of one of my college house-mates. We still live in the same town and haven't seen each other in a year. Is she just inviting me to be polite? I would rather just go out for coffee with her. discuss
2007-07-07 14:42:16 · 16 answers · asked by Jennifer S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're making a mountain out of a molehill. Go if you want, she invited you. That means, polite or not, that she wants you there.
2007-07-07 14:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married this weekend and invited one of my friends from college. We haven't seen each other in over a year, due to new jobs and crazy schedules, but have kept in contact. I invited her because we were really close in college and I really felt like she should be there to celebrate with me. Some people on here said it could be because she wants money or a gift...I guess that could be true. However, I invited my friend because she is my friend and weddings are about celebrating. I'm not expecting anything from her because I know she doesn't have a lot...all I'm asking for is her presence because we have been through a lot together. She is coming and I am thrilled! Weddings are about celebrating with family and friends, especially those who you don't often get a chance to spend time with. I say it's up to you....go if you want and have a good time. She wouldn't have invited you if she didn't want you there. If you don't feel comfortable going, then send your regrets, ask her to get together for coffee, no big deal.
2007-07-07 17:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if she's just being polite or actually wants you there--if she's invited you, you can go...or not go. Actually, usually almost anyone can go to the wedding (even strangers can walk in); it's the reception that only those who the families (note I didn't say the bride & groom) invite and get an RSVP from that's more exclusive since amounts of food and such have to be arranged for. If you don't want to go, just return the RSVP saying you won't be attending (and you can slip a note in saying you'd love to go for coffee after she's settled into her married life).
2007-07-07 14:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to attend, then decline the invite. Don't get preoccupied with whether or not the invite is out of politeness - maybe she really thought a lot of you and even though you two haven't been in contact in a long time, she would like for you to be a part of this special event. If you're really bugged about, give her a call and ask her out to lunch and talk about it. You might be surprised what you find out.
2007-07-07 16:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of sounds like you haven't seen OR talked to her in a year. Just doesn't make sense you would even be invited. I would just politely decline if you don't feel like going. Just RSVP on the invitation that you have previous commitments.
2007-07-07 16:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea she's def inviting you to be polite... um id say go and hang in the back... buy her a cheap gift or a gift card...enjoy some free cake and take a pic. bail out before you can settle into the crowd good.
2007-07-07 16:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a few things:
Maybe she thinks you'll give her more money than it costs for the invite and some food. Or you won't come but will send a check.
Maybe she doesn't have a ton of friends and he does.
Maybe she really wanted to stay connected but was real busy.
2007-07-07 14:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by Joe T 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She might be a little too busy for coffee if she's planning a wedding. Just decide if you like her enough to buy a nice gift and go, otherwise send your regrets.
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2007-07-07 14:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kacky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sounds like shes being polite. Why not decline going to the wedding but ask her out for lunch to catch up.
2007-07-07 14:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say but if not contact in a year I would say she may just see $ or Gift written on you. I would go if you want to but don't feel like you have to go. also no gift is required. But a card is nice. Ask her to call after she is settled in and go to lunch or coffee
2007-07-07 15:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by littlerascal711 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋