Can someone plz answer these questions for me..plz..about planning a wedding.?

Question

1.) What day of the week are you usually supposed to get married on?
2.) How far in advance do you have to book the DJ?
3.) When do you send out invitations?
4.) How far in advance do you have to book the place to be wed at?
5.) If I do not belong to a church, how do I get a preist to marry us?
6.) What things should I do first in planning a wedding?

We've been engaged since May of 2006 and just set the date last night...so I don't even know the first thing about planning a wedding and thought I'd start with those questions...thxs so much in advance.

Answer 1

1. Saturday is most popular because most people are off work.

2. As far in advance as possible. Start now.

3. 6 weeks ahead

4. As far in advance as possible. Some people book it up to a year in advance or more.

5. Do you mean specifically a priest or any preacher? Many protestant preachers will marry you even if you don't belong to the church. I don't know any priests as I am not Catholic.

6. Get the places for the wedding and reception booked.

Answer 2

1. Whatever day you choose will be a special day. Just don't have it near a holiday or someones birthday.

2. DJ's book pretty wuickly so the sooner you start looking for the right DJ the better.

3. Invitations are usually sent out 4 - 3 months in advance. Especially if you have a lot of out of towners.

4. The sooner you start looking the more choices of reception and ceremony sites for you to choose. So start early!

5. There are churches out there that you can get married at without having to belong to it. You will just have to talk to the priest there.

6. The first thing to do is to pick a date, then guest list, then budget.

My wedding planner is theknot.com. It has a checklist that tells you exactly what you need to do each month. This site is very helpful and also has list of cake vendors and djs, and all the vendors near you.

Answer 3

1. It really depends on the couple but usually on Saturdays (because some people like to end the night early on Sundays coz Monday's a workday)

2. As advanced as possible - if you are going after a popular one you might want to book it 6 months before or more so that you make sure you get him

3. You send out invitations 3-4 weeks in advance that way guests have time to reply to RSVP mail at the same time you can do headcount earlier. Most importantly, the guests will remember the date of the wedding. If it's too soon it might slip their minds.

4. A year before just to make sure, especially if it's the church that you really want to be wed in.

5. You can start by going to other parishes and talk to the priest yourself. As long as the priest is ok to officiate in your church.

6. Reserve the church and the venue. It's usually the first ones to get booked. Followed by your dress, your entourage and their clothes, cake, invites, sound system, bridal car, food and then the little details just follow.

Answer 4

Websites like the knot will help out some .you can get married any day of the week you want. Most do a Saturday or a Sunday.It is best to book a DJ as soon as you have a date and a location. that way you don't have to change with the DJ if you have to change the date because if the location you send you the invites about a month before the wedding and if out of towners are coming you could do save the date cards Or if you just want to let people know as early as possible they got out about 6 month before the wedding.
For a location that is as soon as possible.About a the church each one is different you will have to ask the priest.
The first thing you DJ is be excited then you figure out what kind of wedding you want (theme,causal,traditional,) and when you would like to get married.And start looking for a location. If you can afford to a wedding planer can help if not them There are great books out their like the everything wedding book. Also there are great sites like the knot, bunch of brides and etc.
Good luck and enjoy this time.

Answer 5

1) Usually Saturday - because that's when people already have a day off & can come to the wedding - also allows time for out of town people to arrive. Some places will give you a discount, howeve, if you choose a different day since Sat is soooo popular.

2) I would suggest 6 months unless you want a particular DJ who is in high demand.

3) Invitations are normally sent out 2 months ahead of time. They need to have an RSVP card w/ pre-stamped envelope as well so you will have a fairly accurate head count to give the caterer.

4) This is 1 of the first things you should book - alot of other decisions will be based around where you're going to be married.

5) You need to go around to a few different churches and just ask - some pastor's might be willing to marry you.

6) Sit down and talk to your parents about a budget (if they are paying for it).

You can email me if you'd like further details or instructions. I just got married last October so I know from experience when to do things and what to do. Goodluck and congrats on being engaged.

Answer 6

1) Doesn't really matter. Whatever works. I did friday evening.
2) 1yr or right after you know the wedding date.
3) Some people send out "Save the Date" invitations right after they've got everything reserved. But, that might get spendy for postage. For the Invitations I'd say 3-4mths out.
Save yourself some money and make your own invitations.
4) 1-2 yrs out depending on the high demand of the location.
5) There's actually a 1-800 # for retired judges that perform wedding ceremonies. Ask the place where you buy your marriage license.
6) Decide where you want to get married and find out what dates available. Don't forget to do the tastings. That's the fun part. Try to keep it simple. It's easy to get carried away. Talk to a couple of hotels for guests to stay.

Answer 7

Wow, glad you FINALLY set a date - hope it's not far away! Usually people get married within a year of getting engaged!
There is no SUPPOSED to as to the day of the week, though most people choose Saturday, because most people are off from work, and can trave.
Usually, the date of the wedding is determined on whether you can get a minister and church for a particular day, then you book other things after that. If you are Catholic and want to get married in a church, but are not a member of a particular parish, go talk to a priest in your local church to find stuff out. You will have to have premarital counselling, and other stuff depends upon whether your bf is Catholic or not.
Depending upon where you live, some reception sites need to be booked a year in advance, same with a caterer. Just do some calling around to find out. Check with the dj, too.
For invitations, they need to be sent out six to eight weeks before the wedding.
SO, you need to START by getting an officiant for the ceremony....
Good luck!

Answer 8

I'm getting married in 2 weeks (July 22) after a 20 month long engagement...here are my answers
1. Saturdays are what people ususally do so more people can come, although the reception halls are cheaper on Friday nights and Sundays.
2. We booked ours 9 months in advance (it depends on if you're getting married during a busy season)
3. You send them out 8- 10 weeks before the wedding so they have time to make plans and send back response cards.
4. You need to book it as soon as possible, without a place for the wedding, you can't book anything else.
5. Call the council of churches in your area (what we had to do) or ask people you know if they know anyone.
6. First you should book the location of the wedding and reception. Then try www.theknot.com or google wedding planning websites, they help a lot.
If you need anymore help don't hesitate to email me :)

Answer 9

1. The day of the week doesn't matter, Saturdays are usually more convienant for guests, but more expensive. You can usually get a discount on venues and services on other days, I'd stick to a weekend day, if you plan on having a big wedding, it will be easier for guests to attend.
2. Usually 6 months to a year to be safe. Once you pick your date, start calling DJs that you have in mind to see if they are free.
3. About 6 weeks prior to the wedding.
4. Same as DJ and everything else, at least 6 months to a year. Some venues have up to a 2 year waiting period. You can put doown a deposit now to hold the date on everything, like caterer, DJ, cake maker, officiant, venues, etc... and pick the specifics, like menus, flavors, songs, closer to the date.
5. If you want to be married by a priest, you may have to join the church, but talk to the one you are interested in having marry you to be sure. Remember, there are other officiants that can marry you. We are an officiant service, in Tx (www.lovewithnoboundaries.com) you can look for one near you by searching on the internet, or contact oyur courthouse for other options, like a JP.
6. Find a checkoff list, from wedding internet sites, or in a wedding planning book from a bookstore. It should give you a timeline of where to start and what to do. I think reserving your venues and service personel would be the first place to start.
Best wishes, and have fun!

Answer 10

Lots of people choose Saturday because it, and the next day, are not working days for most people. Friday evenings are also popular (and will likely be less expensive for the venue, food, and maybe even DJ and photographer). If you're planning a punch-and-cake, or light hors d'oevre reception, then you might choose a Sunday afternoon.

It depends on where you live and on the DJ. We're booking ours ten months in advance (he already has bookings around our wedding date). Check with local DJs.

Invitations go out about six weeks before the wedding, earlier if your wedding is around a holiday, or some other date that guests might need advance notice to plan around. In this case, you might send "save the date" cards. But be careful with "save the dates". Once you send it, you will be obligated to invite those people to the wedding, so don't send the cards until you're absolutely sure about your final guest list.

Again, depending on where you live and what kind of venue you want, you may need to book a year or more in advance. Start looking around and deciding where you want to hold the wedding, and book it as early as possible. Nice places go quickly. We booked ours a year in advance, and some of the places we were considering were already booked.

You can hire a wedding officiant (either a minister or a lay person), or one of your loved ones can be ordained over the Internet (check Progressive Universal Life Curch, for one--there are others). If you go this route, check with your local authorities to be sure it's legal--I sent an e-mail to our county office, so I have it in writing. If you're dead-set on a Catholic priest, then go to your local parish and talk to the priest about this.

Register at helpful websites like theknot.com, or brides.com. They have lots of resources and information and checklists. Go to bridal shows/expos in your area. Usually you can get free tickets, and you can see what all the vendors have to offer and what they'll charge. Set a budget! Determine your guest list. Many of the other decisions will follow.

Congratulations!