How is it that if I know how to do ,and you don't, should I do for you ,and not be compensated ?

Answer 1

Because you're a good Samaritan and want to do good not for money.

Answer 2

I will tell you a story that may answer this riddle. A friend of mine came to my home and asked to borrow money from me, saying she would be over the next day to pay it back, weeks past and she didn't contact me at all, not even to say hello, how are you doing. I have never recieved the money back and felt that I lost a friend because she felt guilty for not paying me back. At first, I was angry, then I was hurt, and then I was resigned. Finally, I decided to think of it differently and I sent her a card in the mail. The card told her that her friendship was more important to me then the money that she had borrowed. The money was a gift. A one time gift, but a gift. Because of the way I handled the situation, she is aware that I am not able to "loan" her money again but that she was forgiven and that I value her friendship.

This may not seem relevent but if you consider the facts. Apparantly, you feel that your friends are taken advantage of your "knowledge" whether it be as a financial consultant, a physcian, a computer specialist, a carpenter, etc, it is irritating to you that your friends and/or family expect you to help them without compensation. I would write each of them a letter or send a card, an email, or talk face to face, that you value their friendship and didn't mind helping them once or twice but if they need your help in the future you will need to compensated. Just remember, though, compensation comes in many forms not just monetary. If you are a carpenter and you help fix a deck or put in a closet and they cook you a meal or take you out to dinner that is compensation.

As far as some of the previous posts about doing this out of the goodness of your heart, they must not know what it is like to be called upon constantly and sacrificing your time and energy to help someone sometimes an entire weekend and not being even offered gas money, food, or any other compensation. A friend of mine did a favor for his aunt and it was an outdoor project in 100 degree weather and she left and locked the door, never even offer him so much as a glass of water, so some people just aren't appreciative at all. Good Luck in helping your friends/family in understanding your feelings.

Answer 3

Did I agree to compensate you before you started? Then yes. Did you assume I would compensate you? No.

Answer 4

Got it! Always nice don't you think to go the extra mile for someone as I am doing for you right now. Do it because you feel good about yourself not because you want compensation.

Answer 5

If you are a mechanic or a doctor or some other professional, you should be compesated definately, but if you are a lawyer or a tax preparer or some thing like that and someone just asks you a question, no but the same rules apply when you are asked to represent or prepare taxes you should be paid even if it is family..

Answer 6

because to always seek to be 'compensated for everything one does for the world on some level or another, is not to have 'perfect love' in one's heart.God provides us with all that we need, according to our karma; better you should ask yourself :what can I do to compensate God for all that He/She has done for me?

Answer 7

It depends on what you did. Some people do things for others out of the goodness of their heart, not with $$ signs in their eyes.

Answer 8

All depends on what it is. HOw hard it is to do and why is it necessary. A new invention or mow my lawn then yes you should be conpensated.

Answer 9

definatly.