Sex between a man and a woman is right, why is it wrong outside of marriage?

Answer 1

Sex outside of marriage is wrong for a couple of reasons - but mostly because it disregard's God's plan for families - The act of sex is primarilly for procreation - God's plan is for us to be married and provide a father and mother for a child.

Further, the intimacy of sex deepens the marriage covenant - it is something that is humbling for some, committing for others - it confirms the trust and commitment in the marriage covenant.

Having sex outside of marriage disregards the marriage covenant, belittles/cheapens the act, and defiles the family concept. It's insulting to God.

Answer 2

The real question you should be asking is why YOU think it is wrong outside of marriage. Chances are it's because you were raised in a household that considered it "wrong" to have sex before you were married. In reality, there are no rules about when you can have sex (assuming of course that both parties are consenting and of age). Only you can decide what is right and wrong as far as sex goes. You shouldn't let others beliefs---even your parents'---dictate your actions.

On a side note, the fact that you say that sex between a man and a woman is "right" is appalling. If two men or two women want to have sex with one another, who are you to say that is "wrong"?

Also, to those who say that sex causes STD's, maybe you should take a sex ed class and use a condom. Just a thought...

Answer 3

I don't see anything wrong. I'm not married, but have been in a commited relationship for a long time, and we have sex together. So if this is a sin, fine. That is according to your beliefs I'm taking it. I am monogomous. Not permiscuous. My girlfriend and I have decided we don't want to get married, but our sex life is great. We have been happy. I don't know where the hell do these people say it is wrong, and I don't care where in the bible. It is just a book to me. If it is considered wrong. Why is it my girlfriend and I are happy together. We don't argue, and don't cheat on each other. There is no despair. I think the religous people are full of it!
It's people like them who disgust me, because in order to be accepted in their society, I must follow their rules.

Answer 4

If you strictly adhere to the Bible, it says it is a sin called fornication. If you are married and you go out and find someone else to have sex with, it is called adultery.
Fry me but, I'm a sinner and I don't think it is wrong but you stand the risk of getting disease or getting pregnant if you don't use protection. Also you may run into someone who does not respect you or even hurts you. Sometimes you even feel used and thrown away. It's like a moral issue and I'm not supposed to say nothing is wrong with it, so you didn't hear it from this old sinner. Rev. TomCat

Answer 5

Hi ^^
If you are asking for a Christian point of view..Then Let me see if I can shine some light on the subject. The Catholic Church were not the only church that said this people, sigh. Allot of churches enforce it..What really was written about this matter was..

But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 1Cor 7:9

It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality {4} that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, {5} not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; {6} and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. {7} For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. {8} Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.

1 Th 4:3-8

That is the teaching out of the Bible its self. Most ALL churches talk about this.. Again not just the catholic (The Catholic church has more of an influence and is more in the eye of the public, and are looked to for many answers to questions) are just more out spoken in matters of impurity(of all kinds) then most other churches and are a larger part of the Body of Christ.

If you are talking as a secular person. Then why would you see anything wrong with it? You would not be walking or breathing in the ways of the Lord. So does this mean the law does not apply to you. Indeed it would.

Scientific studies indicate that relationships that involve pre-marital sex fail. A relationship that starts with sex usually last only 2-3 years. A marriage usually runs into trouble in 3-5 years. If a couple have sex prior to marriage, it may start to fade just when the marriage troubles start, the strong sexual attraction may not be there when the couple needs it most.

Sex before marriage changes your future in so many ways!! There are negative risks both spiritually and physically

If you have sex before marriage you will never know whether the relationship is based on a true "kinship" with that person or just sex.

Love waits. Your relationship should be able to grow and thrive without sex. I encourage you to develop a relationship that does not depend on sex for oneness.

Sometime in your future you will really regret having sex before you're married, if you should go ahead and do it. You are going to do what you want to do but just know, without a doubt, it is true that sex before marriage will hurt you inside.

Sex is like a beautiful gift. It's only one special gift that should not be wasted on just a love fling

I feel that preserving virginity of mind and feelings until you present your body as a gift to the person you marry.

Hope this helps you ^^

Answer 6

"Sex is a pain in the butt" says my friend.
"You're doing it wrong" says I.

Sex is fine outside marriage. I had sex before I got married so I'd know if was going to regret getting married if you know what I mean.

I think it could be wrong if either of the people involved are in another relationship that has anything like commitment to it, but it's like abortion or joining the military, it's a personal choice and anyone stupid enough to tell you that you're wrong for your choice doesn't deserve the respect of your attention.

Answer 7

Very few things in life offer us as much fullfillment and joy as does sex. It is also a gift from God to procreate. This pinnacle of satisfaction is something that should be shared with a spouse. Someone who is connected to you spiritually and mentally. To treat sex as a self gratifying act is to lower it's true essence. If sex outside of marriage is common to somone, what can that person offer "the love of their life"? Sex outside of marriage is merely a contest to see who gets the highest or who lasts the longest. Sex with a spouse is a private, special, committing moment when they not only unite their lives to each other, but they unite their bodies as well.

Answer 8

But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.

Galatians 5:18

Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness ,

Galatians 5:19

Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies ,

Galatians 5:20

Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

Galatians 5:21

if you prevail you works of the flesh you will not inherit the kingdom of GOD

Answer 9

Outside of a marriage people lust, and do not love each other like people do inside a marriage. There is no commitment between the two people and God. When people get married in a church, it is God as their witness that makes their marriage blessed!

Answer 10

I dunno...I didnt find anything wrong about it....I thought it was pretty right...everything we did was very right so all I can say about sex outside of marriage is...whatever