The guy I like said this to me in our conversation online:
Well, in all honesty, I'm not really looking for a friend right now, and if you're looking for a boyfriend right away then I'm probably not him. I'd love to be your friend and then see where things go, but again, that's not what I'm looking for right away. Are you okay with that?
I don't understand because we went out on a date and it went well and he said that he wanted to get together again. Help!
2007-07-08 08:48:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, he certainly doesn't know how to put his words right. He's saying he's not looking for a friend but would still love to be your friend and see where it goes. I'm gonna have to say that probably he doesn't want anything to rush. I mean if he says "see where things go" probably he's thinking about a relationship but just doesn't want to admit to anything. Maybe he's nervous and just didn't put his words right when he was responding to you. I mean if you guys went on a date, then yea he's getting to know you and probably he would want to wait a little bit before asking you out. But ask him again, make him tell you a straight forward answer rather then what he wrote there, give him a look, not too serious but the next time you guys go out again, hold his hand and ask him, do you like me or something that you think is comfortable for him. If he still says the same thing, then maybe he is just being patient. wait around, but not too long, don't be worried. Hope this helps, best of luck.
2007-07-08 08:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by PJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to be nice, but is not interested in a relationship with you right now. As well. a friendship probably won't work to great right now because the both of you will have the relatinship confussion thing in the back of your heads. Take some time away from him. Do not contact him for a couple of weeks to a month. After the month call him up and go do something togehter and see if the chemistry is there. If not leave it for good. Good luck! Oh yeah, I know I'm not a guy, I have just had alot of experience with guys ;)
2007-07-08 15:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Doll_Partz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok...I'm not a guy...but I'm a girl that feels that this message is pretty clear...hope you don't mind my two cents:) It actually sounds kind of jerky...but boys will be boys..I'm sure he doesn't mean it to sound that way. It doesn't actually sound like he really KNOWS what he wants...other than...he wants to have his cake and eat it too. By saying he doesn't want a friend right now (the jerk part..you should always want friends..even in the people you are dating) ..he is saying he wants to be more than friends with you...i.e..sex. But in saying he doesn't want to be a boyfriend is...he's not ready to commit to just you....so...I say if you want him and are attracted to him...go for it...but stay in control, and CERTAINLY keep your options open (which is what he is doing).. If you guys just have fun for now and he sees how wonderful you are...he'll probably be begging YOU for commitment.....hope this helps!!! with love...good luck!
2007-07-08 15:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by littlemango 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic.
People are complex and sometimes they don't know what they want. It might be best to just go with the flow.
It sounds like he enjoyed the date, and probably likes you because he wanted to go out again. However, he might not be sure if he's ready for a romantic relationship.
Was he recently in a relationship that went sour?
I was and its playing hell with my head right now...I don't know what I want. Sounds like you're guy might be feeling the same way.
2007-07-08 15:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He likes you but you havent wowed him. He is leaving his options open. He has the door halfway open. He just wants a sex buddy. He will not be there for u when u expect him to and he justify that because he told you so. Dont expect too much from him.
2007-07-08 15:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what he is looking for and what you are looking for are two different things.
He does not want to be committed right now, and it sounds like you do want to be.
Just keep it as friends with no benefits. Benefits should only be with committment.
Good luck!
2007-07-08 15:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go out on another date and find out what he wants in person. Who knows you could have fun on the date with him.
2007-07-08 15:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's NOT ready for a relationship as bf/gf.He wants to get to know you better before.One step at a time.He wants to take it slow.
2007-07-08 15:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by Klingon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like me he probably has more important things to attend to
i'm not saying that your umimportant or anything
but he probably has to focuz in on other things right now
hope this helps
2007-07-08 15:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by bizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was trying to let u down easy cause he was being polite on the date and really doesnt like you
dont shoot the messenger
2007-07-08 15:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by J-Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋