My son has stopped coming to church with me. He flat refuses to come to bible study and when I talk to him about the love of Jesus he gets a glazed expression in his eye. Could he be on drugs?
2007-07-07 13:05:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He's 22 years old
2007-07-07 13:11:08 · update #1
That glazed "expression" you talk of, that is rather impossible, but what is happening is he goes into a catatonic state when continually forced to listen to what he has already deciphered as BS.
2007-07-07 13:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by Edhelosa 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My son is 22 also. When he was 18, we started going to church. He was very rebellious at the time. However, I took him aside and informed him that I pay the mortgage, provide his food, pay for his schooling, the least he can do is give me an hour and a half a week. He asked me how I would feel if my mom forced me to go to church when I was 18. I told him that I wished she had. Perhaps I wouldn't have made all of the mistakes I've made in my life. He agreed, I was not angry with him, just honest. He goes now - about 3 weeks out of 4, has attended some of the men's conferences and breakfasts, but he doesn't do a study. A lot of men just don't. Just pray for him - you can never go wrong with prayer. katiefish <><
2007-07-08 04:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the root of the problem is that he is in sin. Sin is what makes us begin to behave differently - rejecting the Lord, etc.
It is difficult to attend church or bible study and not feel convicted when we are doing things we know are wrong.
It sounds as though your son would rather have whatever physical pleasure the sin brings than have a relationship with the Lord Yashua, at the moment.
The solution is not to badger him, trying to force your will upon him...but to pray and to stand firm in your convictions. Talk with him about your fears. He may tell you why he doesn't want to participate any more.
Could he be on drugs? Yes, he could be. The glazed expression you speak of is more likely a result of him tuning you out though.
2007-07-09 01:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Belize Missionary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter. I know what you are talking about. Don't jump to conclusions just yet about him being on drugs. Does he only get the glazed look when you talk to him about the Lord?
If that is so he may be not want to hear it. Don't get discouraged. Sometimes when he is sleeping neal down my his bedside and pray softly. It dosn't matter if he hears you or not. Keep shining you're light in Love. actions speak louder than words.
2007-07-07 16:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing interest in Jesus at this time doesn't mean that he is on drugs. He is questioning his beliefs. This is healthy. If he never questions his beliefs, then they can never truly be his own. It would only remain something that his mother taught him.
He is a grown man, and is old enough to decide for himself. Don't "parent" him in this anymore. Do pray for him, and stand by in case he asks you for advice or for your opinion. Tell him that you are open to talk with him about this whenever he wants. Make sure, if the time comes, that you listen as well as talk. Treat each other as adults.
2007-07-07 13:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well.. so what? Just because you happen to be christian dosent mean ur son must follow christianity. He kinda has a choice, and, if he was on drugs, it wouldnt just be when u mension jesus, most probably hes bored of hearing it over and over for 22 years of his life..
2007-07-07 13:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by mikeeboi1029 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son is 22 years old--an adult. He can do as he pleases. I have one that age also so I understand how trying this can be, but it's his life now to do with as he sees fit.
2007-07-07 13:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no he is not on drugs he is just bored with that path that you have chosen for him so just let him experanc life and religion and spirituality for himself
if it makes you feel better you can always gently encourage him to return to your faith but dont push it too hard because that will just push him away and may ruin your relationship
just accept him for what ever he decides and remember he will always be your son no matter what religion he chooses unless you choose to alienate him
good luck
2007-07-07 13:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by isisthewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 22?? What this means is he's thinking for himself. He's an adult. Let him make his own decisions. If your religion is really the truth and really the best, he'll figure that out for himself.
2007-07-07 13:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he's probably at that rebellious teenage state everyone seems to go through. He's probably just sick to death about hearing it. He'll probably return to the Church when he's older (might have to wait until he's settled down with a wife), just be patient, at this stage you might turn him off from the Church for a very long time.
2007-07-07 13:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋