big fight please help?

Question

my parents are fighting and they will not talk to each other what should i do

Answer 1

Honestly you can stay out of it or go talk to one of them.. of both

Answer 2

That depends GREATLY on how your parents interact with each other on a normal basis. Unfortunately, there isn't a whole lot you're going to be able to do now, at all.

However, if you do want to help, I would suggest giving each of them at least half an hour to cool off, then talk to them seperately, calmly, and making sure you express how worried you are without getting overly emotional. I know you love them and want to see them get along. Some times marriages have rough patches. Try and express how important it is for them to keep communication open, and productive.

That doesn't mean they're going to get everything resolved right away, but if they know you're worried, they may try harder to work it out. Just try not to come on too strong.

Answer 3

Ok I am a mom who has been arguing with her husband for years. Right or wrong, this is how it has been for 29 years. My daughter is 18 my son 23. They both live at home. My personal advise is to stay out of it. There is nothing you can do to make their relationship better. They have to do it themselves. What I really want to tell you is to never, ever forget that it is NOT, and let me repeat, NOT your fault that they argue. Please don't let it effect you. I know that is next to imposible but please remember it should be theirn problem, not yours. Maybe you can leave the house when it gets bad? You don't need to hear or see how your parents act when they are not happy with eachother. I'm so sorry. I know, it isn't easy to watch..... hang in there. One day you will be on your own. (Big Hug)

Answer 4

Tell them their fighting upsets you. Tell them when both you and they are calm and when they are both together - eg both in the kitchen, but not during a fight.

It will have a greater effect if you say it when they are calm.

You could say something like: Mum, Dad you have been fighting a lot lately and this is really upsetting me. Then leave it at that. Let them think it through. Its not your fault and its not your job to solve their problems but you have every right to let them know how much it upsets you.

Good luck!

Answer 5

There isn't much you can do. Just let things straighten out by themself. Maybe buy them a present. You can tell them "I love you" more and hug them more, but let them sort it out. They are the ones fighting, not you.

If you're worried, try talking to a close friend, sibling or counselor about how you feel. They might of had similar experiences or had a friend with similar experiences. Sometimes it feels better to talk to someone about how you feel. They might be able to give you advice. If it really bothers you, sit and talk with them.

Also, take a walk somewhere peaceful and quiet or hang out with your friends to get your mind off of it.

Answer 6

I had a huge problem with my family about that six years ago, and my dad moved out of the house, but were all back together now. What you should do is try to get them together by making them dinner, or you make something interesting and show it to them at the same time. I do suggest you stay out of it, it will probabally blow over.

Answer 7

This is something I usually do.
I talk to the parent I am closest too.
Understand what is going on.
Tell them my opinion and tell the parent how I feel about the situation.

Answer 8

u should tell them that there fighting is breaking u apart i did that and my parents have only fought once in a year and a half

Answer 9

you talk to them separately
calmly and seriously...

first you just listen to them. this is very important. there's something reasonable in what they say. if they speak evil of him/her you just listen.
and later you talk to them
how much you are worried and how much you love both parents.
you have to say ' you're my only dad and mom!'

Answer 10

try to intervene but don't be pushy. Some time you got to just let time hadle these situations