Scary series of dreams?

Question

The first night... I had no sense that anything was wrong until I was nearly awake. Basically, a night of wild, hot sex with a total stranger. The end of the dream, I was laying on my right side and there was an arm draped over me... a large, black arm. I startled awake yelling "what the ****?" and of course, at that point realized I had only been dreaming.

The second night, I was walking out of the store and was grabbed and pulled into the bushes. It was the same "dream stranger" from the first night. This time, I was aware of the wrongness, and tried to break free... but never had the opportunity to verbalize my objections. It crossed my mind (after I woke, I didn't realize I was dreaming until I did) that, given the mass difference (he was twice my girth and solid muscle) that this dream stalker might not even realize I was trying to fight him off.

Last night was the worst. I was in the front yard with two other couples that I knew (though now I cannot recall who they were) when this same stranger walked up and just pounced! This time I was able to say "Stop it, I'm married!" At this point... it got really scary... something in his eyes was... evil. It was like whatever he was, it wasn't human at all! And to add insult to injury, the "friends" I was with lay back and simply indulged themselves... taking no interest that I was fighting and calling for help for all that I was worth! I said "Please stop, you'll hurt my baby" and with that same evil look he said "your baby will be mine". Again, I didn't realize it was just a dream until I woke.

I've had "rape dreams" before... but there has always either been a hero or I could wake up before things went all the way... but this just went on and on and on... I'm almost scared to go to sleep tonight...

Do these mean anything, what can I do to stop them?

I'm asking here because of the sense of evil at the end of the dream...

Nice ASSumption, "just me". I am a Christian, have been for years. One reason I was willing to come to this section for answers... hoping to get some from some brothers and sisters without judgement. I'll ASSume that you're not.

Strange thing is... I'm not afraid. I have never felt more safe than where I am living today. My neighbors and friends are the type that would *never* look the other way if something was going wrong... really I feel rather invincible here. I usually *can* control my dreams... I just don't realize lately that they *are* dreams until after I wake...

Considering something suggested to me by someone else.... no, I have never been unfaithful... never even *imagined* being unfaithful. So, its not guilt, in that sense.

It got worse, last night.

Answer 1

I always like to consider that even scary dreams may be opportunities for growth in us.

I don't know just what your dream means. Looking over your descriptions, I see a couple of themes.

~ a progression of a kind of awareness, going from "no sense that anything was wrong" to seeing something in his eyes as evil.

~ a theme of "right (side)" and "wrong", and maybe light and dark.

~ a progression of being increasingly able to verbalize things, from not saying anything in opposition in the first dream (until you awoke) to being able to speak to the dream stranger in the last dream.


And when you do speak, you speak about others ... you put others first ... your husband and your baby.

If this were my dream, I would wonder that part of me is coming into its own, and it's for me myself, and that that is actually going to be a healthy growth thing in the end (or at least a growth in my awareness of something). But right now it FEELS evil because it's about me and for me, and I am not used to having myself serve myself (I serve others, perhaps I have even been the hero in the past).

Dreams of course exaggerate things, blow them way up to signal stuff to us.

A suggestion I would have, is to re-enter your dreams in your imagination, and imagine what it would feel like to be the stranger. What thoughts, feelings, sensations come up ... As a way to listen as it were to all sides.

I just took a look at your profile, and I see you have written in the "about me" section:

"The most dangerous place in the world is between a mother and her children..."

I'm guessing that statement is somehow relevant. "Your baby will be mine," the dream stranger said. It's "the most dangerous place."

Again, if it were me, I would allow myself to consider whether I've left myself out somehow along the way, in parenting or being a hero to others, such that "my baby" in this dream is a symbol of some precious part of myself ... but I'm a bit confused and conflicted about being "selfish" ... feels "evil" to have all that "dark" energy around my now reconnecting with myself.

I also think it could be relevant that you "have never felt more safe" ... since precisely because you are in a safe place in your life right now, these wounds and dark questions can (safely) come up and be grappled with.

best wishes

Answer 2

There is no such thing as a nightmare ! And one should never, ever try to 'control' or 'lucid' dream; that is tampering with your very heart.

You are courageous for posting here. I hope that this interpretaion will help:

#1. Dreams are NOT wishes; except when they are. There may be some hot blood running in your veins and some frustrations going on.

#2. Stand in the sun at 10 am and see your 'shadow'. The shadow of the psyche is that which we: reject, find inferior and think (while awake) of as unacceptable. He (or she) will come to us in a friendly fashion in dreams; and will try to get our attention and give us clues to the choices and direction we need to start on. IF we reject her/him, it becomes more and more malevolent (all for the purpose of -- wake up..do NOT ignore me !!)

Your shadow has gotten quite angry and strong. The task is to: stop, face him and ask him what he is trying to teach you; the task is also to 'know' that no one is going to come to your rescue; YOU, have to do it.

Now, on the surface, it appears that I have advised you to control your dream; but, not so. Prior to going to sleep, if you will 'imagine' stopping all action, facing the fear and asking what the shadow wants of you - then, you have made the conscious preparation that is required in order to learn from a dream. This is the polar opposite of 'willing' a dream or scenario away (or to have a certain outcome).

Maranantha, Come back and let me know how things turn out. Or e mail me.

Answer 3

My scariest series of dreams are when I get up in the morning, I take a hot, steaming, soothing shower, got myself dressed, and went downstairs to eat my healthy breakfast. When I arrive at work, I realized that I am the only one completely naked. They saw everything; from top to bottom; left and right. It was so embarrassing.

Answer 4

nightmares can be controlled by the dreamer. you can change events to be exciting but not scary. You have unresolved issues with inadequate provisions of need. work on getting basic needs met. Find safety and warmth where u most enjoy them and think of this place as where to be at night. I always imagined better scenes to escape nightmares. You can change them. You are creating them.

Answer 5

Just command satin to leave you and your dreams ...try listing to a Bible based scripture pod-casts or tapes at night ...My tough on it is something in your life is about to change in Gods favor and satin is only trying to turn you attention on him instead so you miss it ....

Answer 6

i think you are too stressed or that you are fear of someone in the real life.because, i had once got the similar dream that you had because i was very stressed up and also fear of someone in the real life.

Answer 7

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