Homesickness!?!?

Question

My old school has been closed down so i gotta transfer to another school..my mom wants a very nice school which was UST..i passed the exam and everything but its too far away..so they got me an apartment with our maid and my grandma..but the thing is..
i have a huge deal with homesickness!
i never thought i'd feel this way
im just 13! what the heck am i suppose to do..
i go home every weekends but i come bacck there every sundays..
please help..
please..

i only mentioned my mom coz my parents divorced when i was 5..so it was up to me and my sis..now i got a step dad and 2 half sisters..
anyways..

im really desperate to go home..
i txt my moom and my sis always..
im always trying to find something good about that day to make me smile..
im really desperate..
i always moan that i wanna go home..

..my mom said that i'll just give her a call if i wanna go home..but i dont..

i know this is where im suppose to be..
but still i feel alone..sometimes i just find myself staring at the wall and crying myself to bed..its really hard but i know this is where im suppose to be..its complicated for me..

i cant sleep at night knowing that im in a new place..but its the only thing where i can dream of home..and i dont wanna wake up knowing that im here again..facing the same old day...


for me its just the same you know..

Answer 1

Tell your family how you feel. I thinlk13 is too young to be away at school and away from parents.

Answer 2

I used to get homesick. I was even scared about going 2 sleepovers. When i did go, i used 2 worry about the silliest things. I thought bad things were going 2 happen while i was away and sometimes i felt like crying. I used to think that if we all stayed awake all night i would feel less homesick lol. I thought i was going 2 feel like that for the rest of my life, but now that feelings gone. You will get over feeling homesick. Right now you might think that I'm talking rubbish and your never going 2 get over it. But you will, i promise. I'm not just saying this, i know from experience.

Answer 3

When I was young, I went to boarding school, for 5th & 6th grade, going home, like you do on the weekends. At first it was hard, because I hardly knew anyone, and didn't have many friends. I cried myself to sleep a lot, and called home a lot, but after a while I made friends and started enjoying the privelidges of boarding school, with staying up later than my parents would let me, or hanging out in a friend's room, just chatting, and such. It got better as time went on.

I know it's not the same for you, since you don't actually go to boarding school, but live with your grandma and a maid. Maybe you could talk to them about it, tell your grandma how you feel. I'm sure she'll be sympathetic, and care about you. It's hard for you, if you feel like you're all alone in the situation. Call your parents, talk to them, tell them what goes on in your day to day life, make it a point to know that you'll talk to them, maybe every other day for 10-15 minutes, just chit chat you know. That'll make you feel better. It'll make things harder on all of you if you tell them you're homesick, and beg to come home. Maybe you can say you miss them, but don't beg to come home. Instead maybe you can discuss things you want to do on the weekend together, and that will be something you can look forward to.

Also, if you keep busy, you won't have time to feel homesick. Join some clubs at school, whatever your hobbies are, be it chess or debate club, or a sport or something. Keeping busy will keep your mind off feeling homesick. Try to make friends, find people to hang out with, both at their place and your apartment. Just keep busy.

Another thing, if you're just missing home, sometimes you miss more than just your family, the physical people in your life. I know it helped me that I could take a few things from my room at home, and put them in my room at boarding school. I had a framed picture of my family on the wall, and my favorite stuffed animals and books, posters, etc. Things that reminded me of home. Maybe you can take a few things from your bedroom at home, to make your bedroom in the apartment feel just as cozy and homely to you.

Those are just some suggestions that worked for me. Also, think about this not in terms of I'm banished to this apartment forever, or even for an entire school year, because that feels a long time. Think of it in increments of weeks. You have five days there, and two days at home. Maybe you could get a calendar to cross off the days that you are at school, cross them off every day until summer break, when you get to be home for a longer stretch of time. And just remember, nothing is forever.

And, if after a while thing don't get better, you're still really unhappy, don't have friends, and things aren't going well in school, then homesickness might be a sign that the school isn't right for you, and you might want to talk to your parents about transferring somewhere else. But..........that's only a last resort. You've gotta give everything a try before giving up on it too soon. Good luck!!!!

Answer 4

Sure being away from home is hard...and telling you to just go with it isn't the answer your gonna want to hear....your missing your friends, and school....the only advice I'd give you is to try and make some new friends when school starts back. The homesickness will ease up once you start making new friends....
And, this time of your life, although it seems like FOREVER, it isn't really, the time will go by fast....you'll look back and laugh I promise you....at your age friends are important, it's hard to move away...but you are furthering your education, and in this day and age, that is so important.....Give it some time, and it will ease up for you.....best of luck to ya'.....

Answer 5

Let me get this straight -- you have an apartment with your grandma and a MAID? I hope you know how LUCKY you are to be so rich...

Anyway... Believe it or not, homesickness does lessen as time goes by. I think it's great that you miss your family so much! Soon, though, you'll feel more at home in your apartment and won't miss them so much. In the meantime, there's always the phone and email!

Answer 6

Your 13, you live with your grandma? That's kinda depressing. Call your mom and say, "Mom, I feel homesick. I just wanna go back. You are my mom and I want to have a better relationship with you than...this. Can I just go to a school nearby our home. I know you want the best for my education, but when I grow up I don't want to think that I didn't live with my mom when I was just 13."

Good luck...and I'm the same age as you!

Answer 7

talk to your mom about this. You are too young to be away from home. It won't matter how good the school is but it does matter how happy you feel and how well you do in school. If you are happy you can excel in education no matter where you go for school. You won't be happy being away from home.

Answer 8

aww dont worry, itll take a while to adjust but you'll be fine. you'll find new friends and new people and have fun. just get and IM and make sure ur family members have one 2 and u gys can chat all u want! =) ull do fine hon, dont sweat it.

Answer 9

Is there a chance for home schooling?

Answer 10

That is wrong, wrong. You should be with your Mom. Find another option....Bet Dr. Laura would set your Mom straight