So my sister and I (I'm 20, she's 18) have always been close and really got along well. I've always let her hang out with me and my friends because I've always enjoyed her company. But just today my friend told me how different my sister and I are...she said that my younger sister is just more fun to be around and just more likeable. I'm totally devestated that my friend said this to me and plus she said the other people she was with completely agree. Like my one guy friend said that he would never even consider dating me, but he really likes my sister. It's so frustrating to me because I feel like she rides on my coattails and kind of has an "in" so it's easier for her. I'm pretty good at having a non-biased opinion and I think I am equally as fun as my sister if not more especially because a good deal of the stuff that people like that she does I feel like she picked up from me. I want my friends to want to be friends with me, what should I do?? Thanks!
2007-07-07 17:49:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your sister about this. I doubt she even realizes this is happening. It is totally uncool of your friends to say that they like your sister better. Especially at the age you guys are. I used to have this situation too, except that it was always my friends liked my older sister better. It wasn't that we truly had the same friends, it was always just that if my friends were home hanging out with me, and my sister came home, they'd always just abandon me, and do whatever she wanted to, even if we were in the middle of a movie or a game or something. This happened when we were younger, 2nd through 5th grade or so, and there were times when I just burst into tears out of anger. My friend were at least kind enough not to say it to my face that they liked my sister better.
As to what you should do, talk to your sister, see what she thinks. There might be ways that you can be friends with these people, and she can be friends with them too. Explain to them the different qualites that you posess, things that make you different from your sister, give them reason to want to be friends with you. Hang out with them at a time when your sister is unavailable to do so, and see if you guys still get along, or if all they're doing is wishing your sister were there. If that's the case, they're not worth being friends with. Otherwise, I'd suggest going out on your own, without your sister and make your own friends, people that don't know her, that she doesn't know. If you don't introduce them to her, she can't take them away from you. It's natural to want to share them with your sister, if you like them, but then you gotta be prepared for the consequences. It doesn't sound like you want to damage your relationship with your sister, so you may just end up always having to share your friends, but if she's aware about how it hurts you, she might be more sensitive to the situation.
2007-07-07 18:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by tinaroonie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on three things: 1) Is she hot? 2) Is she over the age of 25? 3) Would my friend be cool with it? If I can't answer all three questions with a yes, then I will keep my hands to myself. Besides, I am inclined not to date friend's sisters because I like to keep my friends. If I start dating sisters, then it may complicate things. Especially if it doesn't work out between me and the sister.
2016-04-01 02:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you may want to stop considering the one person a "friend", since she was very cruel to tell you what she did. After that, just suck it up and know that you are a really nice person on your own, cause you do have actual friends. The sibling rivalry thingie just will always be there. Try to not be so hurt by it.
Good luck!
2007-07-07 17:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by lovelylady6010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a younger sibling, younger by4 years...several of my sisters friends have taken a romantic interest in me since I have started to get older. I figure if anything it is because they are starting to see the characteristics of someone who is maturing, but also seeing the younger age. In your case, not to sound cruel, people may be finding your sister as a younger and possibly more attractive you. Since she picked up a lot of her character from you, then you share a personality, so the only defining thing must be something superficial.
2007-07-07 17:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Hatter 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get new friends that appreciate you and don't say oh I like so and so because they are more fun than you. Your friends sound rather childish to me. I would let my little sister have those old friends and keep her away from the new ones.
2007-07-07 17:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanging out with your sister and find some new friends. Because if they are saying those things to you, they are not your friends.
2007-07-07 18:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that you spend time with your sister, but let her know that you need some alone time with your friends. if your friends still like her better, maybe you should get some new friends, and tell your old ones that if they like your sister so much, they should be her friends and not yours. don't be mean, just be direct
2007-07-07 17:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by kt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your sister to be very mean to them the next time they come (not hurtful mean but rude and gross). They will like her less and like you more. Ask your sister if she could make better friends a little more her age.
2007-07-07 17:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by Candyace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am a little brother to my brother,His friends tend to really like me, but, Im sure they are your "MAIN" Friends as your sister is tehre "SIDE" friend. They will hang put with both but would go out, or hang out with you.
2007-07-07 17:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by Dustin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take your misfortune out on your sister. She may be getting positive reviews from your friends, but she has done nothing bad to you.
Your sister is clearly picking up on your good points. Maybe you should be honing in on hers.
2007-07-07 17:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋