Should I tell him he is still saved despite his porn addiction or should I tell him he is a false Christian and in danger of eternal damnation?
2007-07-07 18:08:39 · 24 answers · asked by helper725 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God Bless you for your question...
As a Christian who has and is battling porn addiction, I can tell you that your friend needs your help. He needs you to hold him accountable for his conduct in a loving but firm way.
He is still saved, if he was saved in the first place. Jesus promises that once you are His, you are always His. But if your friend is not repentant about his addiction, then I would question his salvation as not being valid. He has to want to stop, and be willing to do what it takes to stop. If the Holy Spirit is within him, convicting him of his sin, then he should be easy to reach. If not, he will be defensive and angry. He may be in either case, but stick with him and keep showing him you love him as a brother, and you are willing to go the extra mile for him...
Don't condemn him or call his salvation into doubt. Remind him that as a Christian, his conduct reflects onto others, and either draws people to Christ, or pushes them away. If he truly has Christ in him, he will come around. If he does not, then he has chosen his god, and it's not Jesus. Pray for him, pray with him.
2007-07-07 18:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Todd J 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well you can't judge him ! Its not up to you to jude him, only talk to him and tell him he is doing wrong as a christian! As a christian he shouldn't be looking a porn and thats common sense !! You can't live for both sides like that ! He has to decide for himself which he is going to choose!! All you can do is tell him what the bible saids and maybe you can look up something to show him he is doing wrong!!! You should never suggest anything about him being a untrue christian, he could just need some help from you and that would make him mad and then you won't be able to help him!! But he does need help and counseling from a christian person asap!!
2007-07-08 01:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The greatest danger of porn is that the viewer focuses on the creature instead of the creator.
God intended us to be attracted to the opposite gender but to spend time poring over photos can lead one to be more attracted to the people God created and forget about the God.
Also, porn tends to have some very lewd depictions, so I am told, that can lead one to think that is normal behavior and once married the spouse may not appreciate lewdness which could cause the marriage to disintegrate.
Your friend needs to know you are concerned and you can use my words as to how he may be harming himself for any future relationships with real people.
2007-07-08 02:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by SEEKER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is whether or not he is "born again", really, because when you truly are, you have this lovely gift of discernment given to you, but it must be strengthened by the Word of God...those weak in faith lose hope and backslide easily
When Jesus saves, it's forever...you can't lose it. You can, however, still be caught up in the addictions of the flesh. If he has the Holy Spirit in him (as promised by Jesus) then his own conscience may already be sending him warning signals. This is where you come in, to have a nice talk about how Christ sets you free from damnation...and how hard it is to battle the flesh...after all...he is still human. If his conscience is working, then he will be receptive to what you hear if the Holy Spirit is guiding him. Good luck.
2007-07-08 01:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by thinker 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remind him of Jesus' words;
Matthew 5:27-28
27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.'
28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
Porn is a very hard addiction to break, but it can be done. He needs to ask help from the Holy Spirit with this, and he needs to know that what he is doing is actively sinning. If he continues, he will eventually drive the Holy Spirit out of his life, endangering his salvation.
Remind him of Hebrews 10:26-31, which says;
Hebrews 10:26-31
26 For if we sin willfully after we have received the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins,
27 but a certain fearful expectation of judgment, and fiery indignation which will devour the adversaries.
28 Anyone who has rejected Moses’ law dies without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses.
29 Of how much worse punishment, do you suppose, will he be thought worthy who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, counted the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified a common thing, and insulted the Spirit of grace?
30 For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. And again, “The LORD will judge His people.”
31 It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.
2007-07-08 01:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Foxfire 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is he really addicted? Or does he look at porn?
If he's really addicted, encourage him to get help. If it has an effect on family, job, school, friends, etc.
If he's not really addicted, let it be. What kind of porn he looks at is none of your business outside of what he tells you. If you don't want him talking to you about porn, tell him that.
Matt
2007-07-08 01:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by mattfromasia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him to have fun, b/c it's not a sin. least not in God's eyes. That's a man-made concept. If he's not hurting anyone, God doesn't care. Doesn't care if he masturbates either while he's watching that porn.
And yes, I know I'm in the minority on this one, but I'm so tired of people judging each other. If he's not hurting you or anyone you love, if he's doing it in the privacy of his own home, why do you care?
Peace be with you.
2007-07-08 01:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray for him first. If you feel led, correct him with love.
He needs deliverance from this spirit of lust.
You may want to direct him to www.doersoftheword.org
The pastor has a deliverance ministry. There's a toll free # you can call and he spends time ministering to peoples needs.
2007-07-08 03:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that any man on earth has the authority to tell someone that they are going to hell, only God knows. Try to explain the evils of pornography.
2007-07-08 01:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by papadego 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the eternal damnation thing because quite honestly, that's not your place.
2007-07-08 01:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by The Pope 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋