Ok, me and this girl have been going out for 6 months. However, we never (very literally) get to see eachother anymore. Why? Because her parents hate me. Although her and I aren't going to have sex, we arents going to do anything inappropriate, they absolutely refuse to let her see me. They don't even know me! (well) Can anyone give me any advice?
2007-07-07 13:32:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are both the same age, 15...
I am always respectful of her parents
and I have never done anything inapropriate with my girlfriend
2007-07-08 04:30:04 · update #1
How old is she? Parents have the responsibility to protect their children and this is what they are doing for whatever reason. Show respect for their decision as to do otherwise will only confirm their fears of you.
Are they of a different culture? If so, they most likely have a different view of what is appropriate and what is not for their daughter.
As I said be respectfull of her parents and their decision. Is it possible for you and their daughter to talk with them about wanting to see each other?
How do you dress? Some of todays 'cool' fashion can spook parents as they may think you are into the 'alternative' lifestyle of today. For me, I hate young men not removing their caps indoors. Old fashioned yes, taking a hat off indoors is a sign of respect to those inside for most people, especially parents.
Hope this helps a bit.
2007-07-07 13:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to give you a real helpful answer without knowing the ages of you and your girlfriend. If you are both under the age of eighteen, you are not adults and your parents are responsible for each of your well-being and safety.
Many parents worry about their daughters becoming sexually active and then pregnant at a young age, and that may be a major reason behind their distrust of all guys and especially of you because of your relationship to their daughter.
You can ask to talk to both of them in a mature and adult manner, just so that they can see how responsible you are, but if they continue to say no, than you are going to have to abide by their decision.
If the two of you attempt to sneak around behind her parents back, you will get caught and then her parents will be more convinced that they are correct in their opinion of you.
If you are truly meant to be together with this young lady, you can wait until you are both of age, and then start a relationship.
I wish you the best.
2007-07-07 21:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a real answer and one you dont want to hear. Its called patience. If you care for her you will go the distance. If her parents dislike you it will take time and you need to prove yourself. Time to buck up and start developing that responsibility like maybe getting a part time job. Showing how much you care by giving you girl a gift. Show her parents you mean business and you are not one of those run of the mill teenagers.
2007-07-07 20:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i went through the same thing only i was the girl. It is hell trying to make your parents like your boyfriend maybe if there was a way your mom and dad and you could talk to her mom and dad just to let them know that your a good guy and come from a good home. thats all there really scared of that the guy is trash and no for there lil girl. so try that it may really work. Good luck
2007-07-07 20:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon 912 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first question i need to ask is how old are you? and how old she is? it could be the age difference here. alot of times its just a mom and dad thing. they want to make sure there daughter doesnt get hurt. no matter how good you are to her. it never seems good enough for them. just give them time. as long as you are treating her right then they should come around and start accepting you as they will find out that you make her happy. good luck
2007-07-07 20:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should respect their wishes. you may like this girl, (alot) but cant have a good relationship unless you 2 really get quality time together. Maybe one day you guys could get back together, but from what it sounds like, its too difficult.
Good Luck and Best Wishes
<3 Miss Lady Bug
2007-07-07 20:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Lady Bug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your girlfriend to let you talk to her parents with her there and then ask them how you can gain their trust. Such as spending time with your girlfriend and with them, like a game night or order pizza and a movie. Ask them for a chance to get to know them and them to know you. If you act mature, they may be more willing to let you see their daughter. & don't forget to say yes sir and yes m'am. That always helps.
Good luck
2007-07-07 20:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Gramma Teresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. Do you really like this girl? I wouldn't give up! My parents hated my boyfriend now I am married to him, we have been together for eight years. They made it difficult for us to see each other too but we managed to make things work. Does she want to continue with this relationship? If you really like her then I would just stick with it.
2007-07-07 20:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have a partner, you also join a family. I suggest you forget her and look elsewhere. The world is full of girls with parents who won't abuse you.
2007-07-07 20:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to plan times when shes at a friends house and there going to the mall or her Friends are cool and let you come over to see her for a little bit.... people i know do that all the time!!!
2007-07-07 20:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by ced 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋