Don't you think that is dangerous? They have been talking for about 8 months. Should I say something? Some people say I should but she won't listen if I did.
2007-07-08 03:18:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Adding that she is 36 years old(older than I), so her parents can't stop her....they don't know either.
2007-07-08 03:22:00 · update #1
Also, he was going to come here but then made some exuse and now she is going there.
2007-07-08 03:30:36 · update #2
she is going to do what she wants to do... i mean you can give her your advice but i think she is just going to go.. maybe you should tell her parents or something... maybe they can help.. or maybe they know that she is going...
2007-07-08 03:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am Egyptian and a Muslim by the way, but this has nothing to do with my opinion. I believe there's always a risk involved in meeting someone in person who you met online, whatever their religion or nationality. So she should always be careful. He may be a psychopath, he may be living in extremely poor conditions which she may not be able to put up with. But he may also be perfectly normal. I say the best solution would be to suggest they meet on "neutral ground", could also be in Egypt, but at some seaside resort, where they can get to know each other a bit better before being "sucked up" into his world.
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PS: I can't believe how ignorant people are about other cultures, and how unashamedly they decide to share their ignorance with others. janicajayne, I've lived in Egypt most of my life and I can tell you for a fact that women are NOT "treated like dirt" there, that they enjoy all the freedoms they want, they dress anyway they want (I always dress in so-called "Western" clothes there), choose their partners etc. Get over your prejudice please and be open to learn something new.
2007-07-08 10:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by AL 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Meeting someone off the internet can always be dangerous, especially if you are traveling long distances to meet this person, but its not always a bad thing. This guy I work with went to australia to meet a woman from on line and now they are married and have a child on the way. Its not something that I'd recommend or ever do, but it works for some people. All you can really do is support your friend and tell her to be cautious because they do have alot of sick people on the internet!
2007-07-08 10:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley*Belle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Egypt is a very dangerous place to go at the moment. Especially for a westerner. You need to do something. Talk to her family. This could be a trap and end in tragedy. Why doesn't the Muslim go to her? It would be way safer. Try your best to stop her.
2007-07-08 10:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you care about her safety and that there is a lot of potential for harm. Be sure to tell her that even though you dont know him and that he must be a great guy for her to be so enamored over him, ultimately you want to make sure that she wioll be smart and safe just in case anything does happen. I would go so far as to giver her the number to the closest home country Embassy just in case. Wish her well and happiness because if she is like any girl I know, she will do whatever it is she has her heart set on regardless of what you tell her. The more support you show her while showing concern for her safety, hopefully the more rational she'll be about the situation.
2007-07-08 10:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Meeting anyone on line, no matter what their race or religion or anything can be extremely dangerous.
It could be a scheme of some sort to get her out of the country, steal her identity, steal her possessions.
It could be fine, but I would believe to err on the side of safety and caution in this case.
I don't really know what you can do to stop this, as she is of legal age and can make her own decisions.
If you have a close relationship with her parents and feel that you should tell them what is going on without upsetting them too badly, you should do so. If your friend does end up going out of the country to meet this person and anything bad happens, you will feel very guilty for not telling them beforehand.
If she will not listen to you, she may still keep your concerns in the back of her mind which may ultimately sway her judgement of this whole situation.
If all of these people who are on the Internet purporting to be so eligible and available were actually so wonderful; why would they have to be meeting people from long distances away????
I had one friend who joined one of the on line dating sites and she "met" three men to date, and went on exactly one date with each of them and they had all told fibs to some extent, from age, height, looks, singleness, employment and so forth.
Date number one with person number three was the end of her membership. The person was an unemployed man in his fifties that was basically still living at home with his elderly parents who were desperate to get him out on his own and went along on the date to sing his praises...Yikes. She has resorted to meeting and dating in the old-fashioned and much safer way....meeting real people in everyday situations.
Anyone else who is single that I know has no trouble finding a real person to date within a reasonable distance from their home.
There has to be something seriously wrong with your friend, no offense; for her to be willing to go off to another country to meet with someone. Any real man would be traveling to meet the woman.....please speak up to her and then her parents. She may get upset, but it is for her own good.
I wish you well and I hope your friend rethinks this whole thing.
2007-07-08 10:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is very dangerous but they are not as bad in Egypt as in other places, Worry first about your friends salvation because if he teaches her to believe in the Quran Jesus Christ will turn her away when she dies and she will fall into the pit. Only by knowing that only Jesus can take her to God will she live.
2007-07-08 10:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, egypt isn't one of the more radical of the countries in that region of the world, so it may not be too bad. i'm guessing she isn't muslim herself, which may not be a great thing for their relationship, unless she knows a lot about the religion already. try to talk to her anyway, ask her if she can convince this guy to come to the u.s. instead.
2007-07-08 10:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy Celt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey not all Muslims are bad maybe you got the idea of muslims are evil there terrorists but not all of them are like that
Egypt is beautiful if u think its dangerous then give her a piece of ur mind
2007-07-08 10:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she won't listen, what's the point? If she's stupid enough to travel to another country where she knows that women aren't protected and are treated like dirt, then she deserves what she gets.
2007-07-08 10:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think, that if you're really worried go with her. Or at least TRY to stay in contact. Give her your 2 cents on the idea B4 she leaves.
If she leaves anyway, all you can do is stay in contact with her.
2007-07-08 10:23:46 · answer #11 · answered by Reagus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋