how to help a fat person loose weight?

Question

my sister was really skinny last year, but when she went to college she started eating alot and not doing anything. and she keeps gaining weight, everytime i see her she looks like she put on 20 pounds. its really sad to see her go through this transformation and if i dont convince her to do something about it, she will gain so much weight that she cant loose it.

she has some serious motivation problems and is really lazy and doesnt do anything except sleep and eat and lay around and work. i want to convince her to start working out but its really hard to do that. cause my mom tried too, she told her she would give her the rights to her car if she joined a swim team and swam everyday, but my sister hasnt gone once, but tells my mom that she does. she works llike 10 hours a day as a waitress and is doesnt have alot of time to work out. i cant think of what to do except tell her ill buy her something if she looses weight. cause shes a serious spend aholic and is in alot of debt. help

Answer 1

I agree with JustAchick. Your sister might have a depression problem. It's really hard to keep motivated when your whole life is changing in college and you have so many things to look out for that you could get overwhelmed. Some people do experience this and it's really REALLY tough.
Please don't ever call her 'fat'. It's hurtful and when it comes from your own family, it hurts twice as much. Don't tell her to lose weight - tell her to be healthier. Sit her down and tell her that you're willing to do anything to help her. She needs to know that someone cares enough to help her in every way, and won't shun her just because of her weight. Tell her that she's smart, that you're proud of her coz she's in college, tell her that she's an awesome and caring sister.
If she doesn't want to swim, leave it out. Swimming can be intimidating for someone who has put on weight. They're constantly being reminded of how they looked like before in their bathing suit and if they don't look as good, it could be a blow to their self-esteem.
Perhaps you could go jogging with her? And while you jog, talk about fun stuff, so she'd be motivated to jog more with you. Or play basketball, or any active game that she enjoys. She needs to be reminded that she can still feel good while taking care of her body.
I wish you all the best, and really, really, really hope that your sister will feel much better soon. I'm glad she has a brother that really wants to help her. =)
Good luck!!!

Answer 2

That's what they call the "freshman 15". There's a large number of college freshman who pick up 15 to 20 pounds in their first year of college, especially if they live on campus. It's nice that you care for your sister's health, but give the girl a break. She's in school full-time and works a waitressing job. She must be exhausted. Adjusting to a new life-style (such as college and being away from home) is never an easy task. Once she ajusts and gets comfortable with her new life, if she still isn't trying to lose weight, then you can start to drop hints about it. As for right now, leave her be.

Answer 3

She needs to find something she enjoys that can help her get into shape. Since she likes to sleep and is lazy, maybe yoga would be good for her. It's relaxing and a sleepy atmosphere, maybe suggest that. It would be a gradual change in her weight, of course, nothing drastic. But since she is in college, it's really up to her about the eating. Yoga can also help give you energy and stamina to help with her waitressing job and school!

Maybe you should talk to her friends, like people she sees everyday. If you can convince one of them to go to yoga/the gym/swimming with her, then she will be motivated. Make sure the friend also helps her eat right (maybe if she has a roommate). If she has someone to do it with, it will be more fun and less of a chore.

Hope I helped!

Answer 4

It sounds like your sister is battling depression. That can happen a lot, especially when you go away to college. Your whole life changes and sometimes you just don't know how to handle it. First of all, don't refer to her as "fat." It's a demeaning word to use to someone you care about. Second, just let her know you're there for her. She knows she's gained weight. She doesn't need you to remind her. Invite her for a walk with you, maybe she'll want to talk. Offer to cook a healthy meal for her when she's home. Most importantly, just let her know you love her. That's the best way out of depression. Once she's got that cured, the weight part will be much easier! =)

Answer 5

In college? Young people can lose weight faster by upping the water intake and taking a walk in the morning. Suggest that she get up earlier and walk the campus (morning as opposed to evening. . .got to keep in mind safety). Buy a pedometer and get her to walk more. Organized sports may be too much of an obligation. Walking is cheap and easy. . .she could even walk extra steps at work.

Answer 6

The best I've seen out there is a book I just finnished reading. It has everything for your body and what programs to do to get the effects you want. Has illustrations too so you can follow and meals etc.. all good for the body.

I recommend Sly moves You can buy it at amazon.com

Definately worth it in my opinion.

Good luck

Answer 7

sounds like depression to me. She should see her doctor right away. Drastic weight changes are a sure sign. Maybe something happened at college?? A trauma, or something that is affecting her deeply. Best of luck. You are a nice brother to care so much. She needs your support and love.

Answer 8

you take the damn twinky out of her had. Jerk her off the couch and tell her to run for her damn life. Because as an EMT it really is sad to see that most of my patients are overweight people who have heart problems,can't breath or who are diabetic. She really needs to be careful.

Answer 9

Buy her the book "Body for Life" hopefully she may pick it up and read it. Just tell er that you are concerned about her health and for her to read it if she wants.

Answer 10

It isn't up to you. It's not the kind of thing you can do for someone.

Are you planning to tel her that you think she's lazy? That ought to go over REAL well.
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