Divorce issues?

Question

my mom divorced my dad a little over 2 years ago.at first i was very mad at my dad because he was cheating on my mom but i still wanted to spend time with him.so a couple of weeks after they got divorced i started to hang out with him a couple of hours a week but everytime i saw him i started to get very sad and upset and i started to cry.so now ive stopped seeing him and he always tries to get in contact with me because he wants to see me.but i dont want to see him because when i do i get sad.is this normal?what do you think i should do?

if you're wondering i'm 14

Answer 1

Yes its normal. As hard as it is, see your dad. Cry with him, and be mad at him. Tell him you think he's a jerk for what he did to you and to your mom. Do it as many times as you need to until its out of your system and you can forgive him or forgive yourself for being angry. That anger has to go someplace, so give it back to the person who created it and ask him to help you. Be sure to tell him that you love him but you are mad at him. Keep seeing him.

Your dad and your mom's problems are not yours. The results of their behavior is your problem but you can be close to both of them without judging or blaming. Just remember you didn't do it, and nothing you do could have stopped it. People have a path, your folks took it and it turned out different than you thought it would.

The good news here is that your dad loves you and wants you around. Ask him to go to counseling with you if you don't think you can say these things to him. Or just give him this posting, it says what you want. Good luck, you will be ok.

Answer 2

hi, divorce betwen parents is a hard thing to go through especially for a child. Its normal what your feeling, give it some time, let your dad know that its hard for you to see him because you feel sad but that you still want to see him...dont hate him, forgive him, and eventually it'll all be easier. It takes time.

Answer 3

Talk with him about it and forgive him.

Answer 4

how old are you?