Me and my husband have been married 4 years. This is kinda embarrassing me for to ask but is it a sin to have kinky sex? I'm talking about with your husband and only him and him only with me? I don't want to lose him. We are both Christians and trust in God and Jesus but my husband loves the kinkiness. It's not bad or anything but I just don't want to lose my salvation trying to please my husband. Please don't laugh at this question. It's really bothering me.
2007-07-07 13:07:01 · 20 answers · asked by renne o 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't know if you would call it kinky or not, but it's more of erotic massaging. I just start feeling guilty because I like it. Thats way I stay confused
2007-07-07 13:21:53 · update #1
Nothing in the marriage bed is prohibited except for adultery, so no ménage à trois.
UPDATE for Jonatan: Read the Song of Solomon. God intended for us to enjoy each other sexually, not only to procreate.
2007-07-07 13:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
This question has bound up a lot of people. Basically You are married and therefore you and your partner are one in the sight of God. What you do behind close doors is your business as long as it is only with your partner. What we might think is kinky is a normal part of life in other countries. I would say follow after peace. If you are at peace, enjoy what you are doing and it's only with your partner. There is No condemnation.
2007-07-07 20:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Snacky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you mean by kinky. Basically I would say that if sex with your husband is the kind of sex that can result in getting pregnant, I would say it's ok. A baby can't come out of your mouth or your butt. A vagina was made for a penis. If your sex involves that then it's okay. Oh, yes, God made sex for married people to enjoy. It's not just for making children.
2007-07-07 20:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
And don't forget everything else is a sin too and that you're damned no matter what. Besides, aren't you supposed to hate your husband and love Jesus instead? Why would you want to keep around someone you hate? I guess the guilt might be bad, especially if you had kids, but with Christianity you get to feel guilty about everything! Oh, except loving Jesus (to the exclusion of your husband, parents, and anyone else for that matter). Some exclusions may apply: please disregard earlier applicable rules or regulations, petitions for forgiveness may or may not be accepted, only 144,000 served, so get it while supplies last, odds of winning out of 10,000,000,000 is 144:10000000 or 0.00144%, provided you give the correct name of God and worship on the correct days in the correct direction. Good luck!
2007-07-07 20:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by urukorcs 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are married, want to partake in "kinky sex" and have accepted God as your Lord as Savior, then there is NO WAY you can lose your salvation. The only way for that to happen is to deny Him. God created sex for married couples to enjoy and to give life. So in conclusion, HAVE FUN GIRL! =)
2007-07-07 20:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kori spelled backwards is Irok 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God made sex for a husband and wife to enjoy together. If you and your husband both consent to it, and you are legally married and are only having sex with each other, then no, it is not a sin. The bible says that the womans body belongs to the man and in turn, the mans body belongs to the woman. Your bodies belong to each other for your pleasure.
2007-07-07 20:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by biggestjesusfan, † Cat P.W. † 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say whatever goes on between you and your husband sexually is between you two and God--as long as neither of you is abused, and you both enjoy what you're doing, and you're not physically harming yourselves.
However, if you feel that your husband's sexual requests are humiliating to you, he should not coerce you into doing those things. Tell him what you like and don't like, and have him do the same for you. Work it out together, with God's blessing.
2007-07-07 20:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a complicated question for this again falls on the beliefs based on where you are located in the world. This confusion is not yours but of organized religions and of state leaders which dominate the country where you live. Mankind does not even begin to understand what is right or wrong and thus should never pass judgment on your own personal beliefs and decisions. Your own heart and not organized religions should always guide you through life. I hope this helps. Best Regards, M.G.S.
2007-07-07 20:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mettle Gnosis Seraph 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Despite what many church leaders may try to tell you, your sex life is your business. What good is a religion that would make you feel this way about having a physical relationship with your husband?
2007-07-07 20:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, and you may disagree, but I do not believe you can lose your salvation. Second as long as it's just the two of you and you aren't looking at porn I don't think there is anything that is off limits. So have fun!
2007-07-07 20:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by johnmckinleyphillips 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋