What is wrong with my family?

Question

I've being born into the older generation of a traditional Asian family. When the topic about sex comes to mind, my parents always viewed it as a very controversial topic or even a taboo to talk about! But I'm very open about sex and not ashamed to talk about it openly!
I've being caught several times masturbating in my bedroom and even the toilet despite locking the doors! My parents would often suspect I was masturbating if I kept the doors locked for a long time, therefore, they would open the doors with their spare keys to check out what I was doing! Once caught masturbating, they would be really 'pissed'! I would argue with them that masturbation is perfectly normal and it would be fine as long as one is not addicted to it! But they wouldn't listen and said I should not get involved in sexual activities until I get married even masturbation!
I would often take it as they were violating my pirvacy!
Family relationship is worsening because they knew I did masturbation! Help!

Answer 1

I really wish you would have told us your age. I believe masturabation is healthy. If you dont' masturbate you will walk around being , angry and cranky all the time. I don't believe that it is your culture that prevents your parents from wanting to talk about sex. Most parents don't talk about sex with their kids. Some people do but others don't. I'm shocked that your parents don't respect your privacy though. Don't you hear them when they are trying to unlock the door? I'm not trying to help you out by telling you how to masturbate, but if you feel the neeeeed to do this, do it in the shower when they can not come in. ..or do they go into the shower and check on you? Sorry you are going through this.

Answer 2

Traditional Asian families live in a culture much like the culture of the early 1900. You didn't have sex, kiss and everywhere you went you were chaperoned. What your parents are afraid of is that you will lose sight of the future and become entangled in relationships that will bring shame on two households. Please try to understand when you think about breaching a conversation about sex this was taboo in their generation. It is personal and private. And besides that how many of us want to think about our parents having sex.
Realize you are living in your parents house and therefore should respect their wishes and heritage. As far as the relationship worsening.. well I don't think it's based on the masturbation as much as your disrespect for their traditions
Try waiting till they are in bed if you cant stop. Out of sight.. out of mind

Answer 3

If you are now living in the US, then move out. Be a grown up and support yourself. If not and this is your culture then learn to be more secretive. Talking about sex is not something most parents want to do with their kids, unless its sexual education. You cannot stop your parents from thinking masturbation is wrong if that's how they were taught.

Answer 4

Your parents are only teaching you what they have been taught, so give them a fair go.
Why don't you try and get some pamphlets from your local doctors surgery about sex and what comes with it and ask your parents to read it?

Another thing, did you ever stop and think how embarrassed your parents must of felt walking in on you?

Answer 5

its hard for old world and new world to colaborate. i grew up in a traditional, catholic, mexican family. alot of stuff i grew up with didnt work for me this day and age. i tried to do things their way, but it didnt work for me. theres nothing wrong with masturbation. they should encourage an activity that wont put you at risk for unwanted pregnancies and/or disease. do it anyway.

Answer 6

lol... sorry...

why don't you masturbate in your room, aqt the middle of the night or in the early morning when you're sure your parents are sleeping...

don't tell me they just wake up to check up on you during these hours?

Answer 7

Hey, why are you pushing the boundaries with them. You should respect them. It is their house and they set the rules.