In Colossians 3:13 it says to give others as God has forgiven you. My ex-boyfrinend has hurt me in the worst way. I am trying to forgive him. I want to firgive him. Once I do forgive him does this mean that whenever I see him I have to be friends with him as if nothing has ever happened? We live in a small town so I bump into him and his family from time to time? I don't want to be impolite. I wish I could let go of the anger I have towards him but I am not sure how. I am not sure how I should behave towards him once I forgive him? What is the christian thing to do?
2007-07-07 13:26:02 · 12 answers · asked by kystik83 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It does not mean that you just suddenly pick up your life with this man where you left off when you forgive him.
To forgive someone means that in your heart you hold no anger, no hate, no malice. You have released him from this bond which occured between the two of you when he hurt you. You are allowing yourself not to be held down, and allowing him the same.
This does not mean that you have to act as his best friend. You should be nice, which is what you will desire to do if you really have forgiven him. But you do not have to extend it any farther then that.
You need to allow the anger to leave you - allow G-d to take it from you. Ask G-d for help and allow him to help you. Once you do that you will know what to do with the anger. But only when you release the anger will you be able to forgive. Don't force yourself to, let it come in it's own time.
2007-07-07 13:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He did something wrong ! in his defence ,hes an idiot, what else could he do ? just teasing,, always remember ..... There but for the grace of god go I,, he may not be a very good person but it isn't because he wants to be bad ,, he only wants to be happy ,, and his thinking isn't the best ,he didn't think about how this would affect you he only thought about what this would do for him ..TOO bad ,he messed up a good thing, I feel sorry for him he lost something valuable might as well have been a diamond ,,, but his loss is you husbands gain....And he'll be thankfull that the idiot was an idiot and he'll think you're neet for having forgiven so graciously the mistakes he would have made if not for the grace of god..
2007-07-07 20:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You forgive in your heart, but that doens't mean you have to be buddy buddy with him,
For example, if someone such as your ex bf, beats you up, through Christ you can forgive him, but your not expected to be best buds.
You just harbor no anger, he doesn't get to you and you live as if he doesn't control you. Thats forgiveness not shaking hands and talking. Although, that would be good, but however, not a safe option.
2007-07-07 20:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mulereiner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard, but the best thing you can do IS forgive and forget. I know it's hard, but anger breeds more anger and then pretty soon everyone in your tiny town will be angry about SOMETHING!
Trust yourself to do the right thing if this doesn't work!
2007-07-07 20:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sadie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is an agnostic view-point, so skip it if you don't care.
Hatred and anger are good things that actually do bring inner peace, despite popular (incorrect) opinion. Trying to repress anger is worthless and detrimental. The sensible thing to do would be to "give him the cold shoulder", so to speak.
2007-07-07 20:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Keyring 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with Venus Candy. You will feel much better if you let things go... I know it's not easy, because I have been there too. Pray, and stay strong.
2007-07-07 20:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive him and move on. Best revenge is living your life.
Although I will say is what he has done to you is something against the law, i.e. rape or assult, you need to report it.
2007-07-07 20:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't say you have to be friends with everyone. Just don't hold any hatred in your heart towards him. Being polite is just fine. Slashing his tires would not be...
2007-07-07 20:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Epitome_inc 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not everyone deserves that, but it will give you inner peace, try to accept you can't control what happened and let it go
2007-07-07 20:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
forgive him but dont forget... u dont have to be two faced just forgive him.
2007-07-07 20:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by ;) 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋