My sister is really selfish and I'm the kind of person who likes to give and give. We're only eighteen months apart and we're both really close friends. But she takes advantage of me.
It's like she's got no guilt-factor and she's always trying to one-up me. I try to stay mad and stop helping her out, but I just can't. Even after I told her that I would risk my life for hers even though I knew she wouldn't, she still can't get it through her fat head that she should be more grateful and stop trying to hurt me.
Grrrr... how do I deal with this?
2007-07-08 06:21:11 · 7 answers · asked by CandyxAcid 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2016-10-01 03:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel I have a younger sister who is selfish and ungrateful about everything, mostly because shes never been told no.
You say you've tried to stay mad at her, but you just cant. There's the problem you need to stay mad and stop helping her. Once shes realized she really hurt you and has lost you she'll come back and hopefully stop taking advantage of you.
2007-07-08 06:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just going to have to face the fact that you are the kind-hearted one and she is not. Perhaps she will mature with age, perhaps she won't. The only thing that matters is that you are the kind of person that you were meant to be. It's okay to give and give, but the day will come when you get to a point where you feel like you can't "give" her anything else...and that's okay.
2007-07-08 06:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like there is always one in a family. I would stop being so available to her, when she asks for something, just sweetly say "sorry I can't", or "maybe next time".
Start being busy with your friends, your activities, etc, and maybe she will get the message.
The more you do the more they expect, so if you back off and start doing less, when you do something for her she might appreciate it more.
Good luck!
2007-07-08 06:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ ♥Be Happi♥ ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hon....
having expectations of others to act a certain way, is a set up for a BIG let down!
everyone is different, and we all have to take care of ourselves FIRST.
don't give your sister opportunities to take advantage. don't do things for her (or other adults) they can do for themselves.
people who do things for others constantly, when others are capable of doing things for themselves, are considered codependent. it's really not a good thing.
try to be happy with YOU, take care of what you have to do for yourself, and let others do the same.
nothing wrong with being kind and helping sometimes, but sounds like you're neglecting YOU.
hugs
2007-07-08 06:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's jealous of you. It could be something as stupid as your hairs blond and she's brunette or maybe the guy she likes likes you! who knows try to include her in your giving (volunteering etc.) and maybe she'll come around!
Hope This Helps!
2007-07-08 06:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill her with kindness.
meaning - be super nice to her.
suffocate her with goodness.
it'll work.
2007-07-08 06:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋