okay so i was really in love with this boy and we were together for a year and a half and i never had a real boyfriend before before i was with him and so i got alot cuter over the months i was with him and boys started payin me lots of attention and stuff but then my dad milested me so i had to move away from were he lived but we were still together and spent the night over each others house and stuff....but anyways i was being really ridiculous and immature and whoreish so i cheated on him because i was confused and i had no control over myself...and he took me back the first two times but now he doesnt even want to talk to me and hes being really mean and i dont blame him but i really miss him i miss everything we had...we were so in love and i want him back badly but i know hes scared that i am going to hurt him again but i know now that there is no other guy out there for me but him we were meant to be so please will you help me give me some ways on how to get him back.. :[
2007-07-07 21:09:33 · 16 answers · asked by hope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uhm for everyones information on here who is trying to be a smart *** i didnt sleep with noone k
2007-07-07 21:13:44 · update #1
Stop being a damn whore- you cheated more than TWO times and you expect him to take you back.
Go get an STD test cuz I'm sure you didn't use condoms, and then STOP cheating on people- don't be in a relationship if you can't keep your legs closed.
2007-07-07 21:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbyt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, for starters, you cheated on him, not once but twice. I don't see why he took you back, I surely wouldn't cause I never cheated on any of my gfs. I have one right now, and I trust and love her. I doubt there would be anyway you can get him back. I'm sure he has that bad vibe about you that if you two are going to be together again that more unpredictable things will happen. Especially since a lot of guys are paying more attention to you, you'll more than likely cheat again, period. Just move on, some people have morals like I do, and I keep them no matter what happens. You should consider rethinking about your life and what you want. It may be just infatuation with him or lust, it may be love. Who knows but you, but it seems like you've answered your own question when you've cheated because of your lack of self control over yourself.
2007-07-08 04:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly: Your being very honest, and you`ve been through a hell i imagine, making you into something your not.
You`ve simply went off the rails after the molestation thing i think, and your behaviour to my knowledge is an indication of that single fact.
No-one can possibly begin to feel what you must of went through when that was done on you, and how you will feel forever, so dont judge yourself badly, that that was NOT your fault.
You were a victim.
He was the purpetrator.
You also need to get mediacally checked over if you had un-protected sex.
Secondly: Tell your boy stuff like you told people here.
And mean it if you love him, and say sorry to him to and mean that to.
Personally i`ll be very surprised if he bothers with you, but you`ll need to try and convince him to bother or why he he should.
From my experience having done some counselling, if i were you i`d get some counselling, because after whats been done to you, and your change in behaviour you do need it.
I hope this helps.
I really do.
You`ve been through hell by sounds of it.
2007-07-08 04:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by KatsLoveBug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody cheats THREE times or more "By accident". And if he chooses not to have you back you should respect that and move on. Hopefully you can be faithful in the next relationship, or you will just set up a pattern of heartache for yourself and those you are with.
If your father molested you, seek help, both from the legal profession and from councilors. But don't continue ruining your relationships, with "whoreish" behaviors. You have a choice to make - to rise above your situation, or to wallow in the mire. Its the same choice many have had to make. You are not alone.
***You say you didn't sleep with them - but YOU describe YOUR actions as "Whoreish"
2007-07-08 04:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him how and what you feel about him. Also apologise and tell him why you did what you did and also assure him that nothing of hte sort will happen again and htat your love and relationship is for keeps now. Hopefully he will understand and take you back. But in case he doesnt, you cant really blame him in this. Just be careful the next time. All the best !!! i will pray for you.
2007-07-08 04:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont think this is time for u to think of needing him back. cos u acted like a cheap gal cheating who loved u really a lot. so i guess u better leave it. if u still feel bad try to go get another guy how will suit ur cheating...
i really dont think of discouraging u but i feel u must not disturb atleast as of now this guy.. leave him if he loved u he wont be going with another atleast for another looooooooong time..
take it ease tats all
2007-07-08 04:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sigmund 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do believe it is too late , my opinion on cheating is the first time i can say its a mistake happens again and its a habit , my dear you have a habit . once you get that under control move on and guess you know not to ever cheat again.... FYI my BF says he would not forgive even the first time so you are lucky he gave you another chance because he sure would not have had !!!!
2007-07-08 04:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by rdnckwmn64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly,, horrible you were molested.. secondly.. you cheated on him twice? he's a saint to not have killed you :p But you do sound like you really love him. I'm afraid though, my dear, you may have already thrown this down the crapper. Once is forgivable.. somtimes.. twice.. almost never. My advice.. get on your knees and beg that boy to take you back. Tell him there is no one else.. and mean it. If he won't take you back.. it's the end. But who knows.. happy endings can happen. Good luck.. I guess. Jeeze.
2007-07-08 04:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by Bliss in Ignorance 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Show him that ur sry and that ud nvr ever hurt him again! AND BY GOD MEAN IT!
hurting a nice guy like him is horrible and maybe u dont deserve him
but if he loves u im sure he'll take u bak but only if u prove it and show it in all that u can
Make it like a hollywood "I cant liv w/out u baby!"
2007-07-08 04:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by strawberrygrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters, go back to school and take English. Secondly, you got what you deserve for cheating on him.
2007-07-08 04:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋