A few months ago I asked my mom if she could make me an afghan. I went out and bought all the materials, it cost about $50. The reason I wanted her to make it is A) I can't knit or crochet and B) she's getting older and I wanted something I could have as a family heirloom, just from her. The problem is she couldn't do it so she gave everything to my aunt who has now went ahead and made a baby blanket from the materials. I am very upset because I already had a new blanket for the baby and I really wanted the blanket for myself. I feel like my mom didn't listen to a word I said and did what she wanted. If I had wanted a baby blanket I wouldn't have asked for an adult sized afghan. I almost burst out crying when she told me my aunt had finished the baby blanket. I know it's just an afghan but I feel so disappointed. Is it just my hormones going into hyperdrive(I'm 23 weeks with my 3rd) or do I really have a reason to be upset? All I wanted was a piece of my mom.
2007-07-08 03:31:00 · 8 answers · asked by Lostlove 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I love when 15yr olds on this site like to criticize pretending to know it all.....
Yes hon, it could be your hormones, that just make you have a little less patience for stupidity, but you also have a right to be a tad pissed off.....You spent $50, asked your mom to make it, if she couldn't make it, she shouldn't have taken on the project....If she was being nice and wanted to do it, then realized she couldn't she should have asked you what you wanted to do with your supplies.....Now, not to be a "nag", maybe it is time for you to learn how to crochet....Doing a straight single or double stitch is not hard I swear....it is a very calming craft, that you can do/take anywhere with you....When I was pregnant with my third actually, I took up crocheting. I tried to do one "skien"(wad of yarn) a day.....I had an afghan in no time.....I understand you wanting an heirloom from your mother, but my dear, you already have that, your own children!!!!......If she hadn't have had you, you wouldn't have them.....They are your legacy, not something the dog or the moths can chew up.....Make one for your daughter(s), maybe you'll be the one to start a new tradition.....Let go of being angry at your mom/aunt, you don't need the stress while pregnant....okey dokey??? best of luck with the new baby, congrats!
2007-07-08 03:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully this solution will work for you.
The most important thing is the fact that you wanted a piece of your mom.
Go to your aunt and explain this to her. Explain that you told your mom this and so you were distressed when she passed the yarn on to your aunt without telling her what you had stated you wanted. Explain that you felt the most important gift your mom could give you was a gift of herself and her talent, and that now, you don't have this.
Thank your Aunt for the lovely baby blanket. Explain that your distress is a result of still not having a special piece of your mom added to the normal mood swings of pregnancy.
Ask your aunt for her help. Possibly there's something your mom has that has really special meaning and would also be an excellent momento of her. Your aunt may have some suggestions that would fulfill your need and desire.
She tried to do a good thing by making the baby blanket, and she probably had no idea what your intentions had been. It sounds like your mom is not up to the task you requested of her and that is sad, but maybe your aunt can help you find a good alternative.
2007-07-08 05:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably your hormones. It's hard to get through, but you can do it. After your aunt gives you the blanket, why not get with your mom and get her to show you HOW to make an afghan and build onto the baby blanket (around it) to make and adult sized quilt? It would have even more meaning to you if you do it together. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-07-08 03:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are right both times. Yes you have a right to be upset since you paid for the materials. If they didn't want to do what you wanted, the materials should have been returned. And yes, they aren't listening. Be more explicit as to what you want and why. And then listen to see if they "got" it.
2007-07-08 03:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother -- now gone since 1994 -- did a beautiful needlepoint for me of our mutually-favorite bird -- a red cardinal... and signed it in needlepoint. It hangs in my living room, and probably rates as my MOST prized possession. I'm SO glad that she voluntarily expended that loving effort, and provided me with such a treasure.
So I very much can understand why you're so upset.
See if you can give her another try at it. You'll never regret it!
2007-07-08 04:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being so selfish. There's a whole houseful of stuff for you to take to have material things from your mother later. She couldn't do it, your aunt did what she was able to. Be grateful or learn to do it yourself.
How do you think your daughter is going to feel when she says, mom, make me something, and you can't do it?
2007-07-08 03:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I really think you should talk to your mom about it. Otherwise you will be resentful everytime you think about or see your mom. Tell her and see what she says. Maybe you would like to ask your Aunt for some money back??
2007-07-08 03:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you're overreacting....get more materials and ask your aunt to do the adult size....3rd kid on the way and your acting like a spoiled child....chill...
2007-07-08 04:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋