Ive been in a relationship for about 10 months, and i have an amazing boy friend! But he likes to flirt with other girls.I have talked to him about it. He says he thinks there hot but that it dosent mean he likes them, and i sopse that has some truth but it still makes me feel hurt and jelous.
2007-07-08 02:09:41 · 13 answers · asked by bubbles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make anybody do what they don't want to do. I think what you need is a new boyfriend. If he loved you and respected you he would never do that in front of you. So why don't you tell him that you're braking up with him, so that he can go flirt all he wants, because that is a behavior that you won't stand for in a relationship. Stand up for yourself and don't take it anymore. He's got no right to treat you that way,
Obviously he is not mature enough to be in a serious relationship.
so why don't you let him go and find someone who is.
good luck
2007-07-08 02:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys flirt. The difference is when it's just for play & when he's looking for other girls.
I work with a guy that is a tremendous flirt. His wife is very understanding & often plays along with his joking. However, if she asks him to stop, he stops. They have an understanding that if it begins to make her uncomfortable, he stops.
I would compromise. Tell him that while you don't mind him doing a *little* flirting, you would prefer that he doesn't lay it on heavy. In return, tell him that you will flirt along side of him & girl watch with him. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that another girl is attractive (it won't make you a lesbian) & doing this may actually take him back a pace or two. This is one of the things that my co-worker & his girl do together as a compromise.
In the end, this is a facet of your guy's personality that you will have to learn to deal with in order to be with him. Some guys are just naturally flirtatious. However, if at any time you believe him to be doing more than just flirting, nip it in the bud. If he doesn't seem to change, dump him for someone else.
2007-07-08 02:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell him, openly and honestly, how it makes you feel. Think carefully first to make sure you're not overreacting - is it any girl he meets, or is it just a handful of old friends? Does he do it around you, making you feel ignored in the process? Think carefully about why exactly it hurts you. Some jealousy is natural, but make sure you're not letting yours get out of hand.
If this is the only problem with your relationship, I suggest you do your best to work it out. This means working together. The solution isn't "he needs to stop flirting with everyone all together" because flirting is a fun and harmless activity, as long as it doesn't interfere with your current relationship. The solution is probably closer to he needs to flirt with you more than he flirts with other girls, and you need to come to terms with the root of your jealousy. He doesn't feel these girls are any threat to your relationship; you do. You both need to work on it to find out how to fix the situation. You can only do that through open, honest communication. Don't yell or get angry. Be calm, and realise that his flirting probably has nothing to do with his feelings about you. You may need to forgive him the occasional flirting, and he may need to forgive you the occasional bout of jealousy.
Of course, if his flirting ever leads to cheating, then you have to let him go. But until it does, work it out!
2007-07-08 02:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
You say your boyfriend is amazing..How amazing can he be if he's flirting with other girls? Especially in front of you..What does he do when you're not with him?
He's being disrespectful to you..And has absolutely no regard for your feelings.
Tell him either he stops flirting with other girls, or you're to find another boyfriend..If he ignores your wishes..Then get on with your life, and find someone else!
2007-07-08 02:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a pig and he's lying. I'm a guy, I know, so take it from me. If a guy flirts, that means he likes who he's flirting with. If he's not serious with you now he'll never be. Later in life, while you're pregnant with his kid he's going to be out banging other women, so dump him now and get someone who'll appreciate you and not half the women in the world.
2007-07-08 02:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Rock Hard 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Older men tend to flirt more. It generally is just their way of being nice. With that said, I think this was over the top.
2007-07-08 02:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just be confident in your boyfriend's relationship with you, trust him, and just realize that some people are flirtatious. That doesn't mean he's going to go date them after you turn your head. Jealousy makes the soul tired.
2007-07-08 02:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you start flirting with other guys and see how your b/f copes with that he'll soon stop flirting x
2007-07-08 02:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by stevie-b-101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first if he is flirting with other girls, go and tell one of your good guy friends, and see if they will go and tell him to stop, cause seriously if it bothers you, he should stop, or never have started, YOU are his g/f...you deserve to be treated like the world does not comapre to your beauty, and the warmth of your embrace.
2007-07-08 03:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by Nick W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what you would be better off just dumping him he is a bum and a pig . he would cheat on you in a heartbeat if given the opportunity . dump him . find someone who will treat you nice and kind .
2007-07-08 02:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋