My brother is thinking of joining the military and wants to divorce his wife and try to get custody of his 2 year old son. They only got married because she was pregnant but she neglects their son and refuses to get a job, do anything around the house, or do anything except sleep and lie around the house all day. My brother thinks joining the military would be a good way to get away from her, start a good career, and get a college education. If he leaves the child with his wife he knows he can't trust her to take care of the baby without constant supervision. Would he be able to have his son live with him on base after he finishes basic training? Also, would he still have the same chances of being deployed overseas if he is a single parent? If anyone has any information they can offer it would be a great help. Thanks in advance.
2007-07-07 15:43:17 · 9 answers · asked by Michelle S 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
if he divorces first, he will be considered a single parent and CANNOT enlist. if he divorces after being in, he can seek custody and be allowed to stay in.
single parenthood is NOT a reason to be exempt from deployment, he would be required to have a Family Care plan in place at all times to ensure the child will be cared for while he is gone..and he WILL be gone at times. Failure to provide one is grounds for discharge
2007-07-08 03:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to have a "family care plan" and have provisions for custody and care of you children. As others have mentioned you will not be able to be with your kids during boot camp. Maybe or maybe not during your other training. It will vary among service schools and which branch of the service. Usually new recruits in A school (Navy) or AIT (Army) aren't allowed to bring their families. You may be able to see them on weekends but you will be in training and that will be the military priority. Expect the first 6 months to a year not being able to live with or see your family daily. (For the first 9 weeks or so not at all.) One more thing to consider is the father of your children may try to take you to court and win custody even tempo ray because you will be away. Jusk keep in mind single moms do serve the military. It is a hard way to go. You will have a lot of responsibility that you need to consider. I put a military resouce link about family care plans so you can understand them better.
2016-05-21 01:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him join first and then divorce and get custody. He wont be able to come in as a single parent with primary custody.
Also when he divorces have him make sure the part about getting the other parents permission to move with the child is taken out. My husband had this removed from his divorce decree adn we are so HAPPY he did, because he's been PCSed twice since his divorce and that was one less thing he had to worry about (he has custody.)
2007-07-07 16:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by Just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many single parents in the military. Being a single parent doesn't get you out of being deployed. You have to have a "family care plan" in your service record at all times. It shows who will take over for dad when he is deployed on a moment's notice....maybe dad's parents?
Dad can put his name on the base housing list and take his chances like everyone else that wants base housing, but most likely he would have to live in town and have concrete sitter plans.
2007-07-07 15:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by jonn449 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. He will be deployed as usual. The military will require him to fill out a family care plan. It states who will take care of the child while he is away. this is a requirement of single parents and also of dual-military parents.
2007-07-07 15:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lori M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many single parents but he would need someone to leave his son with during deployment & a will in case the worst happens. He needs to be very specific about the beneficiary to the life insurance policy. My son just had one of his men die (accidently not war) & his chippy girlfriend had had him name her so she got $200,000 & his parents who raised him, paid for his burial & etc. got nothing. Your brother's wife sound like a gold digger to me.
It is a hard life on families but very rewarding too. I am very proud of my son.
2007-07-07 15:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a very bad plan to me. Tell your brother to rethink things. It would be more realistic to stick around and go for joint custody, then take the kid every minute he can. If the mother is that flaky, she'll probably let the father have him a lot so she doesn't have to deal with him
Good luck.
2007-07-07 15:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
after basic training & a.i.t. his son could live with him on base, so you would prolly have to watch his son till than, and with the deployment chances it actually depends on his mos
2007-07-07 17:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by poeticallypathic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! in fact, you gotta be kidding!
Being a single parent on active diuty with an infact or toddler with you, no, .forget it.
2007-07-07 15:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by TedEx 7 · 0⤊ 6⤋