In December of 2006 I met someone online through a friend. She, however, does not live in my state. We instantly hit it off and began talking for hours on end. She would call me during her lunch break, send me text messages saying she was thinking of me, flirting with one another, mailing me cards to show her love, telling me she loved me and vice versa, etc... Well I was supposed to visit her on several occasions but could not due to work issues and health problems/surgery. Now, in the past month, she has had to 'move back a bit b/c she was getting stressed about things that were not happening.' No more phone calls (she expects me to call her all the time), no more texts messages, no more mail, etc... I still call her and leave messages and such. She says that she 'ran out of minutes and text minutes on her phone'. She also says that I don't call her anymore and that I don't seem interested. She says I'm 'stringing her along'. Help! What do I do. She says to 'Prove It'.
2007-07-07 21:02:39 · 8 answers · asked by xHollywoodx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um visit her. If you love her you could take off a work one day and visit her on a weekend.
Other wise, relationships do cool down no matter what.
Why don't you tell her to visit you and plan things out.
A long distance relationship can work just fine, but you should visit each other at least once in a while.
And if you do like her call. Just talk about your day at least she knows you care. Or call to say you are going to bed and thinking about her. If she doesn't send you stuff tell her. If you don't send her stuff, send her stuff.
It doesn't seem like you really want it to work that much if you can't take 5 minutes a day to call or write a letter or email. you prolly spent more time writing this question.
2007-07-07 21:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by FireKittenofdoom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a long distance relationship myself, I truly love my gf and I always try to make sure I have time for her. You have to keep your priorities in tack. Do what you can to make her happy, even if you have to go in work early even if you don't want to. I understand the health problems and issues you have. But that's really no excuse because you need to find a way to get around that. Make sacrifices as long as it doesn't interfere with your work, (getting fired mainly). Even the little stuff matters to her, than you always making excuses. it just tells her that you're serious and that you care about her. To prove it, you should keep your word on going to see her.
2007-07-08 05:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are stringing her along. You make time for something that is important to you. It sounds like you want the convienece of a supporting relationship but not the responsibility of one. Don't play with peoples emotions or use people just for how it benefits you. If you cared about the young lady you would have made definite plans to meet or have her to come meet you in all this time. If you don't have time for her now you will not have time for her later and I agree with her that she cant trust you and that u are stringing her along. I wouldnt invest my time or emotions in someone who is unavailable, unless it was a mutual understanding that meeting was not on the agenda. It cost time and money to be friends with someone, and even then you can not help when feelings start to develop, no one wants to feel the frustration of not being able to satisfy curiosity or frustration. Its agony. And after several times of being disappointed trust is out the window and resentment sets in. By the way...what are you doing for her besides wasting her time? Most likely she can do for herself what you are doing for her or get someone in real time to spend time with. Its like setting out a gourmet meal to someone one who is hungry and then telling them they can see it, smell it, but not eat it. Don't get involved with anyone is you are not available. If you are available and willing prove it. In the mean time you are just a c*ck blocker...taking up her time for how it suits you.
2007-07-08 04:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take some sick leave at work and fly over and see her that way you have proved it you have gone to another state just to see her thats proof enough but that if you do wanna continue whaat you have together good luck
2007-07-08 04:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love a person no matter what problems or conflict arise your willing to take that just to be with her.. So if you love that girl pursue that relationship..
2007-07-08 04:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by ○♫mhytzhe○♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and get to see her thats proof enough
2007-07-08 04:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you better Prove It, then.
2007-07-08 04:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pursue
2007-07-08 04:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋