I have a fifteen year old brother named Kyle. He hangs around a group of kids that are no good. They smoke, skip school, sleep around and do God-knows-what. Kyle says he knows how to say no, but I'm his worried big sis. I'm afraid he might become one of them in the future. I can't seem to convince him that his friends are no good, so should I tell our parents?
2007-07-08 04:18:34 · 13 answers · asked by Mary Ann Arizmendi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes. It just may turn out to be the biggest favor you can do for your brother in your whole life. Hanging around with low-life losers can do nothing but lead to big-time problems. Be a GOOD sister to him. Express your concerns for him to your parents. Soon!!
2007-07-08 04:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY -- your parents need to KNOW if they are NOT aware as of this time of his change in friends or behaviors.
This is a cause for concern ... and an Education is very necessary in today's world. The RISKS to your health of smoking is well known ... and that he is choosing to 'hang' with these kids -- means more than likely he IS DOING it too ... the smoking, the skipping classes, etc.
I watched VERY CAREFULLY both of my children as they became teenagers ... and also worked with the school (especially with my son -- he was horrible about his 'choices' of so-called 'friends' -- whose parents were neglectful and downright dangerous -- letting those other kids drink alcohol *underage, smoke, do marijuana in the other homes, etc -- and yes, these horrible so-called 'friends' never finished HS either ... and skipped classes.
BELIEVE ME -- your BROTHER Will be MEAN and maybe VIOLENT and ANGRY with your parents and yourself by their grounding him and making sure he gets away from the bad kids -- (and yes, your parents need to work with the SCHOOL as well -- for I DID work with the School and the Deputy at the School to STOP the drug problem there -- I INFORMED every time of what I SAW and observed).
I SURVIVED -- and I was a Long Term Single Parent -- what made it more important to do this was the fact that all my children had disabilities -- and the Son was severe ADHD -- which meant that when he 'hung out' with these kids he was defeating the medical treatment he was receiving for his conditions ... and instead making himself WORSE ....
SO YES, DO tell your parents -- right NOW! Make sure that they check his school attendance record every day -- most school districts have the school reports on-line and that is the way that I checked real-time on whether or not my own teen was skipping school
RESULT -- MY children FINISHED and GRADUATED from HS -- and yes, that was more than those horrible so-called friends did. THEY have their basic education, and now ... as Adults .. they have the RESPONSIBILITY to do what they need to in order to finish college. One shot and that is it. IF They fail now ... it is THEIR FAULT -- and I am DONE!!!!
2007-07-08 04:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were my child I would talk to the bully's parents first and if that didn't get me anywhere I would talk to school officials to try and keep the bully away from my child. I would hope during the summer your bother could just avoid this guy at all costs. I mean he doesn't exactly have to hang around him or return his text messages does he? There isn't much more you can do if you have talked to the police short of putting a hit on the bully. It's really up to your brother to decide if he would feel better going away for the summer or just trying to stay away from this guy.
2016-05-21 04:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell your parents but it will only encourage him to go hang out with them more. No one wants to hear they can't hang out with their friends. And you may not realize this but, those may be the only friends he has. Therefore he feels like he can't leave them. Maybe you should just talk to your brother and find someone that went in the same direction of him, and where he is today. I never smoked, did drugs, or drank. Only because I saw what it did to a close friend. She currently is a unemployed single lonely mom of 4 at age 20. So talk to him and explain some serious consequences.
2007-07-08 04:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOu sound like a wonderful concerned and loving big sis Mary Ann, and I admire you for it because I had a wonderful loving big sis who also protected me in may instances.
Here is what I suggest:
1. Talk to Kyle again (unemotionally and quietly) and remind him of your concerns about his friends. Tell him you intend to talk to your parents and invite him to go with you at the same time.
2. Then do it.
Good Luck to you both....
2007-07-08 04:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will only resent you for "betraying" him.
Why not have a good friend or cousin or friend of the family "leak" the info? Just tell someone the story and don't make any accusations that aren't verifiable.
Why hasn't a truant officer been around yet?
Just love him in spite of himself. If you show him you care, without going into anything he considers negative feedback, you will be a step further.
2007-07-08 12:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by henry d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes-but do it in a way thats not "tattleing".The way you put it for us here shows you are concerned not just trying to get him into trouble so tell your parents in the same way.Make it clear to them as well if he is just hanging out whith these kids that do these things or if he he is doing them as well.Its wonderful that you care about who your little brother becomes,and that you have noticed he is not in the best situation.Even if by telling he just keeps saying no and still hangs out with the kids it will be a good thing!Good luck!
2007-07-08 04:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been with friends like that. It ruins you in the long run. You being his big sis, it is your responsiblity to help him. tell you parents. don't let him end up like them, you a sis, you are entitled to worry. Do something about it, before it gets to late! I'm around the age of your brother and my older sis is 22 and she got me out of that stuff really quick. In a way, she saved me, and i love her for it.
2007-07-08 04:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by **Amanda** 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should tell them. They may help steer him in the right direction. It takes a very strong spirit....like myself...to resist peer pressure, at the teen age.
2007-07-08 08:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's better to talk to your brother and tell him that you are really worried. if see his other friends do something really bad, tell your brother that it's better for him to find other friends. confronting your mother or father might make a difference or it will make your brother really mad that he will do something bad. if your brother is easy influenced by bad habits, it's better to talk to your parents. it's about how you trust your bro. if you are telling your parents, tell them to talk to your brother in a calm, reasonable way and not by shouting. also tell your brother that you did that because you love him and dont want him to be in danger. and even though he might hate you, tell him that that's how you are and that your worried and hope he will someday forgive you.
2007-07-08 04:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋