No, to focus his attention on the family, perhaps you should have found a guy who wanted one. Not some guy who still hangs out with his friends while his girlfriend and two kids are at home.
Why would you have a child, let alone two, with a man you aren't married to, has made no lifetime promises to you? What are you going to tell the kids? Mommy had some fun once, you two were accidents, and Daddy really didn't love us enough to make the commitment.
That should do wonders for their mental health.
2007-07-08 03:30:01
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answered by janicajayne 7
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If it is once in a while and not all the time, there is nothing wrong with needing to get away for a bit. We all need reality breaks. If he is staying out for long periods of time, you may need to worry. If he is a good father and husband, let him do what he wants. Don;t suddenly become unpredictable just to show him up. Tell him you want to go to a day spa and he needs to watch the kids for a day.
2007-07-08 03:30:40
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answered by harleychic 4
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I have a similar problem with my man. I thought maybe being unpredictable would work but it hasnt so far. I just get more annoyed. I think you should just get comfortable with the way things are and stop wanting more. You are getting married and you have kids. If you want more tell him and plan some activities. Maybe this is just how it's gonna be. Get happy with it or change it. :-) Predictablity is stability so I wouldnt change your daily routine. Just add some spice like activities together with your kids or without them. Good luck!
2007-07-08 03:31:00
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answered by LilybearPDP 2
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Figure out how much of your income is discretionary cash. Split this amount. You spend yours how you want. He does what he wants. Pehaps you might agree to pool the funds and do something together.
Agree that if he gets one night out, then the next person to get "going out time." is you. You don't have to go spend all your money, go visit mom, or see a movie with a friend. And switch off with him.
He'll focus his attention on the family while he's got the kids to himself while you go out.
Win/win.
2007-07-08 03:37:54
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answered by Puresnow 6
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you both need your own space from time to time... you both need your own friends and should be able to hang out with them without the other one being there.. Don't expect him to be with you and your kids 24/7 365 days a year.. Both of u need to get out once in a while and do your own thing
2007-07-08 03:30:12
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answered by Kat 4
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Not unpredictable per se but do more stuff without him and from time to time stick him with the baby sitting duty to do it. Men don't respond to words(nagging) they respond to action(s)
2007-07-08 03:31:14
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answered by Wildfire 3
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You shouldn't play games with him. The success of your (or any) relationship rests on open communication. If you feel he's encroaching on your space, let him know. Say something like, "you know how much I like having you around, but I really have to ...... today. Can we get together .....?"
2007-07-08 03:30:15
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answered by Michelle H 5
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whatever it is, agree on it. even agreeing to disagree is better than being completely off it. and focusing all attention on the family isnt great either. you need some alone time, as does he.
2007-07-08 03:33:45
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answered by suni 5
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hmmmm dosent sound good to me at all, but im ot so sure sounds to me like hes trying to get awaya from it all you know. keep your head up!!!!
2007-07-08 03:31:42
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answered by cyberoy17 1
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wake up girl that marriage! sound like your not ready
2007-07-08 03:40:30
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answered by dagoodchef 3
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