i am 20, nearly 21 and still a single bloke. why is this?

Question

i have tryed dating and going on the pull, but end up being the only one who doesnt get anywhere.. most of the time alot of women think i aint good enough for them, which i think is rude. most of the time sum just pick on me and im tired off it. its usualy white women that are like this towards me for sumreason.

Answer 1

why do you worry?Hey,I'm girl aged 20 and single(since Decembrer last year).I went on some dates but we didnt ended up being together.Never mind!I know I'm young...and you're young too!!just dont be desperate and dont seek a girlfriend!I'm absolutely sure if you wont seek anyone,she will find you!!Just relax!She will come...good luck x x x

Answer 2

If the people you try to be with think you're not good enough, maybe you're looking for the wrong type? Why not sit down and figure out what you REALLY want, then compare that to what you've been looking for... See a difference?

Lot of people are single. I think we've come a long way in a short time from the people who left school, got married, and never questioned dating. Our 'little corner of the world' is getting bigger and dating is getting to be a totally different activity now than before. Look at your grandparents, for instance.. When they got married, it was expected. Dating/courting was because you needed to have a family... Life was to have a family. Now we're career/goal oriented and being with people is more a choice than an expectation and it's changing...

Lots of people are single. Why not join a group or club (may I suggest www.meetup.com?), and maybe try meeting somebody that way? Find someone with a simelar interest and that might help you out.

Answer 3

To shed more light on your situation, I'd need to know a little more about you. But I can offer you some general insight: women can sense desperation, and it puts them right off. I don't know if you're coming off desperate--like I said, I don't know enough about you. Confidence is attractive. Not to be confused with cockiness though! Just feel genuinely good about yourself. Try not to have a defeated attitude when you've only just met a woman.

Another trend I've noticed is that the more people have been attracted to you, the more attractive you become to more people in the future. (I don't mean just physically.) I think it's because, if you've already had a relationship, you feel confident about yourself, and women later pick up on that confidence. Sometimes this becomes quite a catch-22 though.

A third suggestion might be to analyse the women you've been trying to date or chat up... maybe you're approaching the wrong demographic. Keep your mind and heart open to all kinds of women. But always remember--don't try too hard! Everything should come naturally and never be forced. Good luck!

Answer 4

Mate I was the same at that age, things have picked up a lot in the last few years but I'd be lying if I could tell you how that happened. Just get out and promote yourself, try and look good and confident in your own self image, girls will pick it up if you seem beaten and unconfident. I get this way myself sometimes but shouldn't. Always try to remain upbeat when others are around even if you don't feel it. And try and hang out around girls who you might have some connection with, like liking the same music etc. It does help if you look good, though this doesn't mean spending tonnes just having your own look. Read magazines for tips about everything.

And certainly don't take any hassle about your colour or let anyone judge you on that.

All the best.

Answer 5

You are going to search and find an answer that makes you feel better about your situation, but will never produce tangilble results in your life. In a cold hard blunt statement. It's you. Despite what is heard and talked about so freely... what turn most women on most commonly above all else... is your personality, and how you make her feel. And at the center of all that, is a man's confidence. First off, you ALLOW women to talk to you this way... you ALLOW people in general to talk to you poorly. This trait, I must tell you, will always leave you without. The reason is simple, what women have you found that finds a man that is unable to defend himself, unable to find confidence in who and what he is... what women would EVER find that man attractive? It starts with you... and despite the fairy tale world some people live in.. that all should be fair... alpha males shouldn't have to exist so that the weak and unconfident can finally get laid.... once you get past that... and realise it is you.. and what you do that turn women on or off of you. Focus on yourself, learn what it means to be a man, stand up for yourself... beautiful interesting women are absolutely everywhere.. everyday... you can hardly go anywhere without finding one. A man, confident, knows what he wants in life, has his stuff together, and can understand what turns women on... are beyond rare.

Answer 6

You are still very young, know if you are 30 something and still in this boat then come back and talk to us. But you are young, life is not all about having women. There is a big world out there, go live it to its fullest... messing around with girls this young, then here comes a baby... then what,... tied down,... now all you have to do is work.

Show the women that you do not care, do not show that it hurts, be your self do not try to be something you are not, Give them some mystery about yourself, I tell you... you stop chasing them, and go be your self live your dream,,, they will be chasing you.

Answer 7

Stop looking and you will find someone.
Instead of going out on the pull seek like friend ship with women and let it develop into more.
Be confident, women are attracted to confident guys.
Most of all just be yourself, there will be someone out there for you.

Answer 8

Maybe you're not looking in the right places. Talk to your friends, male and female. Perhaps they have a friend they could hook you up with. There's always internet dating or speed dating aswel.

You just need to put yourself out there as you never know when the right girl will show up. Good luck!

Answer 9

I used to be the same as you, id go out on the pull etc and wouldnt end up anywhere.

but your still young, dont start panicking till ur atleast 45?

and dont be ashamed to ask ur mates too hook u up, are any of ur mates with people? get to know their better halfs abit more talk to them and let them get to know u (not so u can pull them!) they might have single friends and if they like u enough they might big u up to their single friends, maybe ask them urself after they get to know u if they can hook u up.

do you like sports? join a mixed team in your area, volunteer (lots of caring friendly girls volunteer and they might be single)

i dunno what you look like, but buying some nice clothes can always help, maybe instead of going out to pull, go out just to have a good time, have fun with ur mates give off the vibe that your a fun guy to be around, girls like guys that they can have fun with, if you stand in the corner and keep to urself alot girls wont really go for that as they will think your distant and abit of a loner (which can sometimes work but 90% of the time it dont) goodluck!

Answer 10

I am 48 & still single. Lot more interesting things than relationships. Take up cycling & get a dog.