can my faith and sexuality really mix?

Question

im a 29 year old female and i do beliveve in god and that jesus was his son etc but i also know that i am bisexual bordering lesbian. I stopped practicing my faith because of it for many years but just missed god so much that i tried the other path getting forgivness for my "sin" etc and tried to be straight for the last two years. I cant do it anymore i have met an amzing women who i love very much and so i feel like i cant really be the christian i want to be that i know i am! Where can i go to meet others like me and does god really think homosexuality etc is so wrong? So confused why cant the two mix?

Answer 1

You have not been convicted of sin.

You are still living after the flesh as so many do.

In your case sexual urges, which can be very powerful, appear to highlight this and dominate. That is not unusual.

For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.
For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.
So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.

What you describe is sin and only the power of God can overcome, you will fail in your own strength alone. As is the case for everyone.

You speak about what it is that you want but it is not what God wants.

It is no good seeking for man's counsel or advice; that cannot help you, you need to deal with God. It is to Him we all have to answer.

If you seek Him and consult His word, He is merciful and understanding and full of love for your salvation, will He not bring conviction to you?

Or is that what you fear?

Answer 2

What a terrible quandary you are in. It is so very sad that some Christians (and some Jews) believe that homosexuality is unnatural and a sin etc, when this is all about love, which is what our religions are based in. As far as I know, the Christian prohibitions on gay and lesbian sexuality derive from their interpretations of the Hebrew Tanach ("Old Testament"). There is an excellent book by an Orthodox Jewish rabbi, Rabbi Steven Greenberg, called "Wrestling with God and Men" which explores the whole issue. Rabbi Greenberg is himself gay, which he tried to deny for years. He is also a great Hebrew scholar. Do read the book if you're interested and would find it helpful, but a little foretaste is that he takes that verse about not lying with a man as with a woman, looks at the context, and sees that what is ACTUALLY being said is that it is just as much adultery for a man to sleep with another man as to sleep with a woman who is not his wife.

I really hope that you and your partner are very happy together and that you find a context to express your spiritual needs which doesn't do damage to your (entirely natural) sexuality.

Answer 3

You sound like a lovely and lovable person.

There are of course many gay- and lesbian-friendly churches, and more every day. I hope there are some where you live.

You know something, I'm a religious scholar, and I've been very interested in historical Jesus research. One of the things that really stands out to me is how lovingly open and insistent Jesus was in having EVERYBODY eat at his table together. And that was in a culture where who you ate with was a bigger deal than most of us today can even imagine.

Our ability to love another person is, I think very literally, a God-given ability. It's my heart's hope for you that you find God and God finds you right there in the eyes of your partner.

God's love, they say. And there's nowhere God isn't.

bless your loving heart ... *s*

Answer 4

Read Romans 7:15-25, also read St. Matthew 16:24-25, also Colossians 3: 5-14

Answer 5

Forget the Christian doctrine and get on with your life.

What about Gay paedophile priests? Where do they fit in to the plan? All dressed up at the front of the church Pontificating to the lesser mortals and all the time molesting the choirboys.
Religion is Opium for the masses and nothing more.
Get some love and satisfaction from the lady you have just met. Remember that this life is not a practise run. Don't leave it too late.

Answer 6

expensive serious, First enable me say (no longer as a Christian) yet as a psychology/english important that there are possibly many layout flaws on your "test". And apart from, is there any empirical information which you will grant? How do you degree human beings's emotions. Secondly in case you're considered one of these sophisticated researcher, you would comprehend that in spite of in case you have been to entice a relation between 2 issues- correlation does not advise causality. Your statements incredibly look very own generalizations which you have. once you ask a question like is the Bible extra important than struggling with infant molestation- you could desire to grant it a appropriate context? If somebody i knew became being molested and that i became examining my Bible- off beam i'd placed my Bible down and help them. this would be a talk board interior the religion and spirituality section so off beam human beings come on right here and safeguard their faith. If we've been interior the "infant-care" section - there would be an more advantageous emphasis on conserving infants from abuse and different ills. i'm a pastor who teaches the Bible a week- yet we additionally help ministries that aide infants who're undesirable, exploited, and sexually abused. We do a bi-month-to-month ministry to community individuals the place the abuse of females is 5 circumstances larger than the the remainder of the inhabitants. And we additionally bypass right down to Tijuana quarterly and do outfits drives, and so on. My element is your movements talk volumes louder approximately what you think approximately is important! particular i study my Bible just about primary and turning out to be in God is easily important in my existence. as a count of actuality there are maximum of social ills and human beings are in my opinion in charge on the tip of the day for a manner they stay their lives. As i shared i care approximately abused infants, females, (that does no longer advise that i do no longer care approximately racism, or animal rights). My element being that a number of your statements are very unfound. the place do you get information that Christians evaluate someone's pores and skin shade extra important than his ideals? Christianity teaches that there will be human beings from each and every tongue, usa, and tribe, and that i comprehend many Christians who've given up the comforts of existence- to share Jesus with human beings in a different custom that proclaims so a lot extra approximately their ideals and values and how they fee human beings- than your unfounded statistical diagnosis... Kindly, Nickster

Answer 7

It's what you feel in your heart that counts. I find both genders beautiful and have shared intimacy with both. I would say I'm bisexual but then people assume I want sex with men and I really do not. I regard all my feelings as quite natural and accept God as my creator, but I find no need for all the trappings of religion to have a link with my maker. Please do not think it is a sin that you have chosen to give your love to another woman and not a man instead. Religious texts were written by men and these men put their own spin on them to mesh neatly with their concept of morality. I advise you to ignore all this horseshit and forge a direct connection with your God. Those that criticise your lifestyle are seriously deluded and wrong in the head.

Answer 8

I'm friends with a young gay man who's a Christian. Although he does acknowledge his sexuality he also recognises that, to actively practice his sexuality, would be a sin according to the Bible. So, he remains celibate i think. Like it or not it IS a sin, according to the Bible and therefore God. But God will help you; keep close to Him, seek Him and He will show you what to do.
God bless

Answer 9

Why couldn't it mix? There are many churches and sects that do in fact believe that people should not be turned away from religion because of their sexuality. There will be those who either out of fear or ignorance will make you feel like you can't be accepted, but you need to be strong and not only have faith in God, but have faith in yourself.

Answer 10

Some Christians feel that the two can mix, and others don't. I think you need to speak to both and decide which seems closer to the truth.

Alternatively, you could just give up on this God idea. It always seems a big step, but it's not really: it's a short walk into the light.