So me and my dad have been fighting and all of a sudden he comes down tonight and hugs each of his kids (not just short hugs but long ones). When he gets to me he whispers in my ear that he is sorry for what happened and that he will try to be a better father. Then he tells me that he thinks his time is coming... He looked straight into my eyes and told me that he honestly believes that it is almost his time. I don't know what to do...He thinks he has a tumor in his stomach because it is hard. He has a pot belly/beer belly...so I guess my questions are: A- can it be normal for someone with a pot belly/beer belly to have a hard stomach? and B-Can tumors be passed down by parents (I ask this because his father died of a tumor). I am really scared. My mother died when I was 8 and I am so scared right now about my father. PLZ HELP ME!
2007-07-07 18:41:42 · 7 answers · asked by Nicci 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I understand your concern
The answer to your first question is yes, persons with a routine drinking habit do gain a beer belly and yes they can be hard. If he had low body fat before his beer belly that can explain why his belly is hard.. if he had alot of body fat before his belly, it might me a little softer and jigglier.
The answer to your second question is yes, some tumors can be hereditary.. but you shouldn't take someone's advise online... if you and your father are concerned.. talk to your father and get him to consult a physician... that way if there is something wrong with him, he can find out immediately and that gives him a better chance of surviving/healing.
Talk to your dad, make sure he goes to a doctor, if you are concerned, ask if you can go with your dad, that way if it is a false alarm the physician can give you and your dad reassurance BUT if there is something wrong, your dad wont find out alone, he will have you for comfort.
I hope this helps you out, and I wish the best for your father.
Remember... Doctors.. the sooner the better
2007-07-07 18:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Srta♥Sabe♥Lo♥Todo♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nicci
first, unless your dad has been to a doc, no one can say what his medical condition is.
tumors are not fatal in all cases. I have removed (surgically) tumors that would have just made people huge, or had made them thus.
I don't want to get into what tumors are or anything like that, but people have them all the time and they are not all fatal. Again you need a medical professional assessment of a medical condition.
medical conditions can be passed along genetically, but not my marriage. Your mother died you note when you were 8, but I hopeyour parents were not related.
I don't want to paint either a picture that all is well, or to brace for the storm ahead. Seek medical care and make what decisions are appropriate with the facts.
we all live in the valley of the shadow of death, it is our state of being.
last year, a woman 93 was telling me that she would die before me, (i'm 51) and I laughed at her. I explained that age is not a factor in death. I have worked in a hospital too long to believe that. You die when your time is done.
Just stop, take a breath, and talk to your dad. Ask him what is up.
I hope all is well with your dad, honestly I do mean that. But if he is under the care of a doc and has bad news, remember this is still in God's hands.
How is your relationship with God?
2007-07-07 19:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by magnetic_azimuth 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow i am a foster parent and I see things like this sometimes!you are asking for the truth and the truth is that tumors can be genetic,and that parents do die, but in all honesty pot belies can be hard w/o a tumor so maybe your dad just is depressed and he feels like a failure because like you said you argue a- lot you guys need to get counseling as a family (comp. care) and try to work things out and be more supportive of your dad he is without a doubt having a hard time raising you kids w/o your mom
2007-07-07 18:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by in His image 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bit of a scary situation...
Have you thought about maybe taking your dad for a check up at the doctors, to see if there is really any tumor there?
2007-07-07 18:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to go to the doctors and have this checked out. It could be nothing or it could be something that needs medical attention. Certain diseases/cancers are genetic ... but more importantly if just to put everyone at ease he should have it checked out. Good luck.
2007-07-07 18:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by KAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go to the doctor and get checked.You should try and convince him to go.Unless you know what is going on your just going to drain yourself by worrying and speculation.
2007-07-07 18:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ron Burgundy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it.s called nerves as to what has happened in your family. in my opion?
2007-07-07 18:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋