I hate my Stepdad.?

Question

I really dont care for my stepdad.He is worthless and recently he has been picking at my nerves.He has no job and is living of my mom. He touches and takes my stuff which I dont mind until you dont give it back till 3 days later things like my laptop.
He doesnt talk to me or my bros.He only makes comments about stuff hes such a know it all. like when my cat got sck he said your feeding the thing to much food and sayss things dont blame it on me when the ***** dies. He doesnt contribute to the house everything we have was bought by my mom or grandma EVEN his damn shoes. He lays around messing with peoples stuff and breaking things. Ive cursed him out on 2 ocassions so its a mutal hate relationship. my mom is kind of getting feed up with it b/c she hides all the food so he has nothing to eat and she hasnt spoken to him in 4 days. Shes already kicked him out once. and that time she asked us if we wanted him to come back i said no i was the only one who had the balls to say no to his and her face. so i guess if he leaves again and he asks to come back imma say hell no. But what should i do.

I cant leave im only 16 but i can work i have had a few job offers.

she threw him out last time because he said he hated us kids.

Answer 1

Poor guy...life has to be a living hell. There is so much of that crap out there...your mom needs your strength right now. She's scared of being alone and trying to raise you kids. She needs to kick his @ss out, he is dragging her and you guys down....and for what? He certainly isn't contributing anything to the family except anger and contention. Your mom needs to know she doesn't have to put up with guys like that. I'd rather have no guy, than one like that. She "thinks" she loves him and who knows, maybe she does, but that don't make him a good person. You can love someone and they turn out to be a real jerk. You don't say how old you are, but maybe you can hang on for a few more years and get out on your own and away from all that crap. Maybe you can go live with relatives until he leaves? Talk to your mom. Tell her how hard it has been on you. Ask her if she won't make him leave, can you leave. I bet that should get her attention.

Answer 2

I think its time for a reality check or family intervention talk to your family and see if they can reason with your mum you said that he does not work and your mum puts the food away so that he cant eat why so how old are you if your legal i would suggest you start looking for a place of your own then at least your mum will know you mean it. its time you started caring about you too, lastly rather than hate the guy avoid him look for the positive ness you know someone doesn't need to be paid to work look for home improvement projects talk it out with both your mum and him set a target thus be busy not just a couch potato lastly how does your mum feel about the guy why did she throw the guy out the last time why does she not stand her ground why ask you wont know till you ASK !!!!

Answer 3

Better to support your mom as positively as you can. Stop the fighting with your step dad, everyone in your family knows he is a loser. I don't know how old you are, but maybe you and your mom's family can encourage her to get some counselling on the personal and legal side of ending her relationship with your stepdad. I am sorry she finds herself in this difficult situation. And I am really sorry you have to be a part of something this painful.

Answer 4

Sorry you are in this situation. First of all you need to tell your mom that she does not have to have this person in her life to make her feel better. If you Love our Lord God Jesus then you need to tell your mother that she just has to ask our Lord to be with her. I know you are hurting but the only father you need is Jesus Christ. Read John 3:16
If we put Jesus first in all or our lives we can live happily here on this earth.

Answer 5

I think you should calm down and let your mom take over. She knows you don't like him and she's beginning to understand that she doesn't like him very much either. Don't make it harder for her by complaining. Give it time and meanwhile, try to stay away from him as much as possible but don't argue with him. Just say "yes," and leave the room, if possible.

Answer 6

ok u can wok and save money then when u hit 18 leave immediately and until now try to tell your mum to get divorced from that man and if u can not then try to be away from that man as u can and as for your things hide them or even try to lock them good luck

Answer 7

Talk to your mom. Tell her that you will be her son forever, but if she doesn't throw this chump out now, then you will move out and be resentful to her for a long time: maybe forever. Add that she KNOWS that this guy isn't gonna last, so why drag it out and ruin the mother/son relationship?

Answer 8

The stepdad must be a wimp if he allows you to get outta pocket like that. Ever heard of respect your elders? But, since he's a wimp, you might as well just kick his ***. He'll probably just cry like a girly man anyway.

Answer 9

Reinforce your "NO" to your mother and point out that your siblings feel the same way but were afraid to say. Let her know that you support her and feel that she needs to have people in her life who respect her and he doesn't.

Answer 10

why dont you tell him to get a job or make him a deal tell him to get a job and thats the only way that he can stay with your family and its annoying even reading it.