Is this normal?

Question

When my b/f and I met we were both virgins. After about three months into the relationship we decided to have sex. We've been together for almost 3 years now and we've never broken up and we live an hour apart so when i get to see him which is pretty often since its the summer he always wants to have sex and if i dont want to he gets really mad at me and it seems like thats the only thing we ever fight about. is this normal? what do i do?

im 18 and he is 21 if that helps

Answer 1

It is quite normal. Even in a long-term stable relationship, it is common that both partners' sex drives don't always coincide. Like another responder said, don't feel pressured if you refuse, but if you love your b/f, try not to pressure him either, but both try to respect each others' point of view. I think it's a good principle in life not do something (especially with your body) just because someone else wants you to. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

One one hand, he's really turned on by you.

On the other hand, you don't want such a serious (3 year!) relationship to turn into being only about sex.

So how about this? Make it necessary for him to take you out on a date before you two have sex. Be sure to make him feel wanted, and tell him how much you want him, but don't give in right away. Go hang out at the park, play tennis, go swimming, do stuff that you two will enjoy. And then afterwards, have all the sex you want! It's not unhealthy to have sex a lot, it's only unhealthy if you don't do anything besides it.

Answer 3

I think you guys mgiht have rushed into sex a little too early and maybe that is why he just expects sex. Tell him how you feel and if he gets mad again then he is probably not going to get it!If this continues then you might want to break up if you guys will continue fighting!

Answer 4

Most couples fight about sex all the time. Just tell him. Is sex our relationship now. Or to avoid an argument suggest that you do something else. Maybe he will catch on. But straight forward would avoid any confusion of any kind.

Answer 5

ya! its normal 4 today's world. but its not normal 4 the involved ones as u r here. i dont know everything abt ur relationships but can say that ur boyfrnd never loved u?? it was all just a lure 4 sex.. first it seems to look like attraction, then affection nd finally a mad habit..............
so what i advice u is u just start again in ur way nd never involve in sex again b4 ur marriage.............
one more imp fact in our country first sex age is now reduced to just 14......... which is much less in compare to our grandparental age.... bye hope i helped u, best of luck 4 a new life.........

Answer 6

I dont think you should let him pressure you. Seek help because there may be a point where if you dont give it too him he will be willing to cheat since he seems to want sex so badly. Im not trying to worry you, but its something you should talk to him about.

Answer 7

You both sound very young, so it would be normal for him to feel that way, but do not do any thing unless it is what you want to do and if he does put on to much pressure end the relationship.

Answer 8

If you think that having sex with him is the only thing he wants from you,then talk to him,and let him know what you feel and think about your relationship..

Answer 9

How about when you plan to go see him have some plans -

I will get there Friday, how about we go to this club, or that restaurant.

Think of other things to do, ask him to take you somewhere he likes to go to.

That might help, but if not, sit down and tell him that you love him, but you want to do more than just have sex.

Hope that helps

Answer 10

Y don't u just go 2 the mall & hold his hand & make sure u give him love my girlfriend lives 2 hrs. away & i cant drive i just made a post about that ... consider ur self lucky