I am to be matron of honour at my friends wedding. Its her 2nd marriage and she has fallen in love with a beautiful white wedding gown, I personally think it would look better in another colour but she insists white is the thing for her. What do you think?
2007-07-08 02:48:35 · 32 answers · asked by ? 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I AM very supportive to her and I havent voiced my concerns about her choice. I was just thinking..thats all.
2007-07-08 02:54:07 · update #1
I am 43 and when I get married again it is going to be off-white or champagne or taupe. But I am old-fashioned that way. To each her own.
2007-07-08 02:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm repeating almost ALL of the prior answers, I say it is HER wedding, let her choose what she wants. As a recently married 44yo (it was my 4th), I had a very hard time trying to please everyone else until my best friend reminded me that it was MY wedding! I found a beautiful pewter colored dress (never even considered white because I look terrible in white!) and we got married in the courthouse because we couldn't find a judge or pastor that wasn't busy on the day we chose. We still had a great reception on that day, in spite of an F5 tornado that hit a few miles away the night before knocking out the power, we just set out candles and went on with it. It doesn't matter about her age, or whether it's her "first" wedding, it is HER wedding and HER decision. If she finds the PERFECT dress, then she should wear it!
2007-07-08 05:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the long ago, original, idea behind the white gown was that it was a symbol of purity and virginity. That was back at a time when women were little more than "property". The man could cat around all he wanted, but the female was not to be allowed out of her virginal packaging until, usually very young, she was "unwrapped" by her husband. Well, we've all come a long way from those oppressive days, and although the tradition remains, let's face it, it no longer carries any significance.
So to heck with it, a woman ought to go ahead and get married in any color she fancies as long as it's tasteful and doesn't turn what is supposed to be a somewhat serious event into a clown act.
2007-07-08 03:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Things have loosened up a lot regarding white at a second wedding. In my own opinionated beeyatchy way however, I think a big foofy long white wedding gown looks kind of silly on any other but a younger woman. And if it is a toned down wedding, the bride in the ultimate white gown will look overdone.
White being ok, I just don't think it is a flattering color on most people!! And in keeping with the "it's you day sweetcakes, you do everything you want to do", wouldn't Cinderella want to wear the most flattering color possible on her Big Day?
2007-07-08 02:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she was widowed, I'd say okay, but if she was divorced, she'd probably be better off going with maybe a beige color, but it's her choice. Now if she was shacked up with this guy, white is just plain tacky, because white is supposed to symbolize purity, and there's nothing pure in shacking up. Funny how so many women who want a traditional wedding aren't doing the traditional thing by not having sex until their wedding night. In the days of white wedding dresses was when my grandparents got married. She most certainly was NOT property to my grandpa. He loved her as his equal, because she was. So whoever thinks men in those days viewed women as property, sorry, try again.
I wore white at my first wedding, my husband and I didn't have sex until our wedding night, and should I become widowed, I won't have sex again until I get married, only then I'm actually going to wear comfortable clothes.
2007-07-08 09:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
traditionally, White was supposed to be for the young virgin,or whatever, in her first marriage and everyone else was supposed to wear off-white,or something. But times have changed. There aren't many young virgins left and second and third marriages are becoming more and more commonplace. Usually women going into a second marriage or so wear lavender or something because they CHOOSE to, but it isn't mandantory. I think White is fine,though. I think it's the most appropriate color dress for any wedding, regardless of what number it is. Besides, a second marriage is a new beginning and a chance to start over with a clean slate, so in a way, it's actually quite suiting.
2007-07-08 03:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Understood 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There are no rules to say she shouldnt but personally i think for a second edding then this is a mock she has been married once she should have another colour champagne or beige anything but white but then it is her day so if thats what she wants let her have that her choice...at the end of the day its not you that will be talked about on the day for wearing white it ill be her
2007-07-08 05:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FWIW, I will be 46 at my 2nd wedding next year and will wear white. Completely appropriate. Heck, if white were reserved for virgins, hardly any brides would wear white! Like someone said, on her wedding day, she can wear whatever color she wants. Usually it's the other way around, the bride tells the matron of honor what color to wear. :-)
2007-07-08 06:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree it's up to her really, but if it suits her and looks good on her, go girl ! I've gone for ivory, really just because I don't like that stark white, but am proud to be wearing a proper gown. It's understated, not over decorated, but I shall feel great in it, and that's what really matters I guess.
I guess I feel that because it's his first and my second, then I should not hold back, we are having the proper sit down meal, civil ceremony and that. I will be happy to do that for him as well as me, my first wedding was at the whim of others' wishes, this sure isn't :) it's ours :)
2007-07-08 08:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by Yorkieowner-7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 42 year old woman is in a white dress 2nd marriage is not kosher. Her and the new Yubby should be at the court house. Getting the ceremony done by the judge. Maid of honor and Best man is their also. Friends can be invited but the hole city of Detroit is not invited. A nice summer dress is what she should be wearing. The groom and BM can wear shorts and clean bowling shirts and shower clogs. Then you can wear jeans and 4 inch heals and a tank top with no bra. Did you say that the reception was a hoe down at th trailer park.????
Try and talk hre out of the white wedding cown. You can tell her your goin to wear jeans heels and tank top. If she doesn't change her mind.
2007-07-08 03:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by Gerald 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think she can wear any thing she wants - white is perfectly appropriate and a valid fashion choice. It is no longer required that a second wedding be a thing of shame or that white is reserved for "virgin brides" - it's 2007. Be a good friend and MOH and keep your opinion to yourself. Be happy for her and wish her luck
2007-07-08 05:53:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋