So, I am pregnant and my exboyfriend is a complete jerk....he hasn't spoken to me in weeks because "he doesn't know how to handle alll of this???" Basically is is very immature...and I am old enough to face reality as well as his parents. His parents say they will be there for me and their grandchild....but what in the world kind of parents let their son get away this? They aren't holding him responsible??? It takes two to tango but chicks get screwed..........
2007-07-07 13:14:48 · 13 answers · asked by the devil wore prada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you know..most guys reactions are to run. as soon as they hear pregnancy they run.. hopefully in the long run he wont be such an idiot and he will come to his sences. Its hard to find the perfect guy who wont run but..until then i wish you the best of luck. and congratulations!
2007-07-07 13:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by Very Very. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he doesn't want to be there for you now he probably won't be there when you really need him... let him go and don't hound him about his responsibilities as a father..because it is only prolonging the pain of how stupid he is...
i've been there done that.. i was 18 and got pregnant.. he decides he's not ready to be a father so he moves on.. he told me if i wanted to keep him i had to have abortion... guess what.. as hard as it was on me to go it alone i did.. i dumped him and went through 9 long months alone.. i cried alot and ask myself why i allowed myself to get into this kind of adult situation.. but never did i ask myself if i should have an abortion..
My son is now 26 years old and has never saw the man who gave up on him before he ever knew him... my son is a very good young man who stands up for what he believes in.. and he has know that my husband wasn't his real father since he was a kid.. i've tried to get him to meet his real father but he just tell me that he is nothing to him and its not gonna change the fact that he didn't want to be apart of his life... and is very happy and loving and caring without the man who help to make him..
So if your exboyfriend choses to take hiself out of the picture let him go and enjoy each and every day with your baby.. show him love and remember each smile and laugh and when he is older he will never have any doubts about how much he was loved... you will be just fine without him if he doesn't change his mind... i didn't have anyone to turn to while i was pregnant and spent many nights alone crying .. i thought my life was over but you know what.. it wasn't... my son fulfilled that whole that was kicked into my heart.. and i know that i did the best thing for him.. i still have no regrets in that situation i would do exactly as i did all over again if i were in the same shoes... love your baby with ALL your heart and let the jerk go on and live his life.. because what comes around goes around.... good or bad.. ok.. good luck .. and congra's on the baby.... happeniss and love is the key to having a wonderful family...
2007-07-14 19:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by still young 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not a guy, I am a single mom and I was 19 when i had my son. I was worried that I would not be able to ever find a guy who would want to date a girl with a baby. I dated one guy for a year when my son was 1 and we just didn't work out. The next guy after him straight up told me he didn't like to date women with babies. That one didn't work out either!! But now my son is 5 and I met a man who was divorced and has a 3 year old little boy. Its like it was meant to be! You sound like a great person and I am sure the right guy will come along and love you and your daughter! Good Luck!
2016-05-21 00:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad reality for some to live. My sister went through the same thing. Her son is now 1. He calls every so often but she refuses to talk to him for the simple fact he ran when he found out about her pregnancy and asked not to be on the birth certificate. Ask him if he wants to be on the certificate and if he says no, then you will have to go it alone with the help of family.
His parents have no say in what he does, I know that sucks but they really don't. They can give him there two cents but it's up to him with what he wants to do with it.
I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through this, all the best!!
2007-07-12 14:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality can be real kick in the @##, yeah it takes two to tango and you tangoed with a jerk, be thankful for the support of the grandparents, many females don't even get that. Count your blessings. God Bless.
2007-07-11 22:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there ...done that...if he doesn't want to be there then you don't need that kind of person in your life or the babies, i don't care if he's the dad. move on someone else will love you and the baby. you can't force him to love his child, you can give him the chance but if he decides no, then it's no...don't let him be one of those in and out dads, it's either all the time dad or none of the time dad. thats not healthy for the baby. i had to make that decision, what was better for my baby, begging the dad to be there and he wouldn't...and then show up out of the blue sometimes when he felt like it, and has never gave me one penny child support. so i told him to never come back, we didn't need him...we did fine with out him. i had plenty family there for me and eventually i met my husband who loved me and my child and he's the daddy now and we are very happy. you have to be strong for your baby. Good luck. and don't play his little games, take it from someone who's been there.
2007-07-12 17:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the way it is.Could be worse his parents could be like him.At least his parents are there for you and their grandchild.Make sure you get your child support and he should be paying your doctor bills now.and helping in other ways.But,he isn't so you've made your bed.Let the parents help now you need it.Later you can Analise what kind of an impression they would be on the baby.People can change and learn maybe they will.If not you can limit the time they spend with your little one.
2007-07-14 15:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he DOESN'T KNOW how to handle it. It did take the two of you to achieve this. Its not fair to hold him totally responsible . However, you do have options. Weigh all your options and see what would benefit the most.
2007-07-14 11:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jackofalltrades216 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like another good reason to get to know someone better before you sleep with him. You picked him.
It's not a good thing but guys are immature, so decide how you want to handle it and move ahead.
2007-07-07 14:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be there for you. Any guy can get a girl pregnant. But it takes a man to be a father.
2007-07-07 13:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by andy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋