ok so i do have one problem with the girl i have been dating for 9 months now. once in a while she gets really smart at the mouth with me. example: today i took her into my work to show her some old photos, and i was reading one of the captions on it, when she turned around and said "thanks, i can read". now mind you i dont want to read too much into this b/c this just might be her personality and might do it with everyone. but how do i tell her that i dont like it when she says something smart to me! i dont want to start a fight, but i know that i am not the type that would say that to anyone b/c it does affect the person. so any help would be great. thanks!
2007-07-08 06:29:11 · 2 answers · asked by notcatchable 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to tell her that her sassy comments offend you and you'd appreciate it if she wouldn't do that quite as much. She probably doesn't realize she's bothering you and may not even realize she's doing it. If you tell her you don't want to start a fight over it and just discuss it calmly, she should understand. If this is a habit of hers, she's probably hurt other people's feelings too, so it would be beneficial to her to know. Good luck!
2007-07-08 06:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel about this episode, but did you ever stop to think she may have been equally insulted by your reading to her as if she were a child? Don't think of it so much as she was "smarting off at the mouth" as she was asserting her own independence and capabilities. Over time you'll find that can be an attractive and desirable trait in a mate because they can more capably have your back in situations that would cause lesser people to cave in. Always try to see both sides of an equation before rushing to judgement.
2007-07-08 13:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋