im in a relationshipof 25yrs,got 2 kids,all of them I love dearly!!!recently, have chatted to someone on here,dont know him from adam!! dont know what he looks like!! but he makes my knees go weak!! I love hearing from him,ive never been able to talk to anyone like I do him!! in fact never disclosed anything to anybody like i do him!!! Iknow im infactuated by him!!! chatted before to others but hes different!!! i look forward to any chat we have, in fact cant wait(and i have to cause have to wait until kids have done!!!!)What advice can anyone give me!!!! and I know he will know questions ive asked!!!!cant name him!!!!!!
2007-07-08 05:43:31 · 15 answers · asked by kaza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A bit of infatuation never hurt anyone as long as you don't allow it to impact too much in your private life, perhaps you should try to find out whats missing from your present relationship first before embarking on a friendship with somene you have yet to meet. Good luck anyway x
2007-07-08 12:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Chunky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a marriage, you need to be faithful to that marriage. I know that I would be highly upset and feel very betrayed if I found out my hubby was talking to another woman online who he felt made his "knees go weak" and that he counted every minute until he could talk to her online again.
What you need to do is step back from the situation and ask yourself a few very important questions. Are you happy with your marriage, family and life as you have it right now? Are you willing to lose your marriage and family for this person you have never met? How would you feel if your hubby was doing this to you?
Nobody can answer these questions for you. That is something you will have to do yourself. I know it's not easy when you have a crush on someone, but crush's are just that. They come and go frequently....it's not something that is solid and lasts forever. I'm glad that you have found someone you feel you can talk to, but there are people all over the place who would be willing to chat with you, there are diaries if you have things that you just can't say to anyone....there are a lot of alternatives that won't cost you your 25 year relationship.
2007-07-08 05:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this some sort of hypnotic trance or something that keeps you from using spell check? "Infactuated" is not a word. No one in their right mind, including the person who has you "Infactuated" has any idea what you are talking about.
If you are talking about infatuated it seems you must be a little bit light headed to be all in a tither for someone you have never met. The first question you should ask him is if he thinks you need psychiatric help.
2007-07-08 06:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is healthy to do talk to someone over the Internet about your problems etc but remember the person he is on the Internet could be a totally different person in real life ! think about how your family would feel if they knew how you were feel in about this other man .. The fantasy is great but the reality may not be SO i say keep the fantasy going but no your boundaries hope this helped
2007-07-08 05:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club that I'm in. I've recently spent long hours chatting to someone, and it's really getting me confused. The 6-hour time difference doesn't help, either, cos I have to wait until the afternoon, and I'm often up all night. See my previous question, and you can join me waiting for a more helpful answer, cos the ones I have don't really sit right with me.
So, as I say, welcome to my world, and watch my last question with me.
2007-07-08 05:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're infatuated by the FANTASY that you have for this person. I've been in the same situation. You will find that the reality is very different. I've been in that situation too.
You can remain as you are and enjoy the fantasy or you can agree to meet up and confront your fantasy by facing reality.
2007-07-08 05:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by Stella S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its nice to have friends on line but the beauty on line is you can be whoever you want to be. You dont even know what he looks like. There is nothing wrong with a friendship but dont go further than that. Too many people would get hurt.
2007-07-08 05:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by HeatherzFeatherz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh lady, get your acts together!
Do you want to stray?
Do you just want to compliment the guy?
Well, he sure will know.
Still, do you really want to act on it? married with two kids against a person you've never even met?
Well, come on, imagine your partner were to read that? Would you like it if it were done to you?
2007-07-08 06:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you think you are obsessed with him is because you don't know anything about him.
I bet you sit there imagining yourself with him, wondering what he looks like, what you'll do if you met etc. etc.
I'll also bet that if you did meet, you would be disappointed because you have built him up so much in your head. If you did meet, he couldn't possibly live up to what you've imagined him to be.
2007-07-08 06:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bum Gravy. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
I can see you have affection for him. And I think it is natural, to like someone besides your husband.
But ( there is always a but :) )....you have to be careful. Do you really want to ruin your relationship with your husband for something that will pass?
Think about it. Your husband is there real...and this guy is virtual.
I'm not suggesting not to talk with him....just don't cross the line to make it real something that does not exist. ... :)
I wish you luck!
2007-07-08 05:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋