I have my side of the bridal party already picked basically. My main question is, she wants me to ask my sister to be one of her bride's maids in the wedding so is that appropriate for that? or should she pick bridesmaids based on her own friends that she has known for awhile?
My other question is, does the bride pick her part of the bridal party and the groom picks his side of the bridal party? As much as I get along with her brother, she wants him to be one of my groomsmen, but I already have mine picked out?
2007-07-08 09:49:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The bride picks her attendants and the groom picks his. It's a gracious act to ask a soon-to-be sibling-in-law to be in the wedding party, though not mandatory.
You don't have to ask her brother...but if it means a lot to her and she's willing to have your sister on her side, would it really hurt to ask him? You say you get along with him, so why not?
2007-07-08 09:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You both pick them, ideally.
In that, I mean you pick your side and give her feedback on her choices, and she does the same for you.
If she wants your sister, there's nothing holding her back from that unless you explicitly tell her that you don't. But consider the fact you might have an angry bride on your hands. Or an angry sister ;)
Conversely, if she's pushing to have her brother, and you don't want that *do not* have her brother. You don't want it, so why should you do it? I asked my fiance if he could include both my brothers, and he jumped at the chance - they get along well, so no problem.
The problem I had, wanting to include his sister but not have her on my side (we've met once and she didn't make a good impression on me), was easily fixed after a short conversation and some readjustment - He's now going to have his sister as a "Groom's attendant" and I'm having a male friend as a "Bridesmate".
Now I just have to talk him out of having his father in the wedding - We have a mutual hatred for each other.
2007-07-08 17:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by actor_girl_1986 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Siblings of the bride and groom should be included, regardless of whether you are close or not. The point is that someday years from now, this person will still be your brother-in-law and chances are you will grow closer over the years. Your friends on the other hand may not even be your friends in 20 years.
2007-07-08 19:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing you have to remember is that this is the start of your UNION so you need to compromise for each other. I am getting married and am super close to my brother, i told my finace he could have whoever he wanted but my brother had to be in it. He likes my brother and knows its important to me so he obliged. He doesnt have syblings but i included one of his cousins in my bridesmaid selection. We are friends but also because i know it would mean a lot to my fiance. So the point is that you have to give and take. If it makes her happy and doesnt hurt you, ask both the brother and the sister.
2007-07-12 10:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by mikejustine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my fiance and I, we agreed on who to invite for each side.
We both had suggestions, but made sure the final decision was the bride for the bridesmaids, and the groom for the grooms side.
YOU BOTH have the final say.
2007-07-08 17:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
traditionally the bride picks her bridemaids and the groom picks his groomsmen. If she wants your sister to be a bridesmaid then its her choice adn she should ask her herself and you are not obligated to have her brother join your groomsmen just because hes family and her brother. its really your choice. maybe he could be an usher
2007-07-08 16:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Panda 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you 2 will have to sit down and have a good talk about this
is it going to be harmful for each of you to give up one of the bridal party for the other person =if you really do love each other ,it doesn't matter a whole lot
2007-07-08 16:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by caffsans 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The two of you together - the attendants are for BOTH of you, whther male or female. For example, you should have her brother as a groomsman, and your sister should be her bridesmaid.
2007-07-09 10:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While friends come and go, siblings will always be around.
2007-07-12 09:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by drruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋