? IF u want to call it hating, well, I truly hate it when some of the bigoted extremists use parts of the verses of the Holy Quran and twist it around to suit their motive and sometimes, go kill a thousand people. Islam never says to kill people. There is nothing I hate about ISlam. It is about it's followers.

Answer 3

When a group of people are *forced* to wear certain clothes or do certain things, under penalty of death, and the basis behind the force is silly ancient superstitions, we're going to speak up about it. There have been lots of examples of women being forced, with little or no choice, into certain roles, clothing, etc. through history -- and they were all wrong. Comparing your misogyny to others' is pointless anyway, either your practices are discriminatory or they're not, no matter what anybody else has or hasn't done in the past or now. And they are discriminatory, no matter what anybody else does. Your claim that "mulsim women refuse exhibiting their bodies for seduction" is an absolute lie. First, they have no choice in the matter. Second, brainwashing girls from birth doesn't count as a choice. And third, if you're so convinced that muslim women would choose to do this of their own free will, then lift any punishment of any kind for *not* doing so -- let's see how many choose it of their own free will, and how many don't. Ah, but your religion won't do that, will it? Of course not. Please join the rest of us in the 21st century, and give up male-dominated ancient superstitions. Let women make their own choices with no fear of punishment or reprisal. Let's see how many, under those conditions, choose to continue to hide themselves... Peace.

Answer 4

1) I just started wearing the hijab..and i like it ...The hijab is just asimple headcoveringand ithelpsprotect a girl andplus its acommand from God.
2) when i traveled to suadi arabi to do umrah, i wore a black berqa .. and you can breathe ..
3)yes i think every muslim womenhas it there way ... it is your choice to wear a hijab and your choice to wear a berqa ... wearing these veils does not mean you are oppressed ... i wearhijab and i am not opppressed at all.... and im pretty sure if you read the quranand translation every women would wear hijab withall there heart...
4) I love Islam very much ... Isllam is a very peaceful andsimple religion ...but its a matter if you can take challenges .... If you love the World ... Islam will look like such a hard strict religion.. but if you look beyond the world " Duniya" .. you can see why Good has sent down certain commands ... they are for our own good ... This world is temporary .....

Answer 5

I'm a Muslim woman who wears the head veil (hijab)...

1) I don't wear the burqa/abaya all the time, just whenever I feel like it. I don't think wearing one is compulsary... but I personally feel very comfortable in it.

2) I haved lived in Saudi Arabia for over 18 years, and wearing a burqa has never been a problem... considering Saudia is one of the hottest places on the planet.

3) If I had my own way, I would definitely wear it... it really feels comfortable because I can move freely without people trying to gawk at me.

4) I find only pros of being a Muslim woman. I feel that teaching of Islam corroborate all my ideas, values and beliefs. If I had been born a non-Muslim, I would have preferred dressing modestly rather than provocatively. For me, Islam is perfect and I'm proud of being a Muslim.

Quote by arabmuslim, "I am respected for my mind and not my body." - I feel exactly the same way.

Answer 6

1) I like the Abaya, the hijab and the niqab though I haven't worn the Abaya and niqab yet. Insha ALLAH when I get my check in September I will buy them both and start wearing them.
2)No it is lightweight and lets the wind flow through. Plus the cotton is breathable and it doesn't get you overheated.
3) Yes I would wear it because ALLAH says in the Qur'an and Muhammad(PBUH*) says in a very strong Hadith that all believing Muslim women should cover everything except the eyes so that they might be know as virtuous and modest women and so that they are not annoyed. I cover my hair because I want to and because I am commanded to cover by ALLAH himself.
4) I have tons of rights in Islam that Christianity and other religions don't give women. I am equal to a man and a man is equal to me. I am highly respected as a wife and mothers are especially honored. I am respected for my mind and not my body. I dress modestly for the sake of ALLAH alone. I don't think their are any cons to being a Muslim woman aside from women don't get custody of the children in a divorce. Muhammad(PBUH*) gave women the right to vote 1400 years ago and stopped the killing of burying baby girls alive when they were born. I am just sorry that I wasn't raised Muslim but Alhamdullilah I thank ALLAH every day that I now know the truth and am Muslim and I will stay Muslim until I die.

Answer 7

Hi Tina, Hope all is well and thanks for taking time to ask questions instead of just assuming :)
1.) As a Muslim Woman, I dont wear the burka, and women in Islam are not required to wear it, its more cultural than religious. I do however wear a headscarf and loose fitting clothing, which is what is required of practicing Muslim woman, so as to protect her modesty, dignity and for her to be objectified and not only gawked at. It all comes down to a personal choice, and only the woman herself is supposed to decide, of course (as in all cultures) some things are more culturally acceptable so many woman choose to wear the burka.
2.) I'm sure you are aware that there are many Muslim woman in other countries other then Iraq, but your point is that the dark colors and clothing would be stiffling in summer..however these garments are usually made of lightwight cotton, silk or linen and color choice is again a personal preference. Yes, its breathable and comfortable under there :)
3.) This question again goes back to the woman..for me it is the most natural thing and the biggest show of my devotion to God and my modesty.
4.) Another question that I'm sure you will get differing answers to but I wouldnt change anything about my religion and my status is preserved in the Holy Book. The reason I am so convinced of it is beacause after actually studying it, I choose to remain a devoted Muslim because it is so inclusive of all other faiths and people. In Islam, the best people are the most righteous, not the richest or the most popular. If you would like to know more please feel free to email or message me anytime and also visit www.al-islam.org . Good luck and peace be upon you :)

Answer 8

I never wear burqa before in my life, nor do I see people here wearing it, and I live in Islamic country.
About colours , I prefer light because I live pretty much on the equator and it can be a trifle warm here.
I am happy, and have a happy life, and yes I am rather pleased being a Muslim. I can think of nothing I dislike.

Answer 9

some of you like to wear it and why?
I wore it for 5 years in Pakistan... Only because I wanted it. My father hated it and was totally against it. I felt secured wearing it. I didn't want guys commenting on me or desiring at me. Simple and sweet. I learned that wearing burka had protected me from a lot of evil incidence. For example people would start calling at house to talk to you creating a whole scene in fron of parents.
2.) as well it is very hot in Iraq wearing dark colors doesn't help can you breath under there?
In Pakistan it was very hot too...When you don't know how it feels like with out the burka... there is no complaining. There are fashions in burka too. Thin cotton or satin is available for summer. That's what I use to use.
3.) and if you had your way would you wear it at all.
I had it my way. In Pkaistan because of the way society was working I wore it. Here in canada I wear it because it is my identity. I don't wear it to work. Or when I am with my husband for a get together. This is because of the respect I give to my canadian peers who might get uncomfertable watching me wearing a burka in the workplace or formal get togethers
4.) what are the pro's and con's for woman being islamic and what do you love or hate about it?
I don't hate anything about it. Islam has made it rules by society. Unfortunately not all men in islamic society follow those rules. Men had to follow some rules as well. If men obey islmic rules and don't stare at other women or desire at. if they keep thier women as glasses the way our prophet describe. if they respect them and treet them well. Fortunatly I have that religoise man in my life and I tell you my life is very easy for me. Half of the house chores are done by him as islam asks him to do as our prophethas done.
If I have to hate anything is the people of any religion not following the religion and making it tough for the other people while not following it themsleves, you know these people mould the religion according to thier comferts

Answer 10

1.) some of you like to wear it and why? burqa no, hijab yes


2.) as well it is very hot in Iraq wearing dark colors doesn't help can you breath under there?
don't know hon I am under an ac in my office in new york

3.) and if you had your way would you wear it at all.
every day but not burqa that is not islamic hon...

4.) what are the pro's and con's for woman being islamic and what do you love or hate about it?
advantage I pray to God everyday
I do not have to worry about man looking at my *** like you :)

Is not Islamic Hun is Muslim!

Answer 11

I'm Iranian/Persian...

1. I don't wear Burqa but I wear Hijab...

2. I don't wear dark colored clothing... I wear colorful manteaus (long jackets) and scarves along with some pants... have u seen the scarf collections from Hermes and Salvatore Ferragamo? ... Those are the kinds I wear... they're silk... so it doesn't get hot... the manteaus come in both winter and summer fabrics...

3. I do have it my way... no one told me to wear Hijab... I do it for God...

4. I like lots of stuff about it... like I know that ppl aren't staring at my boobs or my legs when I'm talking to them... And that I get respect from ppl bcz of who I really am... and not what I look like... ALSO... its good to know that no one's gonna turn around and stare at ur as.s while ur walking in the mall or something... AND... there are no cons...