I don't see the point of living anymore, I'm a cutter, and i stopped for a while but now I've gone back to it and don't know what to do. sometimes I think it's just easier to kill myself then go through this pain and misery. I am seeking counseling, my counselor is really good and can help me think things through rationally, and I'm on medication but nothing is working.
2007-07-07 16:10:06 · 17 answers · asked by macncheese27 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You are relying on counselor and meds but you missed one important element--YOU!
You must make the change and take mind over your impulses. If the meds aren't working, have them take you off of them, they could be making you feel worse.
Change your life by changing your mind and thinking rationally. You also need to get to the real reason you are trying to destroy yourself--that is a lack of self-esteem, self-worth, self-love and self-respect. Find out why.
You have a reason to live, you need to find out what you were meant to do here, everyone has an important purpose and that includes you too.
See how many times I've used the word YOU in my paragraphs...get the message?
2007-07-07 16:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your counselor is good, but you don't feel like it's helping it is really important to let your counselor know that. I promise you, it will not hurt their feelings. If it does, then you do not have a good counselor. The fact that you went back to cutting doesn't mean that you still have to be a cutter. You can have a relapse but it doesn't mean that you are destined to always cut. You can choose to stop that right now! DO NOT GIVE UP because it will not always be this way. You may have some tough times ahead but it in no way mean that this is how your life will always be. You must have faith in that. It sounds like you are just tired of fighting right now, but as you know, there are good days and bad days and you will have better days where you will wonder how you even thought that killing yourself could be the answer. Allow yourself time to get through these days and live to the next. Allow yourself to feel crummy because you know it won't last. And if you get to the point where you feel like you could actually do something to hurt yourself (you are thinking about how you would do it, you don't think you can stop yourself) you must promise me that you will call someone right away. Your counselor, a family member, a suicide hotline. Do NOT make that decision without talking to someone. Your depressed right now and your mind is playing tricks on you and trying to make you believe it's the only way out of the pain..it's not!
2007-07-07 23:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by Paula K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are currently seeking treatment call your counselor now. I'm sure they have an oncall service so you can talk to them in person.
Okay, so what skills are you going to use? Distract is good. Listen to some music. Clean organize all your cupboards, mindfully do the dishes, contribute to other by maybe making someone some cookies, go for a walk, look at the stars. Opposite to emothion: watch a stupid funny comedy.
You need to DISTRACT....do it now :)
2007-07-07 23:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by misskellieCMU 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why? Why do you feel so hopeless? You have to think about everyone you would hurt by killing yourself. They would be devastated.
You need to find you passion. I mean find something you love to do. Go volunteer somewhere, or just try something new. That will give a reason to wake up in the morning.
I believe we are all here for a reason. Our job is find out what that reason is. Find your reason. You owe the world and yourself that at least, right?
2007-07-07 23:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO U HAVE 2 CALM DOWN....!!!!k if u do sumthin 2 urself bleve me there r so many ppl in the world who care about u...seriously n u dun no half of them....jus close ur eyes relax pretend tha u r in a white room it completly closed but it makes u feel very safe...its the most beautiful place ever....only happy thoughts and memories can get in...get rid of all the negativity!!!think of all ur happy memories n dun evn let ur mind think of any of the bad thins...there r 2 sides 2 evry story...look at life from the brighter side!beleve me life is relli worth it!
2007-07-07 23:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by LALALALAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well having been depressed in the past, i can tell you that things will get better. don't kill yourself, it's not the answer. think of all your friends and family who love you and would miss you terribly if you did.
i don't know exactly what to tell you but there IS a reason you came into this world. you may not know why right now, but don't you want to find out?
2007-07-07 23:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by fallingstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been there plenty of times. i wasn't a cutter though... i was a pill-popper. i actually OD'd on Zoloft when i was sixteen. yeah... that'd be the anti-depressent. haha. nothing was helping me at all and the anti-depressents were making me more depressed.
here's what i have to ask you: are you still a teenager? if so, then seriously, don't do anything that is going to be harmful. because yeah, teen years SUCKKKKKK... but once you're done being all hormonal and crazy and bipolar/depressed, life does get a purpose. it's a little fruity... but yeah. i'm really glad i didn't die when i od'd... i got sent to the hospital and they pumped my stomach and the dr. treated me like shyt, and i was PISSED that i was alive... but now i'm glad. i met somebody who made life worth living, and now we're married and have a little girl on the way.
counselors are just there to get paid. i had three different ones. hated all of them. as nice as they were, all they did was shove me on pills and make me talk about everything i didn't want to talk about.
for me, writing about things on a piece of paper helped me more than they did. i wrote about every positive thing that happened to me (like sketching something that i really liked... or talking to somebody who i thought was a bytch but turned out to be pretty nice, etc...) and kept them in a little notebook, then all the negative things i kept in another notebook. there was really no point to it, and i ended up throwing them all away once i moved out of the house, but they helped me a lot.
i guess just find that something that makes you glad to exist. maybe something artistic makes you smile... singing, learning to play the guitar, listening to music, drawing, painting, whatever... you get what i'm saying? those kinds of things... even if you suck at them... will make you feel better. :) also looking at the color yellow/orange. lol.
i hope you get better soon.
don't try to kill yourself, only 1 in 14 attempts are actually successful... and believe me, waking up in a room of four white walls with tacky pastel paintings on them and a doctor basically saying he shouldn't have saved you because you don't deserve to live, is the WORST feeling in the world. especially if all your friends find out.
take it from me.
2007-07-07 23:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by termite choking on the splinters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try calling your councellor and if you can't get a hold of her write her a letter instead of cutting. It might help talking about it or writing it all down on paper
2007-07-08 01:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is a cutter?
Believe me- years from now you will look back on all this and laugh. Life is strange. thank god.
2007-07-07 23:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by ditdit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See self harm treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 4.
2007-07-08 02:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋