What would you do if you snooped and found a chat session between your B/F and an ex that was very vivid about how much he misses sex with her and very "heated" conversation, saying how she "Rocked his world" and he might be able to see her this Saturday ( Ihave to work) and her telling him she still loves him? Meanwhile, he refuses to have sex with me, cuddle, kiss, hug, nothing, its like we are roommates. I have done everything to save this relationship, he hasn't done crap. I saved and printed off the chat session. Please give me some good sound advice on how to handle this. Thanks so much, I am so upset.
2007-07-08 08:41:28 · 18 answers · asked by msbrat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, I would dump him! I don't know about you, but I don't have time for immature games.
I think you have every right to be upset, because his behavior sounds pretty shady! Obviously he still has some feelings for his ex. When I first read your post I was going to say that maybe it's just nothing, but the "meeting on Saturday" and "missing sex" suggests otherwise. I would start by showing him the conversation and letting him know that you read the whole thing. Find out his response. Snooping or no snooping, you have the right to know if your boyfriend has his eye on someone else! You obviously had your reasons to snoop in the first place, which leads me to believe there's something else going on too. You'll have to figure out whether a relationship with a guy who misses sex with his ex-girlfriend so much is really worth saving. I can tell you from experince that it's NOT! Good luck.
2007-07-08 08:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this maybe, it sounds like your relationship is over. If your boyfriend is contacting his ex and is not participating in your relationship. It's time to say goodbye. Don't even bother showing him the print out of the chat he had. It'll only make things worse between you. Not to mention, that he may use it against you. You don't need him to feel like he has sound reason to break up with you. If I were you I'd just pack my things and leave. Don't even give him the option to apologize, because if you hadn't found the chat, think about how long you would have gone on thinking everything was OK. Trusty me. It'll be better for you in the long run, if you just walk away from him. You deserve someone who is devoted to you and only you. You are way better off without him.
2007-07-08 08:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what exactly I would do, because I shouldn't have been snooping in the first place. But since you did you discovered some heartbreaking news ( and you probably needed to know this so you can protect yourself). I don't know what your emotional make up is like, but it may be valuable for you to pretend you don't know what you know for awhile (if you can manage that) so that you can shore up your position in your favor before things hit a "flashpoint". You can protect yourself in the meantime by preparing yourself to be on your own; separating your finances, maybe buying your way out of your remaining lease or attempting to sublet your space if that's allowable. Distancing yourself emotionally won't be difficult under the circumstances...in fact it'll be hard not to, but play things as coolly as you can. You'll know when the right moment to confront the issue is upon you. Good luck to you.
2007-07-08 08:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not responding to you sexually because he still loves his ex. You need to cut him loose, girl. I know it's hard, but do you want to be with someone who's cheating on you? No, you don't. I would show him the copy of his chat session and tell him it's over, good-bye, adios, scram!! Better to find out now before it's too late and you have even more time and energy invested in this player.
2007-07-08 08:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can really do to save your relationship this time. Even if you did, would you wanna be with a cheater? My ex and I had a prblem like this. We worked it out and everything just kept getting worse from there. My advice to you is don't make the same mistake I did and end your relationship.
2007-07-08 08:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. You will feel better if you do. Find someone who appreciates you. Plus you should throw the conversation from the chat room in his face right after you slap him.
2007-07-08 08:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by critter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say sounds like it's over...
although you were proved right it is still wrong to snoop on people though so up to you whether you confront him with the evidence or just take the high ground and dump him with no explanation...
good luck hun
2007-07-08 08:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by pooterpet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same postion a year ago he had a kid with his ex and spent the night at her house to "visit the kid" if he really cared about you he wouldn't stray don't bring up the chat session just get rid of him before he can screw you over
trust me
2007-07-08 08:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. He's NOT WORTH IT! By the way, before you go, leave the print off as a souvenir.
2007-07-08 08:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pröƒé§§ôr♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that he wants to get back with her plain and simple. Talk to him and see if he can provide any reasonable explanation regarding this dishonest behaviour. If his explanations does not satisfies the boundaries that you two have in your current relationship, I would suggest you find another bloke who will give you 100% of his attention. Good luck!!
2007-07-08 08:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Leona 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋