one of my parents wrote a letter on a laptop about some family members. it was not intended to be mailed. composed as a journal. it is heart wrenching, and cruel. actusations that are not at all true about us. there is a main house on lots of acres in which she lives in. there is a employee's house for some one else to live in. this place has been in the family for 4 generations. all in very good conition. kept by by everyone in our family's.through all these years. now the little house stands vacant due to this one family member being a desendant of the ranch makes it impossible to stay there. the thing i can not understand is she is my bio mother. what do i do to stop this coas? we found out my dad has cancer.he needs one us there to upkeep all this property while he is sick and recovering? she can't and won't .doesn't want to pay the help.my dad doesn't know. do i share the letter with my family secretly w-o my dad? or keep acting like i don't know her real thoughts?crushed soul
2007-07-08 01:26:08 · 11 answers · asked by grlcp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother may be stressed out. Knowing the letter was not intented to be mailed, that may have been her way of venting and getting it off her chest so she can deal with the situation.
If the accusations are serious and cause cause legal problems, i'd say yes share it with the family members, to protect all of you.
But if it is just a letter of her being mean and spiteful and 'venting' leave it be. You could cause more harm if its just her spouting off.
2007-07-08 01:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You found it; it was not given to you to read.
That could be titled as snooping and or you don't really know if the person was journaling because they were hurt or upset.
Meaning it was for their eyes only. I know I keep a journal just to vent...if someone took everything I wrote seriously and thought that they should share it I WOULD BE TICKED!
If you feel like you should do something, talk to the person that wrote it. See what their response is....giving them the chance to be up-front and honest. If you are still concerned then choose to do something but not until they have the chance to validate what was written.
Just my thoughts.....
2007-07-08 01:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, I'm so sorry. I think you should share it with others because nothing good will come of it being harbored down in your soul. You should not attack your mother or anyone, just know that she has these feelings and the rest of you can maybe work in a positive way to get things right. Just don't cause a huge family stink about it - just use it to be productive and deal with it matter of factly. Am sending good vibes your way..... :(
2007-07-08 01:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A journal is a place where you can write down your innermost thoughts. It doesn't necessarily mean that you will act on those thoughts. It's very private and I think you should stay out of it. Your Bio mom must have her reasons for feeling that way.
2007-07-08 01:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Funny Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart, dear one. The best thing, in my opinion, is to share this with your family! Your dad needs help, and your family ought to ban together for his good. Of course you are crushed, who wouldn't be? Let others help you bear this burden. And get some comfort for your dad. Blessings to you, dear soul.
2007-07-08 01:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do what you think is right .. She is your mother......They r your family...... you need to do what is proper to take care of your dad...w/o upsetting him now or he will get worse.... Go there help them all get on thier feet again... Maybe then she will see as she is not thinking w/ the stress of the sickness... Good luck.....
2007-07-08 01:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business. Your invasion of privacy will do nothing but cause more trouble. Maybe that's what you want. You have no business reading personal mail on a laptop any more than you would taking a letter out of a mailbox and opening it. Shame on you.
2007-07-08 01:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do not burden your father yet. Talk with your Mother and see what is going on... Your dad needs all of you at this time.
2007-07-08 01:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds to me like something which should be handled by adults. It may require some legal action to straighten matters out.
2007-07-08 01:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, if anything speak to your mother about what you came across on the computer. There maybe more going on then you know about.
2007-07-08 01:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋