My aunt has always had a troublesome life. (too much detail to go into on her) Over the last 2 years things have gotten steadily worse. My cousin (her son) died in August 2005 just 2.5 months after our highschool graduation. She's always been an alcoholic but she wouldnt let anyone help her. Sometime last year she got with this 20 year old (shes like 32ish). They lost the house she was living in and moved herself, her bf, & her two kids in with my mom. My mom is going through alot because of her disability. My aunt and her bf quit there jobs after moving in with my mom so my mom had to get a job overnight at a hotel. She works all night and was going to a business school during the day. Anway neither of them have jobs, they smoke alot of pot, they have wrecked my moms house, they cant/wont pay for anything, they just lay around all the time. I think my aunt is on drugs or addicted to painkillers. I want to know if anyone knows of a way to help her. Suggestions welcome if not rude!
2007-07-07 13:23:11 · 7 answers · asked by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
O.. and my mom has told them to leave and they wont. They wont even do simple things like cut grass, dishes, wash clothes etc... and my aunt almost started a fire the other night, they've broken windows, etc etc etc...
So nice suggestions on how we can approach her and help her are welcome. Please help if you can!
2007-07-07 13:24:33 · update #1
My mom has a heart of gold... its her little sister and she loves her... I dont think she'd call the cops. But I can talk to her about it. Also my aunt has two boys; 11 and 16 should my mom keep them? Is there anything else we can do?
2007-07-07 13:47:30 · update #2
Well,I know she's your aunt but maybe it's her boyfriend.I bet your aunt has a hard of gold too but she's probably to sad to show it.Maybe you need to tell her that her son is watching over her and he wouldn't want her to be depressed all her life.And she deserves much better than her boyfriend.He should get a job and help her in her time of need.If he were really a boyfriend he wouldn't have been setting a good example for the kids.Oh,and keep the children your aunt just lose the boyfriend.I hope your aunt will feel better with the comfort of her loved ones.
2007-07-07 15:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by Adrianna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a real grown up issue. First, let me tell you that I was raised by an aunt and uncle --- my mom just didn't want me. I was bounced around a lot before landing at my aunt's house. I'm now an old lady and have no regrets --- I say all this to tell you that things can and will work out if you give them a chance. First, try to resolve the issues with your grandparents, and if you still want to move to your aunt's house, they may be willing to help you - honesty, although tough at times, is the very best way. Secondly, of course, ask your aunt and tell her of your wishes. She may be able to help you to either feel better about living where you do now or she may just provide transportation for you to move in with her. Or both households will want you to feel better and will help you. I think everyone gets depressed at one time or another. However, there is nothing in our lives which is worth suicide ------ all things can be resolved. You may want to talk about this with your school counselor if this note has not helped. Best luck to you and know that you will be OK and you will be happy.
2016-04-01 02:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't want to call the police, have you thought about going to legal aid and seeing if you can get some help. I'm sure that she could get an order and have them removed from the home. I know that she's family but you have to say "No" especially if it's affecting you and your mother's lives. Something has to be done. It sounds like you and your mom are losing out "big time" on this deal. Your aunt and boyfriend need to be forced out. Maybe the boys can stay with you or other relatives. Your mom sounds like a great lady but this really puts a lot of pressure on a family. For her sake and yours, if worse comes to worse, call the police before you lose everything.
2007-07-07 15:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by W♥ Knit Twit ♥P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dealing with family in these situations is tough. I agree with a previous suggestion with calling the police. If the mortage/deed or whatever is in your mom's name and not the sisters, they can be removed immediately. My philosophy is you can not help anyone who does not want to help themselves. As far as taking on the role of your aunt's children...... they are at the age to where they can at least make the decision if they want to be with their mother. That should be taken into serious consideration, or else there is a big risk of the children turning on your mother later.
Your mother should be commended for sticking by her sister this long!
Good Luck
2007-07-07 14:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by survivor 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I think she needs to call the police. At this point, your mom seems to have exhausted every other realistic approach. They're living an easy life now, and of course they don't want to give it up. You mother is enabling them to live a life of pure laziness, and they are taking advantage of her kindness and patience. They are not your mother's responsibility, no matter what they went through. It's time for them to leave.
2007-07-07 13:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anniekd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File a complaint with the police to have them removed from the premises. They are users . If in fact they are druggies have you mom report that because she does not want that in her house and if they get caught with it then it is their problem and not your moms. If they get busted selling or anything Mom could lose her home for being an accomplish thats why I say call and get it taken care of upfront.
2007-07-07 13:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by Pengy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops and have them put into rehab . Good Luck.
2007-07-07 13:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by Icyelene R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋